me and my gf fight every time we get on the phone, we fight when we are togeter,
what i need to know is should i just let her go,
but we call each other all the time it is like we need each other, i am lost here, need help.
2007-08-21 10:28:40 · 24 answers · asked by cllns_nrmn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you *LOVE* fighting on the phone all the time. (sarcasm).
Dude, find someone who makes you happy.
2007-08-21 10:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting over the phone is bad enough but also in person, well there's a big problem. If you guys have been together for less than a year and this fighting is constant then maybe breaking up is the right thing to do. The first year of a relationship should be the happiest one. Both are getting to know each other and there should always be that spark and desire to be with each other. If the fighting is about minimal things it probably means you can not stand each other, at least as a couple.
I believe both of you should take a minute and talk about this constant fighting...Ask each other if the relationship is really worth it. The thing is you must be completely honest and not saying "nice" things to avoid hurting your partners feelings.
Good Luck ; )
2007-08-21 17:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your relationship turned into a habit? When you guys fight is it easy to make up? Are you both stubborn and want to win the argument? What is the REAL cause of your fights? It may just be a combination of issues that you both have not settled, so every little thing will spark an argument... In this situation, you really need to evaluate what you need and what you want... If you NEED her... then you must observe yourself and the definition of need. (No one ever needs another person-- you must be independent before you share yourself with someone else.) If you want her you will be willing to do whhatever it takes to keep her, even if that means stepping out of your comfort zone. You need to take a step back and slap yourself... what do you really want?
2007-08-21 17:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by Abstract Expression 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some unresolved issues with one another. Probably fights break out about the stupidest crap... sit down with her and tell her you still want to be with her but the fighting's gotta stop. Try to figure it out together what's the root of the problem. Maybe deep down you two don't trust each other and it's expressed by fighting over petty crap.
2007-08-21 17:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by thatguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sir you dont NEED anyone. You need to be content with yourself why would you want to be with someone who fights with you all the time. Trust me there are many girls out there. If yall fight all the time that really isn't a relationship in the first place more like "he is there she is there" kinda thing...Think about that...
2007-08-21 17:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by Essa L. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a healthy relationship. You both need to move on to someone that your both happy with and can get along.
Everyone has a fight now and then, but if you are fighting all the time, its not healthy.
2007-08-21 17:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you love each other but you both hurt each other in the past. why are you fighting? What is important - you need to realize whtat you both want. You say a lot of words but you want very few things - what do you want from your girlfriend? to stop....... to start....... write it down. When she start shouting ask her why do you shout at me and what do you want as a result of this argument? ask her to think about this too. try to discuss why and when did you hurt each other, you need to express your emotions. And when she starts shouting - stay quiet and remind her that it's not necessary at all to shout or call you names if she wants to talk and get some result. when there is a quarrel you always need to get to the root of the problem
A lot of people fight till they find out how to deal with each other. If you're both hot-tempered you need to learn how to stop each other. Never let her provoke you, try to shut her up quickly till she says something bad. you can say "I love you why do you quarrel with me?" say nice things and she'll cool off.
2007-08-21 17:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need each other. You fight all the time - dude that would totally suck! Cut her loose. You are fighting and arguing, which is a horrible way to spend a relationship.
2007-08-21 17:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by Siren5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly sounds unhealthy.....maybe you feed off each others insecurities in the relationship?
What could you possibly fight about sooo much??
There is someone out there for everyone, personally, I can't stand drama, some people live for it..
I guess it depends how you two feel about it!
2007-08-21 17:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. that suxs. Do you have any clue why you guys are fighting all the time? Maybe you guys just aren't meant. I'm not good at giving advise on dating because I have no experience, but I would think you should let her go.
Who knows, maybe she feels the same way and will understand, and you guys can be friends.
2007-08-21 17:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by katrina_c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get along now - you won't get along later. Take a break, work on yourself and ask her to do the same. If she's willing to admit there's a problem you all have a chance in the long run - otherwise, it's not a good idea.
2007-08-21 17:33:09 · answer #11 · answered by dfaithful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋