I'm 24 - living alone and paying my own bills also live faraway from parents. My boyfriend is 35 and he has a 5 yrs old son from his previous relationship.
I love him so much that I want him to be proud of me. But one day, when his son was with him when I was there - I had to sleep on his son's bedroom (not with him), because he uses to sleep with him when he's around and on his son's mind is only both of them - no one else. He didnt even kiss or hug me in front of him made me feel that I've been pushed away.
Then I was at the end of anger when he asked me to sleep on his son's bedroom. Really pissed me off that made me ended up on the couch.
I want him to be proud of me. I want to know how to act maturely and understand his feeling also tolerate his son. But what is an adult? How to act maturely? How to tolerate a 5 yrs old? For me, I think he should learn to sleep on his own bedroom so I can have cuddles at night. Is it selfish?
2007-08-21 09:51:51 · 3 answers · asked by Livtotell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I hope you don't share a place with this guy! I don't think your'e being immature, he is being controlling. If you have your own place, next time his son visits, go home. The relationship doesn't sound like a healthy one. I'm not saying it's the age difference, just his attitude. Go find yourself a nice guy who doesn't act ashamed you!
2007-08-21 11:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by zen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may already be doing what you need to do. It's not easy to be in this type of relationship. As for tolerating a five year old, I think your probably doing okay. It may be just the opposite of what you think. It's probably much more of a matter of the five year old tolerating you. If you think about it, you probably make the poor kid feel uncomfortable because if he wants to visit his dad he has to see you too? Also though, the kid should learn to sleep in his own room at five, or he'll be a baby for the rest of his life.
2007-08-25 08:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by jazzband08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he isn't divorced. he is afraid the son will tell his real girlfriend (wife, the boy's mother) that he sleps with you !
2007-08-21 10:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by da' boss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋