I really like this girl and I don't want to screw it up, how should I proceed?

Question

I've known this girl for 29 days (Yes, I'm actually counting days, somethings really wrong. ha!) and I have fallen for her beauty and personality.

I don't want to **** this one up as its unique, so I'd like to get some advice on how I should proceed with her.

Thanks!

Answer 1

There is no one way to do it, otherwise woman would hate the method

Answer 2

I always start by winning them to my self by just being their friend first and then see how it proceeds, don't push just make it a habit of being around when you know where she is.
The main thing is BE YOURSELF, do not put on airs or pretend you like things she does only because she does. Most of all be a gentleman at all times. Watch your language, that can be a big turn off on some girls. eventually work up to asking her if she minds if you call her on the phone some time, and if she gives you her number you are on your way to a possible relationship. Be a listener and not a talker, you can find out a lot about a person just by letting them talk about themselves. Most of all just be her friend and be yourself and sort of point to how you feel about her with out making it sound like you are gonna kill yourself if she doesn't want to give you her number . Let her make most of the advances and she will if she is interested , you will know just by being around her for awhile, good luck I am pulling for ya!!

Answer 3

Bring something up but don't seem too obvious about liking them. When you talk just be yourself, then you can see if the girl likes you for who you really are.


Look in her eyes and be serious and not desperate. But if she looks away don't try it again. When she looks away, it's almost always her way of saying "oh great, I don't like you, but how can I be nice about it"

Comment on her sense of humor, good taste in music, or prowess on the dance floor. It's all right to compliment her clothes, hair, jewelry, etc., but you'll really win a girl's heart if she sees that you're into more than just her outside.

Don't tell girls - for that matter, anyone at all - they have a flaw unless you are OBVIOUSLY poking fun at them, even then only if you know they can take a joke, and know you well enough to know how to react to your teasing. Otherwise you risk putting them off.

Be funny. If you can make her laugh, you've as good as got her number then and there.


Don't try too hard. Girls will see you as needy and will not be attracted to you.



Tips:Always be yourself and act normal.

Never insult a girl unless you know she will take it as a joke.
Do not touch or talk about her stomach, most girls no matter how thin think they are fat. This is definitely a NO-GO area as far as girls are concerned.

Try to get on with her friends as without them on your side you've got no chance.

No matter what don't leave telling her how you feel for too long. If you think she might like you then ask her out. After all, she can only say no.

Please don't approach her if you know she has a boyfriend, as it is a lost cause (for the time being) and you don't want to offend her boyfriend!



Warnings If she doesn't seem happy with you, leave her be for 2 days with out approaching her, that will give her time to cool down and think straight again. After a couple of days she will be ready to talk to you again.

Answer 4

If you tell her you have been counting it will def. scare her away! So get to know her tastes and things she don't like. Take her out with some friends, too. And just when you think she is fully comfortable with you, take her out on a date with just you and her. If she's not comfotable don't even think about taking her on a date alone. So be patient and wait a little while, then tell her that you like her and see what she says. If she doesn't like you back that's fine because friends are great too and atleast you can still talk to her.

Try and play hard to get so she doesn't have any hints that you HAVE been counting the days?

Answer 5

Be yourself. First ask he out to the club or something public. Have a great time, take her home and leave. DO NOT try to sleep with her. Then call her the next day and see how she liked things. Then ask her out on a casual date at a nice place like AppleBees or something. Don't over do things. Just be yourself.

Answer 6

Well at some point you are going to have to approach her so she knows how you feel. But first I would see if you have any of the same interest in common. Then invite her out to one of the things the two of you share in common and get to know her. Don't go over board to fast and put her on the spot with flowers or a card yet. Take it slow

Good Luck!!

Answer 7

GO FOR IT!!! You can totally do this. There are 3 things i always think of when it comes to basketball and girls. 1. Goal setting. Think of a modest, accomplishable goal that you can with your situation, and try to acheive it to the best of your ability. 2. Positive thinking. this is a biggy. You have to be posisitve, the human mind has a tendancy to think negative things in situations, but change that and think about good things. 3. Imagery. Imagine yourself asking her out succesfully. It will give your mind a greater sense of confidence, and that rare, i can do this feeling. Put all those thoughts out of your mind like, "shes outta my league." Then go up to her, and give it your all.

Hope it works!

Answer 8

Here is something u don't want 2 do. Be a player. Girls don't like how guys try 2 sweet talk them. Be friendly. Hold doors open 4 her, call her every once in a while, and it wouldn't hurt 2 give her a gift every once in a while either.

Answer 9

You obviously really like her, if she likes you too and you know it then let her know if you havent already. If you dont know she likes you then try to find out by talking to her. If you 2 are kind of dating then spend time together, go on dates, meet up in normal situations, meet each others friends and family, show her and tell her how you feel, make her feel special. Just be together and get to kow each other!

Answer 10

Chill, relax dude. You know you sound ok -and you have to believe that your spirit will shine brightly and be a light for her too. Don't try to be fake, or do things you wouldn't ordinarily, let her see and get to know the real you --then you have no worries later. Just go with it, be happy and enjoy her company, that's what women like . .something who makes us shine.

Answer 11

well you know her we dont so its hard to say. just go super slow dont pressure her by saying how much u like her or anything that can be scary and make us run. give her space too! dont seem like you already har going out. live seperate lives still but hang out often. i just know from experience that needy and TOO overbearing guys have been a huge turn off, i like missing them and wanting to call them. a little challenge is good.