I have a question for you. My mother is overbearing and trying to control me now at the age of 26. She has come to the point where she tells me kids they don't have to listen to me but to her. She answers them when they say mommy. She has also went as far as to go to the school and ask what their visitation policies are during the school day. I wondered if anybody had any advice as to how to deal with her and make her stay away from my kids while they are in school. Also to help her understand they are my kids and she can't just do whatever she wants with them and not ask me.
2007-08-21 09:43:03 · 6 answers · asked by Ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is doing that cos she loves her grandchildren. Tolerate with her. After all she is your mum!
2007-08-21 13:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by Roohan Selvan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your mother down and tell her firmly that you love her, but she has gone to far. They are your children to raise. And that you do not want her to undermine your authority. Set down your rules, and boundaries if you do not she will keep it up.
Tell her in no uncertain terms that she will not visit your children in school. Go into the school office and tell them You might have to put it in writing that your mother is not allowed to visit your children. Or take them off school property, unless they have it in writing that she may.
Stand firm, and do not back down. Good Luck
2007-08-21 16:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to sit in a quite place where there is no one around no children no ppl no one bc she mite be emotional. you have to tell her u think she's over doing it. and that she is hurting you by her actions. Let it all out in the out and open so that way she knows excally what ur saying and won't do it again or go to their skol. and if it bothers u that much go to the skol and tell them u don't want no one visting ur kids during skol time.
2007-08-21 17:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sit her down and say mom i love you and i think u did a great job raising me but i am the parent now not u. let me raise my children like u raised urs. you are a grandparent not the parent.
2007-08-21 16:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN GO TO THE SCHOOL AND MAKE SURE HER NAME ISNT ON THE PAPERS WHERE SHE CAN GO UP THEIR TO FIND OUT ANYTHING ON THEM AND I WOULD SET HER DOWN AND TELL HER YOURE THE PARENT NOT HER SHE IS GRANDMA THATS IT AND SHE NEEDS TO STOP ANSWERING TO MOMMY BECAUSE SHE IS NOT THEIR MOM AND MAYBE SHE WILL CHANGE
2007-08-21 16:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell the school she isn't allowed acsess to the kids and tell your mom she can't see them until she can respect the boundaries.
2007-08-21 17:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋