What would you do if...?

Question

you were 30 and only ever had 1 best friend with benefits, are pretty much a loner & never been on anything that even closely resembled a date

Answer 1

I guess if you wanted a date you would find a way to get out and meet people, like the gym, church, social activities, even on line dating.

Answer 2

I would get out and become more social...? Well, first of all, get friends. I find that friends are realllllly crucial when it comes to social life. Befriend people from work, go to lunch together, buy them coffees in the morning, strike up friendly conversation. It's alright to become more outgoing =). Try not to be uptight when talking to them, 'cause it seems like after a while of not being around people, you tend to get a little bit nervous. Don't try too hard either, just be yourself, be a little bit laid-back. And if you're not a laid-back kind of person, then try cracking a few jokes.

Nooww, about your love life, you need to adjust being around people. Take risks. Get to know the person you might be interested in. Talk to them, be friendly, smile, look them in the eye. Good luck.

Answer 3

Try getting out more....go to the mall, dance clubs and such. If you are looking for a life partner try some of the dating sites. You won't believe how many people out there sit at home and don't want to do the single scene. Maybe joining a gym or such...you will meet friends quick.

Answer 4

i wouldn't worry about it. I would fill my life with work family and friends and if anything found it's way to me than good. I am 27 and just got engaged after dating a year. I have only ever had one benefits situation before and no other dating history. don't worry. you'll be fine.

Answer 5

Just continue to be yourself -nothing wrong with what you described.
If you want to change things , think of what you like and or are interested in and pursue it -take a class join a club ,volunteer and talk with the people who are there about what you are doing or studying. After awhile offer to buy coffee or lunch.
Be friendly ,open and honest -be yourself whatever you do . You will be happy with that.and if the person you are talking to gets to know you better -they will be happy to know that you are honest about who you are.

Answer 6

Maybe you were in love with teh best friend with benefits and you still can't move on.

Maybe you're shy, and haven't ever gotten the courage to ask anyone out.

Maybe you're scared of rejection.

Maybe you haven't found a girl who you think could really understand you, and you don't think it's worth going to the trouble of trying to ask out those who you aren't going to make it with anyway.

Answer 7

I would find people that I had things in common with by getting involved in things I liked. I would take a class that interested me for fun or volunteer at a non-profit that I felt passionate about. If I were unhappy at work I would look for a more gratifying job. I would sign up for e-harmony.

What are your interests?

Answer 8

With that mentality(of considering yourself a loner) you will never step out of this phase. You should think better of yourself and other women will notice you more.

Answer 9

Take the plunge, meet people in coffee houses, clubs, anyplace and strike up conversation. Get them to date me. try a club first of all, little drink might ease those nerves - go with a work-friend?

Answer 10

that not a bad thing.


people make it seem like you have to date someone or your a loser. and so what if your a loner. you just havent met that person yet! you just have to live life and you will find them!