Suburban black kid wakes up and realises the world is more racisist then he realised?

Question

I recently moved into a multicultral city, you see I moved out of the subarbs ,out of my moms house and out of my home town to a new city. I am 20 years old and didint realise how racist in the real world is.

experience 1, walked in the store and the asian store owner is looking at me like a hawk, he isint looking at any of his white coustomers or asian customers but his eyes ar fixed on me


experience 2, i worked at a jewish camp and some of the jewish people asked me if i have ever went to college or university and if i know how to fire guns,

experience 3, a black guy and a white girl holding hands down the street the dirty looks come flying and seem to come from every where.


have you experienced any of the situations i have experienced
and how did it make you feel

Answer 1

I can promise you two things. Not all people of any ethnicity are racist and every ethnicity has its racists. All you can do is try not to become what you hate.

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Answer 2

Everyone's a little scared of "different". White kids get the same looks and feelings in predominantly black/latino/asian neighborhoods. You poor guys just get the a-holes to go along with the "fear of the other". Fear + stereotyping jerks = sad state of the world.

I guess all I can tell you from the white chick point of view is that I can understand the "discomfort"----but I'll never be able to understand the true impact of what you're going through. Racists are everywhere, and on both sides, but your side has a justified sense of wariness that I'd I do anything to eradicate. Sadly, it'd take nearly an entire generation dying out before they could instill their pathetic excuse for a value system on their offspring for that to happen. Sigh.

In the short term, we've gotta stop it in each race. The black girls that called me a racist and threatened to beat "my cracker b....tch" self up because I complained to a professor that they weren't returning my calls about a group project have to be stopped.
The country boys that used to peg apples at anyone they didn't like the color or style of in my high school parking lot need to be stopped. So do all bosses that feel that they "like to hire minorities, the good ones are wonderful employees". Not all racism is obvious---sometimes it's meant well, but underneath, it stinks.

Good luck man---just know there are those of us out here on the other side that give a crap.

Answer 3

Experience one: That depends on the neighboorhood as well as past experiences of the store owner. Elderly Asians are actually notorius for being racist.

experience two: This depends on your age. If you're in your 20s, then its most likely that they WOULD ask you if you went to college regardless of color; a young guy working at a jewish camp might have better things to do on his hands, like studying, then helping them. Also, firing guns is probobly related, but I find that many children ask father figures if they ever have used a fire arm. It lets their young imagination run free on what type of adventures you might have had, or whatever.

Experience 3: Don't have an answer for that, but the guy/girl might be notorious around those parts.

Answer 4

I'm white, but kind of surprised to hear a specific detail in your post - "multicultral city".

Where I'm from, I grew up in a diverse suburb. People were tolerant of other races for the most part but not so much as where I live now.

Now I live in San Francisco, which is very diverse. It's amazing actually. Wonderful.
Just curious to hear that you're experiencing that in a multicultural city, which from my experience, is more tolerant.

Most of the rest of the country.... I'm sorry, but the truth is most of the country is not open minded, ignorant, and not tolerant. Pretty stupid.

Answer 5

I even have on no account experianced something such as you have suggested. maximum anybody is friendly the place I stay no count what race they are. possibly the asian save proprietor replaced into finding like that considering the fact which you area teen? possibly the human beings on the jewish camp don't get out very lots? the place do you reside? no person has ever been impolite to me because of the fact i'm black. (Did you reside in an all black area earlier, I even have on no account lived in a position like that) Why could human beings be greater racist in the city ? That doesnt make experience in any respect. cities are greater accepting regularly i comprehend. i'm sorry you have had undesirable experiances yet do not anticipate that all of them are because of the fact of your race. cope with human beings properly and smile and maximum of them will return your kindness.

Answer 6

Yes. I felt like I was less than. So I read more on self esteem and talked with older African Americans about their experiences. I look up sites that remind me of what African Americans have gone through. Do not let others ignorance prevent you from believing in yourself. Please do no tmake excuses for not trying your best. It IS scary out here but you will meet and befriend people who will give you even more varied versions of life and not all of it is racist. Do not live a stereotypical TV type of life and know that most people staring have had a bad experience with someone of African ethnicity and it is not personal about you..... Good Luck

Answer 7

yea I experienced these a lot. I live in D.C. and people look at me as if to say that I'm just a regular black 20 year old until they see my house, hear my intelligence and knowledge when I speak, and realize that I have so many connections with the government. They they're tying to befriend me. It didn't make me feel anything because I know who I am inside and I know who I'm striving to be. I'm not racist. I love all races....especially Italian!

Answer 8

right..and you actually care about some uneducated shop owner giving you a dirty look??
let me tell you something; as a mulattio, i've experienced more discrimination than you'll ever receive in your life and the worst part is that it's from both white people and black people :

white person to me: oh! you're black!
blakc person to me : oh! you're white!

yes,world's not fair and yes people will stare but i don't give a **** and i wonder why you're even bothering yourself.

so what if stuff like this continue to happen?hell, i'm gonna marry some hot asian dude and walk the streets with him in my hot pants blowing kisses at every guy who gives me a look (whether it's 'dirty' or 'flirty'). what do i care!!???

Answer 9

Yes, I have bachelors degree and Im white. Because Im white I dont get anything for free. There are no quotas put on companies that say they have to have x percentage of white folk working there and really pisses me off. I dont have any special (white only colleges) to send my kids to. I dont have any government organizations looking out for whity like the NAACP. Al (not so sharp) Sharpton and Jessi Jackson wont stand up for me either. And when I go to bars, the gilrs are looking for black guys and because Im white they look past me. Its not easy being white, it’s a bunch of BS. I sure do wish I was a black man in this world / USA!!

Answer 10

Of course you are disillusioned and even shell-shocked. The truth of the matter is it happens in suburbs too. You were apparently fortunate in the past and not exposed to it, but racism is everywhere. All you can do is hold your head high, look and act respectable and teach those bigots around you that they are just plain ignorant. Unfortunately, they are behaving out of their experiences. Show them how wrong they are and don't let them get you down.

Answer 11

Of course, it's a racist world. That Asian store owner has probably been stolen from by blacks more than any other race. You being black makes him cautious of you. But who is the racist? The Asian guy protecting his goods or the blacks who have stolen from him?