to invite or not?

Question

i am thinking of not inviting any of my extended family to my wedding. this will be my second wedding. my first wedding i was going to have my uncle walk me down the isle (my father has passed on) and then his two sons ushers. then i had a chance to get married on a certain date and just went ahead and did it. then when we said that we were having a big wedding the next year my uncle said he didn't want to walk me down the isle cause it wouldn't have been the same. well, that marriage has ended. i am asking this question because none of my cousins invited other family members to second weddings and two of them not to a first wedding! and then there is the family that was going to be in the first wedding but not this wedding, do i invite them and not the others? what would you do?

Answer 1

If you just want the wedding to be your immediate family, you aren't obligated to invite cousins/aunts/uncles. Even if you do ask your uncle to walk you, or your cousins to be ushers, you aren't obligated to invite anyone else. Don't be afraid to hurt others feelings. This is your day. I would invite who I wanted and not worry about the others. Will they be upset? Maybe for a while, but if they really care for you they'll get over it quickly and be glad that you're happy. :)

Answer 2

Are you not inviting because you are limited on the budget? If this is the case you can simply invite only those whom you want to share your day with. You do not HAVE to invite anyone. If you can afford to invite the extended family, then that is okay too. There is not rule that you can not invite someone who did not invite you to theirs.

Answer 3

I would invite people I really wanted to be there. It wouldn't be any more than 20-30 people.

Answer 4

Invite whom you want to to your wedding day.

The ones not invited should understand you want a small wedding and not gripe about not being invited.