My friend is getting married in a month to a man who proposed to her after only two months of dating.He is obsessed with her.
I just found out recently that she is in love with and is still sleeping with another man. She also told me she recently had a pregnancy scare, and the baby would NOT have been her fiance's. This other man has no idea that she lives with her fiance and that she is getting married soon. In fact she recently went and looked at wedding rings with the "other" man even though she's planning to get married next month. Her fiance is extremely sweet, but she treats him like crap. She is definately not in love with him. If I had known that she was still in love and sleeping with another man I would never have agreed to be in the wedding. I believe that a marriage is a holy covenant between two people who completely love each other. I feel like this wedding should be stopped as it is a farce. She doesnt want to stop it cause they have already bought a house together
2007-08-21 12:30:02 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the answer is simple, who do you have to face every morning when you look in the mirror? you have to be true to yourself.
many times over the years i have done something i haven't wanted to but didn't want to be rude, or didn't want to back out, or didn't want to seem a prude, and i have regretted every single one of those times. i don't like seeing that aspect of myself and i have vowed never to do something against my personal better judgement ever again and i haven't. hasn't always made me the most popular person but thats fine.
you can't force your beliefs or opinions on others but you can refuse to do something that goes against the grain and if it were up to me i would tell you quite simply not to participate in the wedding and truthfully not even attend the wedding.
you may lose a friend but it may not be that big a loss.
good luck to you. stand strong and hold onto your beliefs because sweetie that is who you are.
by the way i wouldn't stand up and object when the preacher asked either.....just stay out of it completely.
2007-08-21 12:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Depends on if you want to keep your relationship with her. I personally wouldn't want to be friends with someone like her, she sounds like a terrible person. I would back out of the wedding and probably not even go, like you said marriage is a holy covenant between two people who LOVE eachother, and by her actions, she's showing that she doesn't care about him at all, let alone love him. Too bad for the guy though, but he needs to open his eyes. What's the reason for such a quick wedding? and Is he rich or something? If he is then she's just a money grubbin wh*re who only cares about one thing! If he's not then you should ask her why she wants to get married in the first place if she loves and is sleeping with another man. House or no house this wedding shouldn't happen! Good Luck with this one and try to have a nice evening!
2007-08-21 12:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by PennyLane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very serious issue. Marriage is a sacred union between two people who love each other very much and would never want to spent their lives with another person. Nobody deserved to be treated this way especially if this could ruin someones life forever. EVen if you are the bride's friend, you need to speak up to her fiance and maybe even this other man. IF she can lie to someone that she wants to "spend the rest of her life with" what's saying she isnt lying to you or anyone else also? That is not a very true person and she needs a reality check. But I would definately say something. That could kill his self-esteem and trust in anyone in the future. Good luck and stay strong. Be the better person and save this man's life.
2007-08-21 13:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got to say this sounds all wrong. If she is with another guy at the start, this marriage will not last a yr. I think that you need to talk her out of the wedding even though they already bought a house together becouse its a ship sinking before it even leaves the port. Let her know that if she does not say anything you will not be in the wedding, you dont have to tell the guy becouse its not your place, although if it were me I would want you to tell me. Lol. I have been married for 16 yrs and if my wife was fiance was cheating on me before we got married I am sure it would keep going on. Its wrong just wrong. Sounds like she needs to stay single and sleep around. wild oats not yet soan. good luck
2007-08-21 12:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by arsa1971 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is not a smart person. She is playing both men. If I were you I would confront her and tell her that you will not be a part of this wedding. It IS a farce and something she is doing out of love of herself not for either man. Just because she bought a house with this guy doesn't mean thats a good reason to get married to him. Tell her to break it off or you'll go public. Tell the groom. Tell the other guy. Tell the preist (he WILL NOT marry them being of the cloth) Tel her that any respectable woman would not go through with something so awful and damaging to so many different parties. If she truely loves this other guy, why would she be getting married to someone else?
Jeez your friend is an idiot.
2007-08-21 12:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Katie B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As horrible as she is, she is your friend, I think you need to sit down with her and talk about it. If for some reason she says she wants to continue with the wedding and you really want to stop that from happening, then talk to her fiance and tell him the truth. It doesn't seem like she will be any worse for the wear...you may even be helping her! Definitely don't wait until your wedding day, that just wouldn't be fair to her fiance.
2007-08-21 12:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by sonrisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to drop out of the wedding and tell the fiance what is going on. Give him proof, because this man does not deserve what is being done to him.
2007-08-21 12:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would back out of the wedding. Tell her why.
Expect your friendship to be tarnished because of this though.
I couldn't stand up in a wedding if I knew what you know about the bride.
2007-08-22 02:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will not stop her...sleep around habit.....even if she get marry....and definitley she is going to ruin her boy friend s life....you should inform to this guy before their marriage with some proof....( since they have bought the house...no need of an immediate break up....but you can ask this guy to wait little more time to understand her and know her well and ...whether she change her habit or he can change his mind )
2007-08-23 00:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by 2bros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's her life but...
I would probably not only back out of the wedding but I'd stop being her friend. You don't need that kind of person in your life. She sounds crazy. Move on and let her deal with her drama.
2007-08-21 13:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by az 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋