There are guys who IN THEIR MINDS think they're unattractive (not ugly...just not the hottest person...in between...not bad looking at all) and everyone around him knows
but if he were to be with (in his point of view) a "beautiful" girl, that would raise his confidence...
but would it be raised to a point where he thinks he can get ANY girl or will reality always be in the back of his head telling him, "this is as good as it gets..."
2007-08-21 08:56:27 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not the most attractive guy out there, and I know it... So, yes, I have low confidence...
If I had a beautiful girl that was a b*tch, I'd dump her... Even if I thought I could never date a more attractive woman, I'd know that I can find a better match. If I had a beautiful girl that was awesome, I'd keep her!
But never would I think that I can get "any woman"... Even though people say anyone has a chance and that "leagues" don't exist!
2007-08-21 09:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone has low self esteem, they'll probably have those issues regardless of who they're with. Maybe its just a thing that they can grow out of or maybe they'll need some therapy for it later on in life. Dating a beautiful girl may build up a guys confidence and make him want to see what other beautiful women he can get, or he may actually appreciate what he has, depending on whether she has a good personality to go along with her good looks.
2007-08-21 09:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by JohnB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ANY guy/gal can have low self esteem. It does NOT matter what you look like, how old you are, how much money you've got, or if you're wearing the latest fashion, etc...
Lack of confidence can affect anyone. I have a friend who is beautiful! She is part Black and part Hispanic, long, dark, curly hair, and gorgeous green eyes. She thinks she is ugly! She hates everything about herself.
I think sometimes it is how you are treated by others... AND it does not matter if you are with someone attractive looking either...
2007-08-21 09:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy can have low self esteem whether attractive or unattractive. My ex fiance was very attractive and seemed confident in the beginning but after knowing him over time I learned that he had a low self esteem and not to brag but having me as a very attractive girlfriend didn't seem to bare much weight if any on his opinion of himself, if anything I think it made him feel he wasn't attractive enough to have me and didn't really deserve me. His low self esteem which led to other things was the reason for our break up.
2007-08-21 09:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by maryv2013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An unattractive guy has low confidence only when he pounds on the thought he 'unattractive'.
Perhaps if such a person gets a good looking girl,his perception of his self-image might change and he will have a positive image about himself.
2007-08-21 09:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A beautiful woman, would not raise my confidence, why cuz she could be wit me 4 other reason than my look. YOur only confident in yourself when you can go to any women and ask for there phone number, even if the say no.Dat still shows confidence in yourself.YOur body, mind, and money boots my confidence. Not a women.
2007-08-21 09:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by dzzznutzzz_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it incredibly is no longer unavoidably unattractive for a guy to be shy or have a low shallowness. it could actually be a turn off if the guy is purely too confident in himself. attempt to discover an in between... purely concentration on being extremely joyful with your self... that's the main tasty factor.
2016-11-13 02:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by dorval 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known plenty of people who weren't physically "attractive" but had plenty of confidence...they were rarely without a partner also.
I've known plenty of attractive people who were lacking in confidence, and many were single or in unsatisfying relationships.
I think an unattractive guy being with an attractive girl doesn't raise his confidence so much as it was his high confidence in the first place, that drew her to him.
2007-08-21 09:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am no more or less confident than when I met my beautiful gf. I had to raise my confidence prior to approaching her, though.I got to a point (and am still there, I guess) where I don't assume I could get any girl, but I'm not afraid or timid to talk to any girl, either, and that's what it ultimately took to get my girl.
2007-08-21 09:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends, unattractive and rich ?
unattractive and a doctor, lawyer, military officer ??
unattractive and well endowed and a good lover?
unattractive and a brilliant actor or musician?
the confidence is raised based on the behavior of the girlfriend not her looks
2007-08-21 09:02:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋