What does that mean? I'm not the type to change my boyfriends - that's why i pick good ones to begin with
does it mean like if he's not good at one thing, he'll work hard to improve? like if he drinks too much, he'll stop or if he's bad at communicating, he'll become more open and talk?
2007-08-21 08:13:11 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, more often than not, people do not change for their lover/spouse. People say, "I want to stay with them and help them change... He says he wants to!" Nineteen times out of twenty, it doesn't happen, and the couple lives their life in misery.
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2007-08-21 08:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying that a girl marries a guy hoping he'll change, and he doesn't.
He may go through the motions of trying to improve, but in the end, he will slip back into old patterns, because it's his comfort zone.
For a guy to change, he has to have some life-changing experience. He might get it through counseling, if he has to go; he might get it through a brush with death of himself or a close friend; he might be the one in a million who engages in introspection.
Love can change people, but if he drinks too much or communicates too little, I'd avoid getting tied down with this one, unless it becomes apparent that he's trying to change.
2007-08-21 08:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by Bill F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that men in their 20 and 30s are so much more immature than they were say 20 years ago. They are like big boys wanting to play with their toys and have a good time. Their parents have spoiled them and supported them for the better part of their life and as a consequence by the time they reach 30 they are about where adult males were when they were 20. You are better off to go for someone who is much older like 40 who will be more age appropriate for you. Women have always been a lot more mature than men probably because we have to be. Also maybe you are just a bit too pushy. Stop trying to push men into a commitment fastest way to scare them off.
2016-05-19 00:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a level of "domesticating" a man that comes with a serious relationship....he won't go out with the guys as much, he won't leave as much of a mess around his house, you might even see him wash his bedsheets once in a while! But like my BF is a fan of beer and I wouldn't change that about him. He drinks a couple nights a week to relax because his job is physically taxing and I don't think there's any problem with that. I don't mind that he plays video games sometimes or that he passes gas ALL THE TIME. Those are things that are just who he is and it's my job to love him for it. So, while some women would try to change those things about their man, I wouldn't.
2007-08-21 08:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will change only if he loves her, that is the only time and will be proven only if you try or actually walk away, because he will reasses himself and see what he can do without in his life to keep "the one" happy. This is because the best way to get to a guy is to take something away from him that he thought was automatic. Once he see's that its gone he will "if he loves you" change or adapt. If he does not then you are wasting your time. If he does then you truly know that deep down he loves you and that at least when times get harder you know what he is capable of doing.
2007-08-21 08:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by already1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
False! people dont change, they adapt to each other but they can never truly change who they are. If people respect each other then they will adapt to what the other persons needs are. Like the drinking thing, they would possibly cut down on it or not go out as much, things like that!
2007-08-21 08:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
False. false false
Advice to women who think they can change a guy by just loving him enough: he will change only with time and maturity and only if he wants to. A good woman's love will not change a man. Don't pick a bad one and hope that your sainted love will cure him of all his flaws. It won't happen and you will resent each other.
You are smart to pick a good one to begin with.
2007-08-21 08:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by martinmagini 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that is true because i had that kind of situation with my bf. We have been together for 2 1/2 years and are still going stong. But i also belive that applies for anyone. If you really love someone and want to make it work you have to compromise certain things and sacrifice others. It all depends on if the person is worth it to you.
2007-08-21 08:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
False. A guy will try, doesn't mean they will always change.
A guy will change some habits that he has taken on because he thinks he can get away with them, but some habits are just installed permanently in men. A lot of them mean well, but just don't get it because they don't see it as being wrong.
2007-08-21 08:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
False: A guy will truly change when he's ready to change, not a minute before. He can't use anyone as the impetus to change or it won't work in the long run.
2007-08-21 08:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋