How can I prevent my girlfriend from seeing someone else? I am not sure if I am insecure. I just don't want to lose her.
2007-08-21 09:44:46 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're girlfriend's seeing someone else, I don't really think she's your girlfriend anymore.
Just take your dignity and leave.
2007-08-21 09:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by AnarchyONtheSHORTbus 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you cannot prevent her from seeing someone else if she wants to. You do not own her or control her and you shouldn't try. That being said...why do you think she's going to see someone else? Have you mistreated her somehow? If so, then you need to do some soul searching and figure out why you behaved in such a way and then make amends. That may not be the case, but if you think you may be insecure, this is your problem. Why should she have to deal with someone who is insecure? Why are you insecure? How old are you anyway? You may be too young to be so worried about losing someone. Clingy people are not usually seen as desirable.
2007-08-21 16:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Dog but there are no promises and no guarantees in this life. You take a big chance when you love.
The best you can do is treat her with respect and caring. Keep your promises and don't make promises you can't keep. Be faithful to her and loyal. Make her family like your family and put her as close to first as possible. That is how a good relationship is made.
If you are insecure, get counseling. It is not her fault or her problem. Just remember; you cannot control the behavior of other's. It is just not possible unless you are a psychopath and that, dear, is a far different story.
Best of luck. Hugs. Nana
2007-08-21 16:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's how: Be more attractive than anyone else (in her eyes).
I'll be brutal with you, dude: You are insecure. That's OK. Face up to it and work on becoming more secure.
Your question now should be: how can I be more attractive? Go work on that for a few years. Hint: it's 99% about your inner game and only 1% about your appearance. Shower, clean-up, get some nice duds, then work on your insides. (Like being secure, not paranoid, etc.)
Here's another idea: girls can't help you be a better man. You need other men around you to help with that. Girls can be great for opinions of style, etc (in fact, when getting good duds, take a very stylish girl with you to help). But for your inner game stuff, you need some male friends who you trust to tell you like it is, call you on your BS, and so forth.
2007-08-21 16:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can't control things that are out of your control. I would be confident in your relationship with her. If there is something that makes you uneasy i would talk to her about it. Communication is key...but I would say for sure whatever the situation is there is NO reason to stop her from seeing someone that will be the thing that pushes her away. Be confident. There is a reason why she is dating you!
2007-08-21 16:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sam s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are girls who cheat and don't cheat, there are also girls who can cheat because.... and can not cheat if everything ok. I don't really know who your girl is... I can tell you why some girls cheat (statistics), some do it because of curiosity(under 20), some try to revenge(when bf is cheating), some do it because they are bored (their boyfriend pays no attention to them, takes them for granted, that happens after one or some years togather)... but also statistics say that every 4 man is cheating, every 9 woman is cheating. You have more chances to do it yourself. In most cases people don't cheat while they are satisfied, I think if you'll be attentive to her you'll feel when something is wrong. if you do - talk to her. It's important not to keep something bad inside, talk... It's ok to be jealous, don't be afraid to tell her but don't press on her and control her. May be she is afraid that you'll cheat too.
2007-08-21 17:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, If she's going to see someone else there is nothing you can do to stop her. Just let her know that you are interested in her and only her, hopefully she feels the same way.
2007-08-21 16:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by labken1817 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how much you care about her and how much you enjoy the time you spend with each other. Don't smother her because that will definitely cause her to look elsewhere if she feels trapped. Just be yourself and love her the best you can. If she reallly loves you and wants to be with you, she won't stray and you guys will be fine.
2007-08-21 16:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by PuertoRican Hottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u don't give her a reason to leave then she won't leave so your insecurity iz coming from somewhere. where ever it iz coming from u need to put it away b4 she notices and that is a big turn off to girls. just b yourself and stay true to that and if she leaves u at least u know she left u and not someone who u weren't.
2007-08-21 16:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by DetroitFynest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay some one said lock her up, dont do that, the only thing a girl wants more than something she can hace is something she cant, shes bound to cheat on you if you do that, right her cute cheesy poems, you know make her fall in love with you again everyday, and if she dresses up for svhool one day its probably to impress you, not to get another guy
2007-08-21 16:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by spaggs912 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋