I am 17 yrs old and am 26wks pregnant.My boyfriend was great until when I was about 14 wks and we kind of took a break from each other for a while.We are still good friends but I am not sure if I would ever want to spend the rest of my life with him and marry him.I am excited about the baby and so is he but I don't think we will ever get married down the road.In college I want to date and someday hopefully get married.My family and my friends have told me several times that no guy will ever want to date a woman that already has a kid.When I go to college my baby will already be about 13 months old.
Is it true that most guys wouldn't want to date a woman with a kid?
Thanks.
2007-08-21 06:09:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's bullsh*t...Being that you are in your teens may cause some to be apprehensive. However, I am now 24 years old and was divorced last year and dated a few people with only one being a douche about my having a kid. He didn't mind that I was a mother but he made up some lie to me about not being able to hang out one night because he thought I had my daughter there (I guess he was scared to meet her or something). Well I dumped that idiot, and am now with the most incredible guy a girl could ask for. We live together and he completely accepts and loves my daughter as though she was his own. If any guy has a problem with your having a child, then don't sweat it or beat yourself up for it because they are not worth your time nor a second thought. You will meet someone who accepts you for who you are and accepts and appreciates your child and the fact that you are a mother too. Good luck to you and take care : )
2007-08-21 06:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a 24 year old guy thats graduated from college a year ago and have thought about what I'm looking for in women a lot lately.
My reasons for not currently looking at a woman with kid(s): 1. I'm not ready to be a father yet
2. I want to enjoy spending time with the woman without having kids around
3. A woman with kids has a completely different lifestyle than myself (Ie I only have to think about myself and don't have anyone depending on me)
Just my thoughts being a single man
2007-08-21 06:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you wholeheartedly. I dont understand it myself & it seems that the nice guys would get it & keep moving on. Tell your friend to run like hell! To answer your questions: 1. Do they do it for financial security? I believe its for financial stability & because they realize they blew a good thing with the nice guy. 2. Whats going to happen when the gangster gets out of jail? More than likely the good guy will get kicked to the curb again or the woman will sneak behind his back to be with the jail bird using the nice guys money to finance their rendezvous's. 3. Why do so many guys fall for this sucker role? Because they think theyre in love & like most people they want to feel the power of being able to conquer the challenge of having that particular female. They never see that they are being used, that they are second choice or that its the stability they offer that makes the woman want them back. Like a suckers bet, the rush of adrenaline & excitement to be a winner makes it worth the gamble.
2016-05-18 23:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is true it's because guys want to parent their own child not some random guys that most likely are in prison or cheated or found someone new.
2015-04-30 03:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Robert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kid wouldn't be a deterrent for me if I found you attractive and you have a great personality. Your kid is now a part of you, and I would have to accept that. However, most guys your age aren't ready for that kind of commitment.
What WOULD worry me is the fact that you and your ex are still "friends". I would be hesitant to date you because I'd be worried that your ex will suddenly decide he wants you back, and that you would leave me to take him back.
2007-08-21 06:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi yeah im 20 and a single mommy of one and i am 33 weeks prego with another one..its hard to do alone and its a long story on how i got here but that doesnt matter to answer your question ive had multiple guys tell me that guys dont date women that have children some say its cause what if they get attached to the kid and things dont work out others are just really scared to take on that responsibility... i had a bf who loved kids he broke up with me he said he needed to figure his life out later he told me he was getting attached to my daughter and that scared him.. but there are real men out there somewhere and one will find you it just takes time but make sure you are ready to give up your ex too cause that can cause probs also...good luck
2007-08-21 06:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by audrajean05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its the fact that you have a kid, younger guys in their late teens and early twenties, you will probably have a problem with but I will keep you in my prayers and I hope you get through college, and make his dad support your child
2007-08-21 06:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by korson90210 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some guys are retarded and don't understand what it takes to be a mother. but anyway there are guys out there that don't mind a kid. it shows that u are a responsible adult and want that kind of woman.
2007-08-21 06:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by UofL Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have dated gurlz wit kidz it aint bother me or anythang so yeah it should not bother any 1 else if it does then its there lost
2007-08-21 06:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by (¯;·-»KiLlA«-·;¯) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not true
2007-08-21 09:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by itacyjoana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋