Yesterday I woke up and realized that I no longer really care if I have a man in my life. Most of the guys I have dated have made me more miserable than happy and I am just tired of game playing and excuses. I am not saying that I never want a relationship again, part of me would love to have someone special. I just don't want to get burned again and it has never seemed that I really fit with anyone. I am really happy with my life. I just keep attracting flakes. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
2007-08-21 07:32:39 · 30 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nope..not even slightly attracted to women.
2007-08-21 07:35:53 · update #1
Nope, you need a break from the dating scene.
The sad truth is that so many people are so into sex and getting their jollies that there just aren't thaat many "marryable" people out there, and isn't that the reason people date? If it isn't then our society truly HAS slipped into the crapper, but, as usual, I digress :)
Look the best advice I can give you is be honest with yourself and never EVER settle, because if you think you can live with second best for the rest of your life you're setting yourself up for failure and unhappiness. When you meet the right guy, you'll know, and even then you should let things simmer for at least a year before you decide on anything more permanent. And if that guy doesn't come along? Who cares? You are too important to settle for less than you want and deserve out of life. Enjoy your life, you truly don't HAVE to have a man to do that.
2007-08-21 07:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tim F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club. I'm so happy to hear that there's at least one female who's happy and confident with her self. I applaud you. I've been single and extremely happy for almost 4 years. This life is all I hoped it would be. No stress, no drama, no one nagging me about anything. I come and go as I please and do whatever I want without having to report or answer to anyone. Life's Great!
I've learned that there's no such thing as "the perfect man or the perfect woman"...just the perfect ME!. I love me! I don't need anyone to complete me because I am perfectly whole and happy by my self.
Why does everyone keep insinuating that you have to wait for the right guy to come along? Is that saying that you can't be a whole person unless you're attached to some other human being? That's so utterly ridiculous. Be all that you can be and be happy getting there. God bless you.
2007-08-21 14:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I've felt this way before. I was tired of trying to find a relationship that worked. I never asked women out anymore, I just went about life and stopped worrying about it. One day I met a women and we never put a label on our relationship. We've been together over 10 years and are planning to get married now. I think it's great that you are going to stop the worrying. Love happens naturally and it's not smart to force it.
2007-08-21 14:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by turmoilturmoil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this may sound horrible, but I don't mean it like that, We attract what we are. (I'm not saying your a flake, but you settle for that because...why?) Do you like yourself, do you really know yourself? What do you want out of life? Who do you want to be? I think it's great that you are considering going solo for a little while. I think it's better to be by yourself than to be miserable with someone. So, what is it that you want in a dude? Do you really know, physically, mentally, spiritually, socially, etc...Well, if you want a phenominal man you gotta be a phenominal women, (meaning the best you that you can be) There is a great guy out there for you, stop settling for less. Coz I'm sure you are pretty cool. Enjoy your "me" time.
2007-08-21 14:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by jezusrox1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not wrong for you to feel this way.
You've finally realized something in your life and it's great.
You learn from your mistakes, and whether you make them again or not, it'll be a life lesson.
All the flakes or jerks that you were with taught you to become a better person.
I think you're guarding your heart now and waiting for the right guy to come.
Sometimes, when you're not looking for a guy, they just come to you.
The guys that you've been with will eventually lead you to the right guy.
So, just enjoy life and it'll eventually work itself out.
=)
2007-08-21 14:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all.. Just remember you might find your soul mate at one of the weirdest places you would imagine.. Just dont look for a man and hopefully he will come to you when the time is right... everything happens for a reason so maybe you feel this way because your waiting for the right guy to pop up and when he does youll have that feeling that you havent felt before!!
2007-08-21 14:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you r not wrong for feeling this way if anything you just making it more easy on yourself.. I have felt this way before
even though i thought i would never find someone right for me and that i thought everyone that i trusted with my love would do me wrong . And well when i thought i had given up came one of my friends whom has loved me more than anything and would always be their for me well me and him got together and have been together for a year already .. so pretty much what i am telling u is that just let things take their flow and you will find that right guy whom will love you and will never do you wrong .. another thing dont go looking for it neither let it come to you
2007-08-21 14:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the translation to this is that you are frustrated because you cannot find a quality guy. You are also trying to convince yourself that you will be OK if you don't in fact find anyone.
Well have fun trying because there is someone that is there for everyone. take a look at yourself and ask if you could do anything better to improve your chances. You should not need to convince yourself that you will be OK by yourslef.....you should already be that way.
2007-08-21 14:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by ptfmb71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all... In fact, I feel very similar sometimes. One girl that I had been pursuing made me so miserable... And I finally realized how much happier I was without her after we stopped talking. But, like you said, I'm always still looking... Good for you, though!
2007-08-21 14:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with the way you feel.
you need some time for you to love your self.
when the time is right and the person that you are supposed be with comes along, all those guys before and the feeling of being fed up will fade away.
2007-08-21 14:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by L0V3_$T0N3D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋