ok my step son is getting married sept 14th..its a very elegant wedding..his aunt and her boyfriend are coming which is great..wilie who is a big black man (and that is fine) was first going to wear a canary yellow suit...after being tease by other family memebers he decided not to wear it..now he is wearing an all white suit with a tourquise tie and shoes..my daughter in law is very upset..i always thought the only one to wear white should be the bride...
what is everyone take on this??
2007-08-21 10:34:13 · 29 answers · asked by diane b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
White should be worn by bride & groom only not the guests.
Flashy colors that draw attention from the bride & groom also should not be worn by any of the guests.
This is the young couples day. Wedding goers need to dress appropriately in respectful attire.
If they are uncertain about their attire, they should ask the bride or the groom what they would like them to wear.
2007-08-23 12:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Veedolla Rocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if the daughter-in-law (I'm assuming you mean she is the one marrying your step son) is upset about it, then it shouldn't happen. It is her big day, as well as his... but the idea of white for the bride not only signifies purity (virgin) it's supposed to make her stand out from all others in the wedding party. I think your step son would look just as stunning in a black tux with the turquoise tie and shoes. There are many different tuxes too, he could choose a style that more represents how he feels. He could even add a cane and top hat to the ensemble and still be giving the bride the spotlight.
2007-08-21 10:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Amy V 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Traditionally it is only the bride that wears white, so I can understand her being upset or scandalised by that. My own personal opinion on it is for brides to get over themselves on this, everyone attending knows who the bride is, it's not like someone wearing a white cardigan or white sun dress is gonna upstage the bride. It's one of those old traditions that I personally feel is a bit bridezilla, but I understand why people get upset about it.
2007-08-21 22:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally only the bride and groom should wear white . The wedding guests should wear other colors not white.
A guest shouldn't wear something that will upstage the bride & groom. This is their day!
Tell the Aunt & her boyfriend to be respectful & dress conservative.
Afterall this is your Step-son's & almost daughter-in-law's wedding day.
Guests attending the wedding are there to honor them not embarrass them or they shouldn't bother to attend.
2007-08-21 11:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by Positive-Pixie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Clearly Willie is someone who likes to stand out in a crowd.
Personally, I'd have enjoyed seeing someone wear a canary yellow suit at my wedding. It's such a cheerful, fun color.
However, having rejected that option, if you don't want him to wear his second choice, I think if you ask him to change again, everybody is going to have to cope with whatever Willie's third choice is.
Or, you could choose to notice that Willie is not wearing unrelieved white, but mixing it with a bit of turquoise, which means he's (very marginally) within the bounds of etiquette. I think it's probably best if you all accept that Willie is a colorful individual and that asking him to choose yet another different outfit might not result in anything you like better.
On the other hand, I sincerely doubt anyone is going to confuse a 'big black man' with the bride.
Sometimes it's best to just go with the flow.
2007-08-21 10:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, the only white for the bride rule is really more for the ladies.
Although, if this person will be in pictures with the bride, then that will take away from her in white a little, so that is how it should be approached.
If he must wear it, let it go and enjoy the day. If she doesn't want him in pictures with her because of it, I think that's perfectly fine.
2007-08-21 10:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by valschmal 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
How is it not his day too? They are BOTH getting married! I don't get when the wedding turned into "her day" for the girls and the guys just need to do what they are told. Men should be able to have an opinion too.
Grooms wear white all the time...I don't see what is wrong with it. If your daughter in law is the bride, then she needs to speak up and tell him, but she also needs to keep in mind that this wedding is about them both and starting thier life together, not just "her day."
2007-08-21 11:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If Willie isn't the groom, he shouldn't be wearing white and especially such a bright outfit. Someone needs to chat with him and let him know that an understated dark suit is the only appropriate apparel for such an occasion.
2007-08-21 14:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've just got a mixture of cultures here.
The white wedding dress is historically a public statement that the bride is a virgin. White doesn't have that sort of connotation in black culture.
Suggest it might be more appropriate if he avoided white, but there's little reason for anyone to be offended if he avoids white.
2007-08-21 12:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I totally believe only bride (and possibly groom) should wear white.
2007-08-21 15:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by happymommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋