how do abusive childhoods generally affect the child into adulthood?

Question

sam your answer seems a little cold,its very much straight out of textbook 1st year psychology and not from experience

Answer 1

usually it has very long lasting negative affects

they can pop up in numerous ways and would take a whole novel to cover

lets just put it this way coming from a psy student- if you go by what all texts tell you abuse as a child almost certainly dooms a person into there adult years to have long lasting problems in relationships, jobs, stablity, happiness, and health

Answer 2

Hi Marian

Your question is a deeper one and it really needs an experience.
Let me give a Try

Well as you know human mind always has a lot to store its an infinite chambers where different things , memories , colours and lots more are put in, when it come to memories the happiness the joy these are memories where a person can forget as during the happy moments the persons mind is enjoying and stores faded memories but the crucial or very sad or something which is very unusual leaves a very darkened imprint and those memories are un eraseable.
Coming to a point a child who is abused during his childhood who has been in fear shall have a very dark impact and as he grows its in his life if he learns that the things whioch he has gone thru was a worst thing he shall never pass thru others or to the next gen eg: Achild who is been illtreated by his step mother or father when grows up in a better community will never treat his children or any other child in his family but if he grows in a surroundings where hateredness and vulgarity is more than he shall be more wild then what his parents were and can be more fericous.

My conclusion is every humanbeing has stages of life where he learns (childhood), developes (teenage) matures (Adult)
so what ever he gets in childhood developes during his Teens and gives the output when hes an Adult so during the Teens it depends on the enviroment he lives that what he is going to give the society in the future

Marian if u need more calrifications mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 3

Hello
When you are asking how it affects generally, it demands a theoretical answer. Probably the question itself implies that it does affect the person adversely when one grows up. That is what research had shown.
It depends on how a child would take the experiences. I know several people who had taken the experiences positively- as growth promoting experiences, since nothing can be done about what had happened.
The wound would keep a scar and the scar can make a person withdraw or use the scar as an identification mark, use it positively to differentiate from other people.
Working with the experiences sometimes had been traumatic, when the perpetrator turns out to be a person whom one cannot imagine.
A careful working through the trauma is needed to help the process of growth, and it depends not on the intensity of the abuse, but how the person had perceived the abuse at the time of occurrence and later.
A difficult path, but could definitely see the light at the end.. . !
Swami Manickananda

Answer 4

There are so many studies on this
1) Some say the child will pick up the abusive habits, and use them on others..
2) Some say the child will learn that its a horrible life and want better for their own families, and leave this horrible childhood behind
I sure hope the second answer works most of the time
Could only imagine living in an abusive childhood
Great Question

Answer 5

. The child up to the age of 6 or 7 will take in his mind what are all the experiences it witnesses and imprint in his mind or brain. That template will be his hard disc throughout his life and it will get the data's from the hard disc and use it whenever he wants it. This is psychology. So, the childhood bad and good memories will be registered in his data and it will be recalled when the situation is called for. The same bad things will be again and again will be showing its colour even after his adult age . This should be removed and properly dealt with only by psychological counselling. Yours VRVRAO

Answer 6

Abuse is traumatic. Trauma can affect all aspects of a child's life.

1) A child can witness and thus learn that "this is how people deal with anger."

2) A child who is sexually abused can be confused about sexual boundaries, limits, or appropriate feelings well into adolescence and adulthood, which can predispose him or her to act out sexually or commit sexual crimes.

3) A child who is physically abused learns that his parents' ills are the child's fault. Believing this can destroy self-esteem, making a child chronically feel like she or he will never be successful in life and thus there is no use trying.

4) A child who is abused may never have a secure attachment with a parent, therefore never knowing that someone will always be there to take care of him or her, never feeling truly worthy of love, and therefore never know how to really trust another person.

Answer 7

child abuse can be very traumatizing,depending what kind, for how long, n who was the abuse; all have long time affects on the child. what makes the individual follow the same pattern; because that's how they were raised, being in a abusive home, the children learn to think that's normal, they don't know any better, abusive parents raise children w/ low self esteem,lacking self worth, and have no confidences. As adults they continue w/ all the insecurities they still carry as a child. you think its a learn process an as adult they would be more conscience and aware of repeating the abuse. it sadden me to see adults abuse their family n continue the Madness

Answer 8

I grew up in an abusive household. I was an angry young adult. I was not as affectionate with my kids as I should have been.

I was molested. I am not all that intimate, don't really like it, but will accept that it is a natural part of adult married life.

I am a strong person, got through the crap of my childhood pretty much unscathed, but there are those who do not have the same chemical balance in their brains that would not come out as well as I did.

It depends on whether there was anyone to listen to them, anyone who told them they had value as children, and their own self-worth in the eyes of those who are abusing them.

It can affect the child by making them more afraid, more timmid, more shy, more strong, more stand-off-ish, more assertive... It really depends on the child.

Answer 9

In the most unfortunate cases, some people repeat the abuse that they experienced to others. For instance, a woman who was physically abused as a child may start abusing her children herself. A man that was sexually abused may continue to molest his children.

Other factors can be low self-esteem and trust issues like people mentioned previously, drug and alcohol abuse, promiscuity/unsafe sex, delinquency, poor grades..you get the idea.

BUT, this doesn't mean everyone will turn out like this. An abused child can come out unscathed if he or she has adequate support, a mentor, and the determination to succeed. It can be done, because I am determined to improve my outlook on things. I was sexually abused and verbally abused, but I was able to make something of myself and escape the path of sex, drugs, and what not that I was very close to choosing once. I still have some issues, but I'm working on it and I have gotten better compared to how I was in the past. Have hope in yourself.

Answer 10

a. - Generally the verbally abused child will rather physical abuse if it gets to a boiling point of anxiety. The verbally abused child will most often have very low esteem and will need reassurance on simple decisions through their life. Some will be suicidal, others will take it out through physical and or verbal means on other children. As they go into adulthood, highly depending on circumstances and mental stability at the time, they will be very independent, almost too independent, they will still maintain a low self esteem and have trust issues with other fellow co-workers and acquaintances.

b. - Physically abused children most often carry a hefty emotional toll, trust issues form first, fear of any touch, quick reaction, fear of most noises, and from time to time the corrupt child who will take it on their fellow students. They will be uncertain of most decisions, very independent, reserved (or you will have the child who is complete opposite and can tell they are safe out of the house and will be outgoing outside of the household in which the physical abuse takes place), and again, trust issues. As they go into adulthood they will have trust issues with fellow co-workers and acquaintances, fear of touch and noises from childhood, health problems, and most times will be very insecure in their surroundings.

c. - The sexually abused child will be very insecure in the houshold, they will be fairly independent, reserved, confused, flustered, and most often there will be the opposite affects on varying children; some will not know their sexual boundaries, will get a sudden urge 'sexual craving', and then the child who fears touch and wont allow any sexual activities with their partner. In adulthood they are rather insecure, hold grudges, remorse, and regret of birth. Emotionally unstable.