17 year old has to go on family vacation?

Question

I'm 17, my parents and sister (she's 10) want to go on vacation nxt week (from about Wednesday-Sunday). We normally go to TN b/c my sister loves Dollywood. I was miserable last year bc I didn't do anything there. The main thing is riding rides, but I won't ride them by myself, so I just had to follow my family around and go on little kid rides with my sister. My sister wants to go back, but I know I'd be miserable again. My dad keeps yelling at me whenever we talk about vacation. Last night he was like, "What's wrong with you? Why can't you go anywhere? Where do YOU want to go? Besides where do you think your going to stay if you don't go? With nana & pop? Bc you're not staying home alone, and sure as hell not staying @ Phillip's (my boyfriend) house!" To be honest I don't really want to go anywhere, but I'm not staying w/ my grandparents. They live right around the block so it seems dumb to lug all my clothes and all over there, and it would just be weird staying there. Advice?

If I stayed home alone, I don't see what the big deal would be. I have a full time job so Wednesday-Friday I'd be at work from 8-5 anyways, and I have my own car to get back and forth. I feel like my dad's not letting me grow up, what is he going to do if I decide to go off to college next year? (I'll be a senior this year)

Answer 1

At 17, I would let you stay home alone. Parents today (some) are truly rediculous. Of course you would have to know that any parties etc. would mean instant death upon the parents return but if you are responsible and commit to being grown up about it there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to stay alone for a few days. Unfortunately today's parents (some) treat their kids like their about 6 years younger than they actually are.

Answer 2

I would say I have to agree with your parents. Not because I wouldn't trust you, but simply because of your line about 'what if I go away to college?' Your parents may see this as the last year you will be at home with them to go on a family vacation. Everything seems to change when you go to college, even if you stay with your parents, and go to a school close by, things will still be different. Your parents will have to face the facts you are growing up, you make the decisions whether to go to class, what classes to take, when to come home, where to study, etc.
I say just give your parents one more 'family' vacation. What is 4 days when you look at the rest of your life anyway??? And if you are so bored with Dollywood, there is a lot of nice shops, and numerous other things to do around there. You may even suggest other destinations which your little sister may like also? If she hasn't been to the ocean, this may be a big treat for her.
Look at your hotel, for others your own age to get to know, I made some life long friends when I was your age at pools on family vacations. You never know who you may meet.
If you are the shy type, ask if a friend can go with you? This may not be totally out of the question. Specially if you have a friend your parents really like, and trust.
Good luck on your vacation, I hope you do this one last time for your parents.

Answer 3

As a mother of 2 teenagers, I can understand where you dad is coming from. There are too many temptations out there and he is just trying to protect you. What is the big deal anyway, if you do not want to go on vacation, stay with the grandparents! Like you said, they live right around the block, and you are going to be working most of the time your parents are gone, so you wouldn't be around your grandparents that much. Sounds like you have something else planned and dad screwed it up.

Answer 4

Since you work from 8 to 5, it might be a good idea for you to sleep at your Grandparent's house. It is for such a short time that I am sure it would be better than going to Dollywood. Why don't you try to get your Father to go to a beach some place not too far away or a State Park ?

Answer 5

I can see other options. that may help. you do not like the vacations, because you feel out of place. or alone. try asking your parents if it would be o.k. to take a friend along, such as your best friend. I do believe you will have fun in that way.

Think about this, you are 17, so one last vacation will be the last. you will have to take. because you will then be 18 and decide for yourself. but for this vacation, bring your friend along. in this way you will not be alone and will also have fun. both of you can go do your own things as your sister does her things. you may even like it so much. you may wish to do it again, the next year.

I do believe this will change everything. give it a try.

Good Luck,

Answer 6

you are very lucky that you can go on vacation, if i were you i would go, it is only for four days, maybe your mum and you could go shopping while your dad looked after your little sister, and when you get back , your mum and dad might give you a treat for being so good and joining in the family holiday. i know that you are a young lady and this seems so childish going to a fun park with your little sister, go you might enjoy it this time

Answer 7

Lets see... You are 17... (almost 18)
You have a key to your house?
A Car? (to come and go as you please.)
Grandparents around the block...

I'd stay home.
I would stay at my grandparents house when it was time to go to bed/wake up and go hang out at home (all day).
When it was time to go to bed, then go back to your grandparents house to crash out. (And so forth.) You will not have to lug your clothes around and you can eat, take baths and relax in your own house. -Until it gets late.
At least your parents can't say you didn't stay at your grandparents. lol

Don't forget to make an extra copy of that HOUSE KEY just in case they ask you for the original copy.

Answer 8

Tell him, to trust you and make a deal, where you will check in with your parents and have your grandparents check in occassionally since, they live around the corner. Sounds like your responsible enough since you work and have a car.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

3 things
1. it's their house. if they don't want you staying there alone, that is their perogative. no matter your age or relation to them.
2. you do have a choice. you can either stay with your grandparents or go on vacation with your family.
3. if you care about your family you are obligated to them. so you can try to have a good attitude and do the vacation thing for them to show that you care.
believe me there was a time in my life when i felt obligated to my family and didn't want to be around them. but i changed my attitude and told myself i care about them because they are my family and yes i am obligated to them. but i let it be in a positive way. i choose to try to have the best relationship i can with them. there are things i don't like about them but i am learning how to be a healthy adult and have better relationships with them. this is a growing process and if you care about them as your family you will make an effort.