My boyfriend was adopted at a young age so we decided to adopt a child even though we are capable of having our own child and we have. A little girl called Jadie is going to be my adoptive daughter she is 7, but I have another daughter called Lila who is 3 and I want them to get along but I don't know how they will get along. I am also expecting a child so It could become complicated. I am really glad that Jadie is coming to live with us and I will regard her as my own but will they all get on because I can't deal with arguments as I grew up in them. Please Advise.
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2007-08-21 07:54:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you want them to be siblings, then they are going to behave like siblings, and believe me they will fight. On the flip side of that siblings are very very loyal and protective of each other as well, so will willingly go into battle for each other.
Try if you can to give each child quality time with you, that includes your 3 year old as she will have to adjust as well as Jadie and you.
Take each day as it comes and remember its a big change for everyone.
Congratulations on the extension of your family xxx
2007-08-21 09:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Denise H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you treat them as siblings, they will behave as siblings. Unfortunately, siblings do argue from time to time -- that's reality whether the children are biological or adopted.
There's no reason in the world why your children can't get along beautifully most of the time, though. Just remember, that being adopted at 7 years old is going to be a very big adjustment for Jadie. She will need time to settle in and feel the love and acceptance. She may test you to see if you are for real. Just be patient, firm, and loving, and you will have the beginning of a very happy family.
Best wishes to you and congrats on both the adoption and the pregnancy!
2007-08-21 08:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by January Love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your children are going to argue when they get older, adopted or not, it's just the way it is.
This doesn't mean they don't love each other, it means that they are siblings.
I'm sure they will get along fine as long as you make it quite clear that they are family, it doesn't matter where they came from or who gave birth to them.
Please don't do the "and this is my adopted daughter, Jadie", that will only make her feel left out. Please treat her the same way you would your other children.
2007-08-21 08:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by haleigh's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All children are like this, its part of growing up and testing their boundaries. Im sure they will get on great, but it will take them both a while to get used to the idea. If you are having doubts then maybe put it off a bit until you feel completely ready, as you are expecting you need to think of you and your babys health. You are doing a great thing by giving her a home and family, everything will work out fine.
2007-08-21 08:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is a wonderful thing you are doing....firstly may i wish you good luck with what you are doing...as for whether they get along am sure they will...its gonna be weird to start with for all of you am sure, tell your 3year old that jadie is going to become her sister, but also tell her that she will still have special time with mummy and daddy, that way she wont feel so left out, and do the same with jadie too....good luck and good on you
2007-08-21 08:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by deni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there could be some awkwardness at first and a jealously of a new siblinng but you could try to explain to your 3 year old that it could be exiting to have new siblings is fun and encourage her to help with the baby in a way which is suitable for her age and find games her and her adopted sis could be involved in together that would bring them together eg catch colouring making painting
2007-08-21 08:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by muttimum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all kids argue that is part of being a child but should be nothing serious and I think it is great that you are adopting . all girls too wow . that is great . god bless you . you can and will get thru the teenage yrs that is when it is the most difficult . but just hold on and that too will pass . good luck and god bless you .
2007-08-21 07:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Siblings argue like crazy...and they will forever.
Sooooo they'll argue but they'll love eachother either way.
As for you not being able to handle it? Ouch, be careful not to over punish the kids for it since it's normal. K?
Good luck!
2007-08-21 08:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Asprague 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as this situation is handled correcty they should get along just fine, make sure no matter wot that you dont favour one over the other this could cause problems.....good luck
2007-08-21 08:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by bellatrix 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why Dont you ask them !!! ??
2007-08-21 07:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by Fishermans Friend 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋