My cousin keeps on getting her friends to ganging up on me, and that's all over family related buisness, she calls me a whore, when she's the one that wears see thru shirts! It isnt fair, and i have scratches, bruises, and end upp crying myself to sleep, tell wht to do, and y they keep on ganging up.
She was the one who started the fight, i just blocked her.
I know it doesnt blong here, but if i put it anywhere else, i wont get answers.
2007-08-21 10:00:18 · 14 answers · asked by Meh. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im 13, and rather not have sex now
2007-08-21 10:05:30 · update #1
I dont live with her, her friends live near me, and she gets them up on me by calling them to do that
2007-08-21 10:06:14 · update #2
It all started when i ignored her over IM, and she began to call me a whore slut, skank, and everything else. Then when i answer her, she curses at me more and i blocked her. Then she and her best buds ganged up on me
2007-08-21 10:08:41 · update #3
she's a rebel, and wont listen to anything. She will just beat me up harder if i do that
2007-08-21 10:13:13 · update #4
I dont blieve in violence
2007-08-21 10:28:57 · update #5
If you are being physically mistreated, you can always talk, you know, your parents, her parents, a school councelor, talk to whoever you need to put an end to this. Don't worry about what others will say if you tell on them, you are already being treated poorly.
As for the insults, as long as you know you are not a whore, then don't let it bother you. Insults hurt when they hold a little truth, and if it doesn't, then just become a queen of ice and don't let it bother you.
Can I ask how this all started?
2007-08-21 10:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Police. You need help before they become really serious. It doesn't matter why and who started... Fighting is not for civilized people. One warning from police and all her friends will run away from her. It's her business, they won't suffer because of her. Go to a doctor and ask to fix on a paper all the bruises, scratches to prove they beat you. it will help you later. What about your parents, the situation looks so that you're a teenager... school teachers and all other elder. people can help you. you should definetly go to police and make them write it all down - who is doing it to you and so on. If something more serious will happen you'll need it. You can also need it if you'll have to defend yourself and will damage one of them. You need a proof that you were defending, not fighting. And you need to make a lot of grown-ups to know it, as well as all your friends. Let people know that she's not white and fluffy. Don't be afraid. There is always a way out. buy a pepper spray, just in case.
About martial arts: I'm good in judo, took part in some competitions and I should tell you
1)it won't work against many people, if you hurt one or 2 of them - others will hurt you much more,
2)I had to stop trainings because I was seriously injured during a competition, it often happens during trainings... think well.
3)if you injure them seriousely they'll say you attacted, not they. There are many of them and you are alone.... Police can think you lie.
4)the best battle is the one that never started, and one of the main things in judo - somtimes you have to step back before you win, be clever not stubborn and dumb like this people. Use your mind, not your strength. be canning.
2007-08-21 17:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your cousin and friends are not human. They are animals and should be respected and treated as such. To physically harm someone is a felony (aggravated assualt, terrorist threats, etc,.). You call the police if they harm you or make threats. That is not being 'chicken', that is standing up for your rights. They should know they are criminals in societies mind. Theyr'e on their way to prison eventually anyhow displaying that behavior. You don't need to live in fear. If your'e afraid to do this because you fear retribution you better remember one fact, it won't stop. She's not your cousin. Cousin's treat family with respect. She's an animal and belongs in a cage. You take action now and suffer the short run pain or suffer for the rest of your life (it's called deep emotional scaring). Then do me a favor. Stop hanging around with these people, because if you do you deserve what you get. If they keep coming after you file a restraining order. With a restraining order one phone call gets them off the streets. They WILL back off. They're animals. Ever see how far and fast the big bad dog runs when the dog catcher shows up.
2007-08-21 17:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by eagleman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people are assaulting you, call the police. Invest in a spray can of mace.
No person usually stands a chance against a gang. Try to take out the leader, sometimes the group will disperse. Take some self defense classes like Judo.
Also, don't have a battle of wits with "unarmed opponents" if you know what I mean. Just ignore your cousin.
2007-08-21 17:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but you need to let your parents in on this. If they won't do anything since she is family, then notify her parents or the person in charge of your surroundings (principal, police, etc..) Hopefully her actions will stop. Maybe you should comfront her over the phone about the situation and try to come to an agreement. Let her know that other's actions in your family are out of your control.
Usually someone who is a bully will go on and pick on someone else if they know you aren't intemidated by them.
It is hard to do sometimes, especially if they are in a group and you are alone. Good luck dear!
2007-08-21 17:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your aunt or uncle about it(her parents). and she will learn her lesson. or just simply walk up to her and say clearly and boldly " look, i know u have a problem with me, and i cant help that. but get this through ur thick skull we are family! we are related, and we are suppose to be there for eachother! and who knows maybe ur being a ***** by making sure i get hurt physicaly, because what? ur insecure about urself and think im lucky in some way. i dont know what ur problem is if its jealousy, or i did something before, but u better look back to realize the damage uve caused that will always be right there behind u(say her name here)!" dont be afraid to stand up to her, and tell ur parents whats up or hers.
2007-08-21 17:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg im so sorry.
your cousin has some serious problems.
i know it sounds like the weeny thing to do but tell your aunt or uncle. they need to know what a B your cousin is..
thats really not right.
you shouldnt have to deal with that from your family, your family is sposta be there to help you and back you up on everything.
i really am sorry.
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2007-08-21 17:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by ♥jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, find a resource and take lessons on how to defend yourself. You are obviously smarter than your cousin and her thug friends so use that to your advantage.
If you can afford to go find a martial arts class, it will teach you a lot in defending yourself and many other things.
Good luck.
2007-08-21 17:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by Doogle Magoogle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell god to help you and he will but mean with your heart and if your parents care tell them and if they don't get a friend that your parents don't know tel their parents the whole story and and they'll let stay the night OK do you best and tell them straight up that what ever you guys do to stop this is my house i wont let you do this at my house and I'm through with it and move good luck sweetie.....
2007-08-21 17:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by QuEeN #1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for forgivness or Move out. You could kick her a$$ when she is alone or get ur own gang on her. Sleep with her BF or something.
2007-08-21 17:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by Vanka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋