My fiance and I have had sex before, we were eachothers first and neither of us have been with other people. Our wedding isnt for another 2 years mind you but I wanted to stop having sex for those two years to make our wedding night a little more sacred. Do you thin thats stupid???
2007-08-21 10:16:48 · 27 answers · asked by Vickey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
we have talked about it he said it was up to me.
2007-08-21 10:22:47 · update #1
A lot of you people seem to think that sex is a glue for a relationship obviously you have some pretty crappy relationships, my fiance and I dont need sex and have done without before. I'm not trying to regain my virginity I just want it to be special, so its not like every other night.......
2007-08-21 10:54:34 · update #2
I don't think this is stupid. It will definitly make the wedding night more special. It'll be hard to not have sex for those 2 years since you've already had sex..but it would be worth it.
2007-08-21 10:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
First of all, it's your decision as a couple. Whatever you decide is right for the both of you.
My opinion, however, is that you shouldn't do this. What are trying to do? You can't preserve your virginities, since those are gone. Perhaps you want to have some sort of symbolic thing with "second virginities," or something.
It's plain and simple that it's great that you two were each other's firsts and lasts (since you're planning to be married). But, since you've made the choice to have sex already, going about with your normal life is what you should, I think.
A healthy sex life aids in a healthy relationship. As well as makes people happier in general. :) I don't think that being abstinent will make your wedding night more sacred. You're still going to be together, and you can boink like bunnies all night and day, etc, etc. :p
2007-08-21 17:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Erin M 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, its not like your saveing yourself anymore. Had you still been a virgin I would have said good for you, however since you two have decided to give yourself to eachother and the wedding is in the works, practice safe sex and keep doing it. Its natural and frankly it only gets better with practice. Im sure you would rather have a great time on your wedding night instead of your man going off early because of lack of practice. It is noble of you to consider this and it is a personal decision that should not be based on what us idiots on YA say... but at this point, enjoy eachother. You never know when it will be the last time. Good luck.
2007-08-21 17:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have already slept together to stop having sex for two years isn't going to make your wedding night sacred. It would have been sacred had you waited until the wedding night. Your question isn't stupid, its just that you've already slept with each other, so there is no anticipation or excitement to look forward to on the wedding night. Think about the first time you and your boyfriend slept together, now think about how that would have felt had you waited for marriage. This is just my opinion so please I do not mean to offend you, I just have very old fashioned values.
2007-08-22 14:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it also depends on how old you are - if you are under 18, and he is over, you probably need ot wait the two years. I pretty much agree though, you have already done it, a little silly to stop now (unless again, you are underage).
Sex is an important part of any marriage and you need to make sure that the one you are with is going to make you happy for the long haul.
2007-08-21 17:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by KD 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well for a lack of a way to put it delicately - yes I think it is stupid. The ship has sailed honey. No point in stopping now. Besides, how do you think your fiance will feel?
Your wedding night will still be awesome and special because it is your wedding night.
2007-08-21 17:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by JM 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think that is silly. You've already had sex with him.
It can be sacred even if you have had sex during those two years.
Even though he said "its up to you" inside he is thinking "DAMN, two years?!?".
Edit: I don't think sex is a glue to a relationship, there are more important factors that should be concentrated on, but like was said, you've already LOST your virginity, you CAN make that night sacred without going without sex for two years.
2007-08-21 17:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure its because you want your wedding night to be sacred or are you just useing that as an excuse to not be with him cause honestly sex between two people that love eachother shouldn't be wrong. Marriage doens't prove anything...
2007-08-21 17:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Essa L. 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! It's a very personal choice, and I happen to like the idea. #1 - No chance of it becoming "shot gun"-esque. #2 - It will make the "wedding night" that much more special. #3 - There are PLENTY of other options besides "sexual intercourse" that can keep your man (and yourself!) satisfied. If you are ready to make a lifelong commitment to each other, then you can make a 2 year commitment to be faithful without sex.
2007-08-21 17:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by JB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know you and your fiance's life, but two years maybe kinda difficult. I know that my fiance and I have been engaged for eight months, and I kept saying we need to wait we need to wait and then I'd change my mind. Follow your heart if you want to stop then great, but I look at it this way your first time as husband and wife is gonna be special for the fact that you are husband and wife. Thats my outlook anyways. Good luck!
2007-08-21 17:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by Krissy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋