MOST guys are better than girls when it comes to approaching and hitting on a desirable stranger. And until a relationship gets underway, guys usually are better at initiating sex. It'll be really nice when ALL girls get to be just as good at these two things as the guys are!
Studies have shown that the female sex drive is JUST as strong as the male one. It'll be great when society in general is clearly able to observe the evidence of it.
(And -- just as girls enjoy getting hit upon, most of the time, guys, too, find it DELIGHTFUL when girls act that same way toward them! **Really** delightful!!)
Back in the BAD ol' days, before the Sex Revolution of the '60s and '70s, much of society moronically criticized sexually-liberated girls and women. But it's the 21st century now, and -- fortunately! -- most such critics these days are very properly regarded to be laughingstocks & busybodies. So why aren't the gals, on average, as likely to be as openly assertive as the guys are?
2007-08-21 09:48:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To "BaldTom" -- You've put your finger on one of the IRONIES of all this. Once a relationship has gotten going, assertiveness on both parties, equally, is pretty commonplace. My question deals entirely upon FIRST contact with a fascinating stranger, and the FIRST dates. *Those* are the times when reticence on the part of females is most likely to manifest itself.
2007-08-21 10:11:32 · update #1
to "milepost211" -- LOL!! Google "roadrat" and you'll see who the *original* Road Rat REALLY is. And has been for 30 years. (The one who runs roadrat.com.)
2007-08-21 10:13:51 · update #2
To "Love Child" -- GOOD for you!! As for those **losers**... the guys who don't regard so-called "easy" girls to be marriage candidates -- screw them!! The ONLY girls I've ever valued as potential mates are ones who DON'T play games, or hard to get. The supposed "easy" ones are the opposite-sex equivalent of ME. So why would I *not* value them as VERY worthwhile people? To me, there's nothing dumber than playing "games" with sex. Sex is the world's greatest form of recreation, so there is NO reason for *either* sex to be either coy or judgmental about it. Guys and gals BOTH should rank sex right up there with bowling, good movies, and roller coasters... only BETTER!
2007-08-26 12:46:23 · update #3
there are lots of sexually aggressive girls. personally, i prefer to be the initiator, because when guys initiate it, the consider it to be a conquest. and dammit, i like to think of myself as a conquorer too.
the problem with the girls who wait for the guys to make the moves...many girls look at those girls as easy or slutty. why would we be looked down upon by our own sex and not think the opposite sex will look down upon us too. and there are those guys who are really nice til they get u in bed and then they complain that you're too easy. what the hell do you guys want? if we let u hit it, we're not the girlfriend type. but if we take too long, you guys leave and look for someone who puts out!
2007-08-22 05:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Love Child 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't think you are going to win any fans with this one: "It'll be really nice when ALL girls get to be just as good at these two things as the guys are!" I think it comes down to hunting and gathering. Guys are usually looking for sex. Girls are usually looking for a relationship. You can throw enough darts at the board and eventually hit a bullseye. But being selective is more refined. In other words, guys looking for sex can usually find it by hitting on as many girls as possible. Girls, on the other hand, albeit with the same level of sex drive, are selective about their companions. In the end, it doesn't come down to girls not being as assertive in either approaching guys or initiating sex. Most of them are probably being selective. If you were a chick would you want to go home with a dude with a beer gut? Or would you hold out for something more?
2016-05-19 01:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what you are talking about...
I have had some woman that were VERY aggressive while we were dating. I'm not going to go into any details here because there are little ones present. But I have NEVER been going out with someone who was afraid to initiate anything.
Where are you living? Maybe that's the difference.
2007-08-21 09:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by BaldTom 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i can tell u why i anit as open and assertive i know i anit speaking for all the females in the world but i like when guys come up and start flirting and then i flirt back but i know me and most of my friends r like that cause it is just easer than going up to a guy and getting turnt down on the spot
2007-08-21 09:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by mary b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with what you've said. The answer: socialization, mostly through the media. Those women who will simply be themselves are indeed assertive, as they will pursue what they want. Those who are societal drones will not do so, and it sucks for them.
2007-08-21 09:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's just not the way we roll. It's the male of the species that pursues. I know how to get what I want, if I want it. "IF" being the operative term.
2007-08-21 10:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Methinks the problem is that old attitudes die hard.
2007-08-21 09:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men chase because they have too--sex isn't normally offered to them.
Women don't need to chase--sex is offered all the time and when it isn't, all they have to do is ask.
2007-08-21 09:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
HEY!
You stole my handle! There is only one RAT here, and it be me!
The original Roadrat.
The Rat!
2007-08-21 09:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Simple. Men are outties and women are inies.
2007-08-21 09:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋