what should i do has any one been in this situation?

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S Should i stay with my boyfriend or move home?
I WAS SUPPOSE TO GET MARRIED TWO MONTHS AGO . I STARTED GETTING DEPRESSED WHEN I STARED TAKEING BIRTH CONTROL I CANCELED MY WEDDING OVER IT CAUSE I THOUGHT I DIDN'T LOVE MY BF ANY MORE .I NEVER HAD A DOUBT IN MY MIND BEFORE I STARTED TAKING THE PILL ,HE WAS THE ONE FOR ME. I WENT OFF THE BIRTH CONTROLL AND IM STILL DEPRESSED I RETHINK EVERYTHING MY LIFE MY RELIGON .MY bf IS SO WONDERFUL BUT HE IS NOT A CHRISTIAN AND WE USE TO SMOKE POT ALL THE TIME .WE DON'T SMOKE POT ANY MORE, AND HE HAS DONE NOTHING BUT BE THERE FOR ME THREW THIS TIME ALL HE WANTS TO DO IS MAKE ME HAPPY ilovehim so much .BUT MY DAD THINK I NEED TO MOVE HOME AND DOES NOT HAVE RESPECT FOR HIM ANY MORE BECAUSE WE SMOKED POT . EVERY TIME I THINK I SHOULD MOVE HOME I CAN'T DO IT b.BUT I THINK IM GOING TO HELL BECAUSE IM UNMARRIED LIVING WITH MY NON CHRISTIAN BOYFRIEND . OR IF WE DO GET MARRIED ILL JUST DISAPOINT MY DAD AND GOD EVEN MORE . IM SO TORN TO PLEASE MY PARENTS GOD AND MY BOYFRIEND AT THE SAME TIME WHAT SHOULD Id

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SO MUCH I COULD SAY TO THAT, SO MUCH! But in the end I say to much, lets just stick to one thing at a time. Seems the religious ideal and perception are your leading cause of depression in your life right now. Time to make a choice (understand THERE IS NOT RIGHT CHOICE! but thats my own spirtuality, I believe in creation and destrution, not good and bad, I love a colorful world not a black and white one) and no it is move back or stay with your boyfriend. Its weather your going to pratice religion for your spirtuality, or if your going to use your own moral compasse, life experiences, and wisdom to come to terms with your own. YOU CAN NOT MIX THE TWO!!!! Yea you smoked pot, yea your probly having sex with your boyfriend unmarried, but the point remains that the only bad thing your doing is feeling regerts and keeping yourself in indescision, DON'T! Ether your fully behind your organized religion are your fully behind your open-minded spirtuality. The choices is yours, but you better pick on are the other. Also realize love isn't enough in a relationship, if he isn't behind your spirtuality, problems are going to come up, that only the actions of love can solve, understanding, companianship, and compassion, without which, you'll face hell on earth anyways....