Here's the dirt: I went on a date Friday night with a guy I met in a bar across town. We met once before too. Friday, by the end of the night we were almost ready to go upstairs to my place -- pretty hot and heavy pretty fast...I told him my roommate is a neat freak and she gets upset about guys in the apartment late at night (untruth). She's visiting her dad till Sept 1. This weekend, he talked about meeting tonight and he says he wants to see my place, but I didn't tell him a little detail -- three guy friends from college have been staying over my apartment since last Wednesday night and may stay a while, since it's summer, they're looking for an apartment themselves, and we talked for several weeks how they should skip going to Cancun, since my apartment could be their Cancun alternative. We're having a big party get together, wild nights, etc...I can't bring myself to tell this guy about it. What in the world should I do? I don't think I can get my mom's advice about this one...
2007-08-21 08:28:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How strange! Why are you lying to this guy on your first/second date? If you really want to have sex with this guy, tell your friends to make themselves scarce (it's your place after all) or go to his place. If not, just tell him to slow down a little. Take control.
2007-08-21 08:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by leaptad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick them out until you're done, I'm sure that three college guys can figure out something to do. They could probably pick up girls themselves if they tried. Really, why do you need to keep this from the guy? He's not your boyfriend and you're still going to have sex with him, so really there's no reason either of you should care if he knows about the guys in your apartment. Just kick them out for a few hours so you can get the job done, and just call them after to let them know they can come back.
2007-08-21 08:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have used you for sex, but the tons of people also may have had the wrong opinion. It was probably that he is a hot guy and people didn't think you were hot enough for him and thought it a mismatch. From the things he did, I don't think he used you only for sex. People don't do those sorts of affectionate things unless they genuinely feel good when they're with you It may have been a mismatch, but the guy had lots of feelings for you so it wasn't only for sex. Don't beat yourself up, you're obviously a lovely girl.
2016-05-19 01:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in the first place sex is for married people only. That is the main thing this guy is after with you, not a relationship. If he had any respect for you, he would not ask for sex until he is committed to you in marriage. Why by the cow if you can get the milk free.
2007-08-21 08:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't do it with 3 "buddies" in town... you know damn well those "buddies" of yours would probably not like the akwardness of that happening while they are visiting... besides they would probably be jealous of the guy (no guy friends of any girls are seriously just friends... they are guys at heart and are always looking for a piece)...
Hope that helps
2007-08-21 08:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont have sex with him beacuse its only the 3rd date
If you wanna get together with him, have thosse 3 other guys leave for the night, you can find a way thery are guys.
2007-08-21 08:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by ~Brown Eyes~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You suggest going back to his place then. Just let him know you have friends visiting and taking up your personal space right now and you'll just have to hang at his place if that's what you're interested in doing.
2007-08-21 08:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell ur guy friends the problem, and they will probably go some place. if and when they're gone, take precaution they dont come in on you guys, that would be embarrassing, and very dramatic.
also try to tell ur guy that you have guy friends who come over, and that they're gone that night, if hes rite, hell understand.
2007-08-21 08:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by kiratasha13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say to ask the three guys that are staying over for advise.
2007-08-21 08:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by Genia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, you thought a bunch of strangers would know better than YOU what you should do about your own life... tell him you've got friends visiting.
2007-08-21 08:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by fdm215 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋