how do you really trust your fiance's feelings towards you?

Question

when its nothing wrong he's doing but just your own insecurities..

or could it be him?

I'm confused? why cnt I just believe him and behappy with how he's feeling? why do I always question his love in my head?!

Answer 1

Why? Thats so simple, because LOVE ISN'T ENOUGH!!! Every day on and on I have to explain this little bit of wisdom to people. Not to say love isn't important its just thats the frist little baby step. If you having a classic relationship like everyone else, then the old I love you honey, ooo is this great honey, oooo I love you so much, sounds all nice and good but YOU HAVE to feel there something more you need right? If so understand this, love is nothing more then the soil inwhich great things like passion, compassion, companionship, understanding, trust, and everything that makes a deep meaningful relationships. See in the end whats wrong with most of our relationships is that we "think" that the love is greater then the friendship.... which is like trying to say water is greater then rain? Does that make sense? Rain is a phonemana of water, friendship is a phoneman of love. I know what your thinking, but isn't friendship a shallow sort of realtionship? Nope we as people in our society just treat it that way, we confuse assoicates as friends, theres a BIG difference if you actually had one. Which is why we get stuck marrying strangers that no matter how much we try we can't trust, its becasue theres nothing really there to trust, you have to have history based on the reality checks of this world, not the fantasies of romance, you have to have the ability to actually turn to them and say," Hey I think your full of crap, why should I believe you love me?" And them not get upset. Its being able to communicate honestly and fully all of your feelings to your partner thats going to solve this delima. So talk to him about it, everyday if you most, talk about when you frist felt this way, what you guys can do about, how its not so much that you don't trust him, but you don't trust you.... you need him to tell YOU what you can do outside of the "I love you hunnie" stuff, to make YOU feel like you can trust his words..... really to simplify it all, he holds the salvation, go talk to him about this, tell you guys can get it linked, thats WHY we get into relationships in the frist place, to relate..... the good and the bad!