I am 18 and I have never really dated. So I met this guy at the store and he asked me for my phone number. So I gave it to him and then we began texting each other. So he asked me why I didn't have a bf and I said because I have been homeschooled since I was 13. So he is alot more experienced than I am. So we just kept talking for the past few days about stuff about ourselves but nothing about dating. I finally just asked if he thought I was too immature for him and he said no. But I am afraid I showed my insecurities and that he won't ever text back. I am I telling too much info or what do I need to do?
2007-08-21 07:02:33 · 9 answers · asked by babyphat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never worry about being honest! If someone else can't accept your honesty, that reflects badly on them and not you. You are only young and have your whole life ahead of you. Never run headlong into any relationship. You have time on your side and I have always said that if you want to meet someone really decent, you won't find them in the discos, bars and casinos. But you will find someone nice in church. Why not talk this over with your mom and ask her advice also?
Oddly enough I met my wife in a shop overseas where we were both working in the same city. We are both church goers and our marriage is going strong after all these years too!
Good Luck!
2007-08-21 07:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by mandbturner3699 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To Julie H - I was homeschooled all my life and I actually started college at 16... I never was sheltered or anything like that.. I had so many friends it was ridiculous. There are actually groups of homeschoolers to meet and i know a lot of people in high schools as well. Don't assume something that you have never experienced. We all know what happens when you assume...
If anything, homeschoolers have more experience in the real world because they aren't locked in a school all day dealing with stupid high school drama instead they're out in the real world doing things.
I don't want to be mean or anything but don't assume this. It all depends on the parents and such but from a good 300+ families of homeschoolers in 2 states none are sheltered :).
2007-08-21 14:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you did has turned him off unless you led him to believe you would turn him down. Lack of experience is big plus. Young guys don't want experienced girls except for a one night stand or a fling.
In the second place you are smart. You can actually write, punctuate, and capitalize sentences. Do you know how rare that is? Smart is attractive.
Therefore, you got two things going for you that most girls you age don't have. The next is the most important. That is looks and you cannot do much about that. Either you are good looking are you not.
It is hard for me to commit about the guy since I don't how old he is or what you and he looks like. However, most young guys are very shy. They are afraid of rejection. Usually when a guy ask about a boyfriend, he is interested. If you have a boyfriend, he's afraid to ask.
However, he asked for your phone number so he may not be that shy. My thinking is he is not that enthused about you. He probably decided he couldn't get into your pants or at least not that easy and he is just not that enthused. Probably, he is looking to date prettier girls or he is just odd.
2007-08-21 14:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. If you have no experience dating, he should know this or he will wonder why you don't want to go places or do other things. You are right, you may be too immature for him. Kids that are homeschooled miss out on the social aspect of growing up. They are sheltered and do not experience the real world. You just need to wait for him to text you again. Let him pursue you. Good luck.
2007-08-21 14:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody makes mistakes! And we learn from those mistakes. Yours was to not show your insecurities next time. There will be plenty of next times. Don't wait for him to text back, just live life on a daily basis and if he wants to text you back, that's good. If not, there's plenty of other guys in the ocean!
2007-08-21 14:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big chunk of advice would be to stop the texting and call him and talk to him. Texting is very impersonal. Then ask him for a date and get to know him that way.
2007-08-21 14:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Rodgman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like your a bit insecure, just be confident. Sometimes its best to not put everything out there at once, but be honest.
2007-08-21 14:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by nattyc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you stop texting him and see if he starts texting you again. if he doesn't find a new guy. but play hard to get. you're a woman and should always have the upper hand
2007-08-21 14:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by coldplayfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to much info...share a little at a time,, guys seem to get put off by too much too fast...
2007-08-21 14:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by antoinio i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋