heartbreak is hard to deal with.. especially when ur with someone for 3 years.. ive been takin the past 3 months horribly since i got dumped.. i dont know what to do to get my ex back... the only problem with our relationship was the fighting.. but it was only over stupid crap like lack of space and jealousy.. stuff that can easily be fixed.. now that we've broken up.. we stayed friends.. but he lives in the basement of his married ex gfs place who has a kid.. her and i talked a lot but lately ive been bugging her too much and it upset her and now he's mad... i know i overstepped my boundaries.. and i feel like a fool.. i want to make it up to him.. but i wanna let him come to me when he's ready.. im not giving up hope.. so please give me and tips that might help to get him back
2007-08-21 06:42:28 · 10 answers · asked by mandersmo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take this time to work on you and focus on you. Make a life that you are happy with, without him. Don't call him or his ex anymore.
2007-08-21 06:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do right now is give him space. You don't want to keep chasing after him because that will ruin any chance of at least a friendship. I know it's hard, but you need to move on and let the past go. I know this sounds corny, but if you guys are meant to be together then you will be. But you that is a decisions that both of you have to make when the time is ready. Constantly bothering him is only going to leave him resenting you. In the mean while, get to know yourself. Go find yourself some hobbies and new friends to get your mind off of the break up. After awhile you'll notice that you wont miss him that much, and when the time is right you'll be ready to get into any relationship.
2007-08-21 13:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Space - that's what it sounds like everyone involved needs. I wouldn't be trying to get him back at all. Let him do what he needs to do. If you both mean a lot to each other, time will heal it. I would continue to be friends if that's what he wants, but don't put pressure on him or try to make him guilty - that won't work out well for you if you do. As for the ex girlfriend. I would probably apologize and let her know that you will not "bug" her anymore about it.
2007-08-21 15:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for your heartbreak. i too, am currently trying to mend a broken heart. my friends are great helpers to lift my spirits. use your friends to lean on. it was best that you to are no longer together. no one should be in a relationship where there is fighting. it would be easier for you to let him go and get on with you life. it might be the hardest thing you do. but in the long run you will come out of it a better person.
2007-08-21 17:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by lady lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it happen on his terms, if they happen on yours then you might always feel a sense of concern as if you wish he had made the decision! Just let things go for now and decide maybe there might be too much baggage to ever get back what you used to have!
2007-08-21 13:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the time that you are wasting on these people and renew your hope in life. You will get better and you will look back and realize, I don't need this crap in my life!
2007-08-21 13:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy and personal space are NOT pettey issues. You two seem to have nothing in common. Let him go already.
2007-08-21 13:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i told my ex this when she dumped me "dont come chasing me unless you are ready to catch me"... if you are ready to chase him go for it but let me remind you that chasing too hard would only push them away
2007-08-21 13:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lord_poseidon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do things to occupy ur time, u might forget about him u never know
2007-08-21 13:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by lost and tired 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares?
2007-08-21 13:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋