i'm 16. and i like guys that are in their 20's or even sometimes 30's
i feel like its wrong but i can't help it. guys my age are just immature and i really am not attracted to anyone my age..
help plz??
or thoughts..if you feel the same
2007-08-21 11:52:36 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's perfectly natural for you to feel that way. Generally, girls your age are much more mature than the guys your age and it sounds like you're even a bit more mature than your average peers. There's nothing wrong with liking older guys, but the laws are very severe about this. It would be much better for you to date older guys AFTER you're 18--that way no one gets in trouble. I know 2 years sounds like a long time, but trust me, it'll get there before you know it. And besides, you just may find someone your age who will meet your standards before then. Just be patient, keep your eyes and heart open, and if Mr. Right doesn't show up by your 18th birthday, then the world is yours for the taking. Best of luck, sweetie. Don't give up.
2007-08-21 12:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can "like" anyone you want. But if someone in their 20's or 30's "likes" you back, there's a word for him:
Pedophile.
Be careful. You probably don't want to hear it, but you are too young to make this kind of decision. Sure, 16 year old boys are jerks. But 16 year old girls are WAY too young to get involved with men 10 or more years their senior.
Take it for what it's worth: there is NO WHOLESOME REASON for a man in his 20's or 30's to have any interest in you. It's nothing to do with you as a person, it's just your age. You have nothing to offer him that's not illegal or immoral. Stick to boys your own age. They're immature and they're jerks, but they do grow up eventually. AND they won't go to jail for kissing you like a 30 year old will!
2007-08-22 01:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16 you are not experienced enough NOT to be taken advantage of.
There are a lot of older 'creeps' out there who would just love to see a 16 year old attracted to them .
You have lots of time for the older guys when you have some maturity on your side.
Date the guys your age and just have some fun being 16 ,you'll have plenty of time for the serious stuff later.
It will come ---it will come !
2007-08-21 12:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bemo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most older guys are only taking advantage of you, they're so insecure about themselves that they can't date women their own age - and that isn't fair to you. Sure, you want someone who is mature, don't we all! The problem is that you're at a stage in life where your personality is going to change completely. I'd say until you're about 25, everything about you will start to become different. Chances are, you won't have the same things in common with these men in several years. I'd just focus on being young and being happy while you can. Don't get too serious with anyone, regardless of your age.
I made the mistake of marrying someone 12 years older than myself and it ended up with abuse and a divorce because we just grew apart. Please don't set yourself up for a life like this - you deserve better!
2007-08-21 12:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the thing is a 3-4 year difference is okay but in your case its a little too much. Its like a 10-20 year difference. And by the way the guys in ur grade will start acting mature just wait and see.
2007-08-21 12:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Krazym0nkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong apparently it's smart says my mom. Your more likely to find a guy that's established and ready to settle down rather than a guy that's younger and just wants to run around and get as many girls as they can before they die. Also an older guy will feel more lucky and appreciate the attention from a young girl.
2007-08-21 12:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by ashanti_crawford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong for liking guys that old there is nothing wrong about it on your part but if a 20+ guy is trying to do something with you then they are wrong. there is nothing wrong being friends until your 18 then your grown and can do anything with any aged guy but wait until your 18. then nobody gets into trouble.
2007-08-21 12:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by crazyjboy82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries Babe.I loved to date men in their 20s and 30s when I was ur age. Now that I'm in my 40s it's switched and i love dating men in their 20s and 30s! It all depends on your maturity level, comfort level and taste. Just make sure they're cool and not just in it for the tail. Watch out for yourself because I'm sure things have changed since my time and men are different.Make sure they treat you with the utmost respect beacause you deserve no less.
Just relax about that and enjoy! I was bored with boys my age when I was 16 and I turned out just fine!
Best to you!
2007-08-21 12:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by rediva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that, just be careful you don't end up in a bad relationship with either a married older man or a total loser.
Unfortunately not all men are gentlemen. Trust your instinct, if it doesnt feel right, don't ask questions, just run.
I was 23 yrs oldler than my girlfriend and we are now married and happy and have been for many many years.
Good luck.
2007-08-21 11:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by P.A.M. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes at your age, men can be somewhat confusing..but in a case like this stay with your age...becoming involved with an older man is iffy..i am married to a younger man who just so happens to be very intelligent hard working and honest but that isnt always the case..you will not be able to do the things he can do..drive,bars,no one to answer to remember you have parents and i hope that they are watching you and know that u r interested in older men...its really a bad idea u r still a child..../
2007-08-21 12:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋