Her child is very misbehaved and I have a new baby and am only taking well behaved children. This child does many things that are unacceptable in my house, the 3 worst are lying, hitting, and swearing. He is acutally a pretty cute kid and not defiant, but I cannot deal with such continual disipline needs at this point, especially when the parents say 'good luck' and drop him off. I told her once that he was hitting and she didn't even say anything to him that I know of or follow through at home. She didn't even seem suprised. How do I tell her in 20 minutes that I will continue to the end of next week only?
2007-08-21 11:37:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
how about 'I am unable to watch him as he needs alot of supervision due to his hitting, lying and swearing? I dont' know.. help me out please...
2007-08-21 11:39:08 · update #1
Be honest, but in a gentle way. She obviously knows how he behaves and hasn't taken any steps to stop it so maybe if she keeps losing babysitters she will finally get a clue. Tell her that you cannot abide by the hitting and swearing, and that other parents are complaining that the kid is swearing in front of their children. However you should be fair, give her two weeks notice instead of one so she has ample time to find somebody new. She might get mad and pull him out immediately, but at least you'll know that you were fair and went by the standard that most people think is reasonable. Good luck.
2007-08-21 11:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by nimo22 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Tell her that he is too much to handle and you can't devote the time and supervision he needs, especially when he acts up. Tell her you are sorry but you just don't think he is well behaved and with a new baby, it is a responsibility you don't want. Don't attack her parenting skills (for not taking care of things after you've mentioned them). Just be sure to give her enough time to find other child care (2 weeks is sufficient). You owe her no further explanation. As with any other business, you have a right to refuse service.
2007-08-21 12:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Empress1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her i have a new baby i am a new mother and i want to spend these times with my child. She should understand don't be scared of her just tell her what you feel. You can't put up with him hitting and saying disrespectful things you would just like a break for awhile until you are ready to take on two kids again. Its simple as that good luck i completely know what you are going through i was a full time nanny and he was just out of control so i had to let it go. Best Wishes
2007-08-21 11:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her "I will no longer be able to care for ___ after next week. __/__/__ will be his last day here. I am not able to meet his special needs and he is not working out with the other children here. I have to do what is best for everyone. I wish you luck in finding him a more suitable placement"
Then stand firm. Plan a goodbye party for his last day if he has been a long term guest (have a farewell cake!). Don't be mean or spiteful. You've clearly stated what the problem is in the past, no need to rehash it. Bid the kid a fond farewell (to his and his parents face) and collapse in eternal gratitude the minute they are gone.
2007-08-21 11:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth ! Why should YOU suffer because THEY are bad parents ? Tell them straight ............. "your child is violent , and I won`t put up with that ..... period !"
Tell them they have one week to find a replacement ! Don`t fall for any stories they may give you that they can`t find one ! Stick to your guns !
You also have to consider the safety of the other kids . What happens if the little demon pushes a kid off the chair or steps , and that kid breaks an arm or leg ?? You`ll spend the rest of your life paying off the lawsuit award !
2007-08-21 11:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the mother of the child that he is ill behaved and you don't want your child to pick up on the habbits or you could just say that you can't watch the child and not give a reason.
2007-08-21 11:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by lbear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her the truth. You have a new baby now with more responsibilities and you only want well-behaved children in your house.
You don't have to go into details. It sounds like the mother knows about all of that already.
2007-08-21 11:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times in life when you have to be honest in order to avoid remaining miserable.
You need to sit down with the mother, and in a nice tone, explain exactly why you no longer want to babysit the child. It's amazing how mild folks' reactions are when people are tactfully honest with them. I know it'll be a tough thing to do, but you benefit in the long run.
2007-08-21 11:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by SoulDawg 4 UGA 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that for his own safety he needs more supervision than you can give him at this time. DO NOT babysit a child that is not disciplined at home. It's a nightmare and you do not want him to harm your own baby. Tell them straight out and don't sweat the consequences. Do it for yourself and your new baby. Good luck and take a stand.
2007-08-21 11:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by manoflamancha 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be blunt. Tell her that her child is undeciplined and everytime you talk to them about his behavior they either brush you off or just plain doesn't care therefore, I will not be watching your child anymore for he is a bad influence on the others so they are going to have to find somebody else so you are giving them a weeks notice.
2007-08-21 14:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by youngpoet_33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋