The last name is wrong in multiple spots...and it seems so weird because she knew at one point, how to spell it - It's been on all our wedding stuff (invites and such.) It's close, but wrong!!!
She is having keepsakes made for us, her and my dad, and my husbands family (who will notice that their last name is misspelled!)
How do I say:
Thank you for putting together this wedding announcement, but kill the keepsakes...? Or, do we just take the keepsake to spare her feelings?
She is going to feel awful! And I feel kinda like....WTF?!
Help.
2007-08-21 12:53:13 · 21 answers · asked by carriebware 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yikes. Yes I would tell her, spare her the embarrassment she will feel if she gives them out. Have the announcements reprinted and resend them with the proper spelling. Remember people will be using them to write in their address books and such, you want them to spell your name correctly.
Its not that big of a deal, but you should tell her kindly that the error was made and rectify it.
Good luck.
PS I dont think this was a slight by any means, I'm sure the mistake was honest.
2007-08-21 12:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Hurry up and tell her before she sends them out and gets you keepsakes!
Would you rather not tell her and then have her deal with the embarrassment of having spelled her daughters new last name wrong?!?
2007-08-22 02:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point out the mistake tactfully and laugh it off. I'm sure it was an innocent mistake (at least I hope it was!)
And one day she will notice it's wrong and say "why didn't you tell me?"
If you think she is trying to say something rude then that's even more reason to say something. When you point it out and she rolls her eyes or makes a comment (anything other than embarrassment and an apology) then confront her on the situation.
Not to scare you but how old is she? Are you even remotely concerned about Alzheimer's?
2007-08-21 13:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by az 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it were my mom, I'd be blunt and honest. The conversation would probably go like this,
"Mom!!!! You spelled my new last name wrong. OMG, now what??? OK, how did you do that? You knew it all those other times. Now, I have to reprint EVERYTHING....OMG, that's going to cost me" (then my mom and I would run around trying to figure out how to fix everything, and where to get the $$ to do it"
LOL, harsh I know. But, we are quite a blunt and honest family.
Yes, she'll feel awful. But, she'll get over it. It was a mistake. The bigger issues is getting new announcements, etc made.
2007-08-21 13:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Even if you feel awkward about it, tell her. If you don't, its going to bug you every time you see that keepsake or your wedding announcement. Better to put it out there now than to let it fester.
2007-08-21 13:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by theMrs. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you've got to tell her. hopefully the two of you are close enough that the worst that would happen is she gets a little embarrassed. if you let the miss spelling continue that could strain any future relationship with your in-laws. i think your mother would appreciate the heads up for future reference also (x-mas cards,event invites, etc.) and this comes from experience, my last name has 4 letters my fiance's has 13(polish) and my brother in-law has 14(greek). my mother always asks my sister and i to "spell check" anything w/ their last names. good luck!
2007-08-21 13:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by nicole e 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might have been the typist at the paper.
Why don't you just put another announcement in the paper & don't tell your mom? Then noone has to be in trouble.
She sounds like she is going to alot of effort to do something nice for you.
2007-08-21 23:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no choice but to tell her. Get this straightened out before it becomes an even bigger issue. It's also very rude not to get someone's name right and especially for a wedding.
2007-08-21 13:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell her! Those things will be spelled wrong forever and it is very rude and inconsiderate to the groom and his family. Not a good way to start things off with your future mother-in-law.
2007-08-21 13:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mother of her spelling mistake ASAP! Don't be too hard on her - mistakes do happen. I'm sure she will understand. You can laugh about it all at your 25th wedding anniversary.
2007-08-21 13:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋