I am married with a 2 yr old and money is tight. A spot opened up next to her and I know we'll get a good deal. However, is this potentially a disatrous situation? Hmm. what do you think?
2007-08-21 09:36:37 · 27 answers · asked by ☆miss☆ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wouldn't do it.
2007-08-21 09:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is too general to be answered specifically. For some people, it could be a disaster, for some it could work really well. It all depends on the individual case.
The real question should be, do YOU think it would be a bad idea for you? If you do, and can't foresee any resolution to the difficulties, then don't do it.
If you like the idea because you and your parents get on really well, go for it. On the face of it, it sounds as if they like the idea, or they wouldn't have made the offer. The next question is, why do they like it? If it's because they want to help you out, because they love you, and not because then they can exert more control over your life and interfere all the time, then do it, if that's what you want.
If you have previously had experience of their interfering that has made you unhappy frustrated and angry, then don't do it.
Only you can know the details of your relationship with them, so only you can make the decision. But if you yourself like the idea because your relationship has always been good, don't be put off by other people saying it's always a bad idea. It needn't be, and you should go with your gut instinct. It's nothing to do with other people, because they don't know the facts like you do.
Good luck. I hope you make the decision that's right for you.
wimsey
2007-08-21 16:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be the best and worst of both worlds.
If your parents are going to be helpful and not hindering it will be great. If you allow them to help and not use them it will be great.
If they will give you privacy and respect you as an adult it will be good.
BUT
If your parents show signs of being controlling and intrusive it won't be a good idea to live so close.
Talk to your husband and your parents. Be sure you are all on the same page. Set boundaries that you can all live with.
Good luck
You gotta do what you gotta do.
2007-08-21 16:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by Rita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends what your relationship with your parents is like, If you have been having problems with them it might be a bad idea. But if you have a good relationship with them, it would be great for you to have the support right next door and it would also be great for your 2 year old to have Grandma and Grandpa nearby.
You have to make that decision based on how well you get along with your parents.
2007-08-21 16:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the mother and father. I love my inlaws dearly and my husband does too, but we would never live next to them. They have a little too much drama for us. My parents on the other hand, we could easily live next too. They are very easy going and it would not be a problem. If you think it won't work....don't do it, it could ruin the relationships.
2007-08-21 16:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by hooahwife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally.....i think it would be a huge mistake.But at the same time if thats all you can afford it's probaly best that you do whats right for your kid.Just make sure you set up some rules if you do move in...you dont want them to be poping up like "everyone loves raymond"
2007-08-21 16:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think it's a bad idea although it is nice to be close to your parents when your older and have a life of your own you should focus on your life. You parents might start poking and prodding in your personal buisness and invading your life. They might start telling you what to do and still think they have control over you since your so close plus you don't want them spying on you...I don't think it's a good idea.
2007-08-21 16:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by twilightstarr420@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am glad this was posted because I will be moving right across the street from my P's in 2 weeks. I hope I am not making the wrong choice.
2007-08-21 16:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by Stuck in Fupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will work as long as your parents respect your privacy and aren't bothering you everyday. If you don't think there capable of doing that, then don't do it. What is your gut feeling about it? That's often a good judge.
2007-08-21 16:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do cause sometimes when you live close to your parents they try to take over your child . My M.I.L. tried that business when i became a widow and had to go to work to support myself and my child and i had to live next door to them . My M.I.L was my babysitter . It is just a bad sittuation all the way around . good luck .
2007-08-21 16:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could see living in the same town, but next door..... that probably wouldn't be a good idea. I don't think...
2007-08-21 16:42:25 · answer #11 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋