Should I be on anti-depressants?

Question

My parents recently unexpectedly split up and although my father and I are devastated my mother seems to show no remorse what so ever.
She only just admitted that she had been cheating on my father with another man.
this man has been convicted of attempted rape several times all girls under the age of 25.
My grandfather has also recently been diagnosed with cancer of the pancreas which is also a big shock to us.
My mum threatens to move her new partner in which scares the crap out of me.
I have to look after my little brother who has special needs and gets distressed when she goes out form 6:30 till past midnight.
My mum has also started hitting me and insulting me which she never used to do on top of this I have to hear my dad moaning about how depressed he feels and how he feels like killing himself.
on top of this I have just changed school which has been stressful and sat important exams.
The doctor offered to put me on anti depressants but I refused things will only get worse.

If you are wondering my age I am 14

Whoever said they doubted my story I am extraemely annoyed it has been a really hard time for me the reason I didn't go on them is because I have been told it is hard to get off them.
The other added factor is that If anyone at school found out I would never live it down so think before you go writing stupid comments

Answer 1

Hey sweetie, its okay hang in there, i wont doubt you. I ve been thru alot in my past. I remember the age 14 being especially tough on me though. I am proud of you for being strong enough to deal with your situation without medication. That is very strong and mature of you. I strongly suggest you talk to your school counseler, or even a therapist. It sounds like you need to be the strong one for your brother and your dad. Your dad should see his doc and get put on antidepressants, they wil help him and some therapy with it. My parents divorced when i was very young like you and left us four kids to deal with it and my mom constantly was putting us in the middle of everything and tryin to get us against our dad when she was the one who messed around on him in the first place and she too was out til sometimes 2 in the morning. Her new boyfriend was a complete jerk too and she made us listen to him. Anyway, i am 27 and just recently started on antidepressants cuz alot of my stuff from my childhood is hitting me now, and i hate the fact that i am not strong enough to be without them. But they help now. I wish the best of luck to you sweetie, please dont give up and stay strong! I admire you so much for being strong! Take care of you and your lil bro, keep you and him safe! If you ever need someone to talk to, I am here. Take care hun!

Answer 2

I'm so sorry you are going through all this! I'm glad you turned down the meds. I would move in with your Dad if you can if your Mom has that awful guy move in! You are old enough to choose who you want to live with! Don't worry about your little Brother, I know you love him, but he is your Mother's responsibility, not yours. You have to take care of YOU! Just hang on honey, things WILL get better, it's just going to take some time. I would have a talk with your Father and tell him how bad it affects you to hear him say the stuff he does and that he should find someone to talk to. Do you have an Aunt or someone you could call and talk to? It will help you to talk out your feelings. Try not to let your Grandfather being sick worry you, we all have to go sometime and it's just his time soon. Death is a natural part of life, hard yes, but something you can accept. This is just a difficult time for you, and there will be many more times like this over the years. It will make you a strong woman who will be able to deal with anything that comes your way! Just take care of you the best you can and hang on, things always change!

Answer 3

First of all, i'm really sorry to hear you're in such a tough situation. It's hard being young and losing a parents. I just recently went through a divorce from a man who cheated on me so I can see how your father feels. But over time, he'll heal and find that special person he's meant to be with. It takes time. As for you, I think you should see about going with your father rather than living with your mother, especially if she's thinking about moving the convict in. That's very dangerous for you, especially since you are a teenage girl. Talk to you father and maybe he can help you come up with a plan for leaving (if it's what your heart truly desires). There's no excuse for a mother who loves her children to hurt them physically in any way and she should put her children before ANY man. Maybe you should consider the anti-depressants also. I took them when I was 14...there's no harm in finding something that might take the edge off and help you be more at ease. Again, i'm sorry about your situation. Best of luck to you and i'll be praying!

Answer 4

Don't go on anti-depressants unless you are suicidal. Depression can be a normal, healthy response to a situation as stressful and messed up as this. Depression isn't a bad thing, just when it goes on for too long or is bad enough that a person becomes non-functional or suicidal.
Try as best as you can to avoid situations that cause you too much distress or pain. If your mother beats you don't see her. If you're dad starts moaning about how depressed he is just get out of the house and go somewhere. This is not something that's appropriate to be sharing with a 14 year old anyway. He should either get help or talk to friends or relatives about it, not children. Do whatever you can to stay out of that negative environment.

Answer 5

First of all, there is no way, shape, or form that you and your brother should be living with your mother. None. This sounds simililar to a situation my friend and her sisters were in when they were younger, their mother brought home a man who started sexually abusing them. GET OUT OF THERE. No matter how much you love your mom, she needs professional help that you can't give. Bringing home a convicted offender shows that she is not in her right mind and not able to be a caretaker or parent to you or your brother. You are probably best off staying with another family member for a while, even if it is your dad. You should also advise your father to get help. I cannot stress enough how much of a dangerous situtaion this is. It may be difficult, but is best.

Also I think you might want to rethink those anti-depressants, the doctor wouldnt offer them to you without reason.

Stay strong!

Answer 6

As Salaam to you all, Taking any remedy for a real sickness isn't Haram, even supposing that remedy has alcohol inside it. Enough has been mentioned approximately anti-depressants through different members to this question however it's as much as the person and what the health care provider has prescribed that issues. It is as much as the person to take or now not take the prescription in the event that they real consider and consider that they are able to do with out it, or the health care provider may also be motivated into prescribing an choice remedy. Wa Salaam

Answer 7

If you had talked to your doctor he would have called social services. Was your mother with you when you went to the doctor. He can not treat you unless there is a parent with you. He would have to report abuse. If all this really is happening you need to call a social worker and get some help for yourself. Your parents do not have the ability to protect you at this time. You kneed some support from an adult. Another idea would be to go to your school counselor and tell her what you wrote down here. Get some help!!!!! Your parents are messed up. Get some help if not for yourself for your little brother. It sounds as though you care about what happens to him. I know it's hard and not fair but find an adult that will help you.

Answer 8

Wow! That's a lot to deal with at age 14. First of all, medication is not the answer to your problems. That type of drug should be used only for people who have chemical problems or some kind of disorder. Anti-depressants are not a game at all. They should NOT be toyed with. It would take a person with a chemical problem or a disorder of some kind several months to find the right medication for them, plus there is a severe suicide risk for people under the age of 18. You do NOT want to be on suicide watch, believe me. I think you need to find a family counselor of some kind as soon as possible. Maybe it's time to call a social worker as well. If you ever need some advice or someone to confide in, please feel free to email me through Y!A. I'm always willing to listen and to give advice. Take care, and good luck!

Answer 9

OK..there are two basic types of depression...1) Clinical...resulting from a physical imbalance in your brain and 2)situational..which is just what I think you have. I think if you ARE UNDER THE GUIDANCE OF A PHYSICIAN and you want to try an anti depressant, fine. HOWEVER...EVENTUALLY THE SITUATION HAS TO CHANGE OR YOU WON'T FEEL ANY BETTER. Get some counseling for yourself and your family and get this sorted out NOW, so you won't have to rely on drugs for a long period of time. Good Luck

Answer 10

It's your doctors choice. Antideppersants simply take away emotions but when put with counciling they can help. No offoense but what your whole family needs is therapy and medication. And persoanlly I would get you and your brother out of your mothers care.
Right now it sucks but life will get better do what your doc says and refer your parents to him if you can.
Hope I could help.

Church is'nt always the answer espisally when you feel hopeless your faith in God would only be tested too much. Finally you need a specialist counseller if you choose to do so not a school one because they will never keep anything in confidence ever.