How can you ensure your child grows up without viewing porn?

Question

Can they view it on their mobile phones? How can you ensure that their playmates parents have controls on their computers etc - is it socially acceptable to ask.

Answer 1

First and foremost teach your son or daughter good morals. Teach them to respect themselves and others which also includes treating woman with respect. Teach them that pornography in any form is wrong and explain to them why. Teach them how to walk away when a friend trys to show it to them. Get them involved in sports and other clubs to keep them active and using their brains for good. This also works with helping them avoid smoking, drinking, and drug use.

Block specific channels on your tv and change the password often.

Do not get them a cell phone with internet, picture sharing, or text message capabilities. The Disney phone is good.

Check their room often for bad magazines including lingerie catalogs, tapes, and DVD's.

Don't let them put up posters of scantily clad women in their rooms.

Put the computer in the living room and parental block it if they will be home alone at all.

Do not let them watch anything on tv that has even soft porn involved or adult situations.

Do not ever let your son or daughter hang out at a friends house without a responsible parent supervising and question that parent about their rules for tv and internet use. If you feel uncomfortable with their parenting style than don't let your children over there.

If you do catch your child with pornography, they need to be punished and talked to again without any screaming being involved.

Every now and then talk to them about these issues and hopefully your child will grow up with good morals and respect for themselves.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You just have to trust your child in that they wont look at the porn on computers etc. If you talk openly to your child about what porn is and what the dangers are, and why its only for adults then they should know the difference between right and wrong. You cannot stop your child from experiencing stuff like this, you can only prepare them and help them understand why you have rules about this sort of thing. My son, 10, freaks when someone even kisses and just isnt interested. i know he will be one day, its only normal, but you have to trust in their judgement and ways of coping logically with these sorts of issues. And yes, i would certainly ask the parents if they have these controls. If my kids friends dont, i always offer the advice that i have safety controls on computer, i check out copies of dvds and videos before giving to my children just in case there is some on at the end (this happened to me when i was about 15), and i am strict about monitoring what my kids are watching or playing (e.g. Playstation games etc). I always try to ensure any child in/visiting my home doesnt view things that arent age appropriate. And believe me, i am not a prude, i just think there is a right time for people to experience these things.

Answer 3

I'm not sure if you're joking or not... I'll assume, however, that you're being serious.

Ok, the true answer: It's impossible.
The elaboration: It's a natural part of human sexual development to become curious about the naked form - and sex.
Sure, you can try and block your internet, refuse to allow your child to go to friends' houses, search their room daily.... but you'll achieve nothing - other than your kid resenting you, that is.

I mean, even if you DID do that, there's still freak occurences you'll NEVER control - I first discovered porn by finding a bag full outside a local pub. I challenge you to stop THAT happening.

The best thing to do is INTRODUCE your child to porn - so they understand it's 'ok', as it were - that you won't disown them when you find it. Of course, I'm not suggesting you buy your 10 year old a porn mag, but you can still explain why porn exists and that they may find a use for it when they're older ;-)

("It's just porn, mom, and it won't go away; wherever you look you find porn everyday")

Edit ~ Also, NEVER teach them it's bad, or naughty or whatever. There's no quicker way to ensure they find it.

~ Antt

Answer 4

You sound confused. quote: ' Atheists have no such system and can only ................' In your own words you have just said 'Atheists have no such doctrine (system) and can only ........' So: Atheists don't have a system or manifesto. Atheism is not an organised religion and you will find no reference to atheism beyond a couple of hundred years ago. Yes, there are now a number of atheist groups around the world; no doubt formed because of repeated attempts (and some sucesses) by religous groups to impose their views on the secular world. Common sense and the rights of man are paramount to developing a stable and moral society. Is that ok with you. Here's an example of immorality: Mary and Joseph were betrothed. God sent the angel Gabriel to tell her that she was to be made pregnant by God. Huh? Talk about bad manners! Gabriel also told Joseph he had been cuckolded by God. Jeez, what a blow that must have been! And this act forms the very basis of Christianity through a miraculous virgin birth. That God sent Gabriel is strange too,since he took the time to speak personally to Adam, Eve, Jacob, Moses, and Elijah. How insulting is that?! Modern christian views on the value of virginity obviously stem from this and seem aimed at females. Strange moral values indeed. Still, Joseph did marry Mary and got to be a dad at last. N.B. The angel Gabriel also delivered the word of God to the prophet Muhammad, which he then passed down orally, and was written sometime during the next 100 yrs or so after his death.

Answer 5

You can't do it. Children and teens have so many more portals to gain access to these things during this day in time. At your own home, you can put parental controls on your computer and TV, and put any you might have in a locked cabinet (not suggesting that you do, but if you do, lock em up). Other than that, there is nothing you can do. If a kid wants to do something and puts their mind to it, there is really no stopping them. The only thing you can do, depending on the age of the child, is explain sex to them and explain to them that these movies or videos make sex seems like something that is not to be enjoyed between a man and a woman who love each other (and married, etc.). Good luck, but you can't protect them from everything, especially not sex. It's nature.

Answer 6

If they want to view, you can do nothing to stop them. Yes they can view and download it onto mobile phones, and then send it to all their mates. The internet in awash with free porn sites based on advertising, the only thing you can do here is filter the internet viewing, which may work, but kids no more about computers than adults and can very quickly and easily remove the filter. So, no you can't stop you child from viewing porn, its just something you'll have to accept.

Answer 7

The quick and dirty answer: you will not be able to prevent them from viewing porn if that's what they're determined to do.

Now, to address the points of your question in turn:

Mobile phones can access the Internet if they are compatible and if you have that feature included in your monthly plan.

It's certainly within your rights to inform the parents of your child's playmates about restrictions you've set on your child's computer usage.

Now to throw my own $.02 in: no matter what you do, there's still the time-honored tradition of young teens finding their parents' stash of Playboys and browsing them wide-eyed with their friends. One way or another, they will find it when their curiosity leads them in such a direction. Even Google Image Search and Wikipedia can bring up risque or outright NSFW pictures without the page itself being pornographic in nature. Just allow for the LIKELY possibility of your child's eventual exposure to porn, and have a response ready when the time comes.

Answer 8

You can't. And in the long run, control is not the best tactic, because it leaves them uneducated when they get out and about. The best way to handle this is to educate your child. Try and have it come up in conversation, where you are talking to them a bit like a wise teacher or an equal with advice. Tell them that there is porn and a lot of it is really gross or freaky. Tell them that you trust them not to look at it. Tell them it will ultimately be their decision, but you "know they are smart enough to stay away from garbage." Tell them that it is abusive to women, you can become addicted to it, and it ruins your sex life. Tell them there is nothing good about it and the less you see, the better off you are. Tell them enough about it that they are no longer curious and don't make it a forbidden fruit. Kids will live up to the reputation you give them. You start to act the way you believe you are. Tell them they are smart and moral, and they will be. If you tell them they are useless pieces of crap and they can't make their own decisions, they are going to become terrible people. This is after the age of 12 though. Before that, rules and consistent discipline are the best.

Answer 9

Its acceptable for you to parent you children as best you can, and to realize that at some point they will be held accountable for their own actions.

Yes, I would certainly address the parents of your childs friend so make sure they are monitored while on the internet.

BUt at some point you have to realize that you have taught your child right from wrong and they need to make the choice to do whats right. Hovering over them 24/7 because you're waiting for them to screw up will only push them into the very thing you fear so much.

Evil things should be not be focused on. Porn is not somethig you want you children viewing, let them know its bad and gross. But most of all, its dishonoring to the women who take part in it. They have no sense of self worth, and viewing them in their most vunerable times takes away part of them that they cant get back. Not something anyone should do to another person.

Teach them right from wrong, expect them to do whats right.

Phones that have the web can browse just about everything as a computer, phones with pictures can recieve things from other people, like compomising photo's taken of or by friends. However, an older teenager with a phone is much better than one without, espeically when theyre mobile and can drive.

Answer 10

I feel that there is no way to stop them.
I am 15 and I had seen it when I was 10 or 11 by the senior students in my school bus.
I don't watch porn now because I have understood what is right and what is wrong.
There urge to avoid porn will come only when they realize there responsibility.
You can talk to your child about or maybe ask there aunt or uncle or even cousin who he/she is really close to. Because I wouldn't be much comfortable talking it with my parents.