Every time it's time to get dressed every morning. If we don't anywhere in particular he goes straight to time out after I'm done dressing him and then he's fine. Most days we're having to get ready for daycare so I can go to work and we don't really have time for a "time-out". What can I do to get him to stop this? I've tried spankings on his bottom and it is not effective. It seriously doesn't fase him at all to get a spanking.
2007-08-21 05:30:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
well he is old enough to start having a say in what he wears let him pick out his clothes and let him try to dress him self. my son did the same thing when he wanted to wear a certain shirt or pants let him hve a say and since this is an issue you need to get consistent with punishments hes 2 so he gets a two minute time out. you can afford to stop and punish him for 2 minutes before work. get up earlier so he has time to wake up more and try an earlier bedtime too
2007-08-21 05:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have three toddlers at home right now. My oldest is almost four and my youngest is 18 months. I've been through this phase twice in the last year and a half. The one thing that I have found works better than any spanking or time out or any other method, at least for my children is to take away their favorite (whatever). For my oldest it is his toy cars and for my near three year old it is a favorite shirt. Whenever they decide to throw their tantrums, for whatever reason, they lose the priveledge of their favorite. We (my wife and I) implemented this about a year and a half ago with the oldest and while his tantrums never stopped completely, they are few and far between. It's material possession at it's best, and worst, but it has been very effective for us.
2007-08-21 05:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by J N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried getting him involved in picking his clothes? My younger son was similar but once I started letting him have a say in what he got to wear things got a little easier. Some mornings he was so mismatch I thought about getting a button that said "I dressed myself" but I was so happy to not have a fight on my hands it was worth it.
If you don't want to give up total control then lay out two outfits and have him chose the one he wants to wear.
If all else fails bring him to daycare in his PJ's, maybe once he realizes your not going to play the games anymore he'll stop. I know he's only 2 but they learn quickly!
2007-08-21 05:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by DH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he is just screaming every morning for no reason... Is it when you are waking him up? Maybe he does not want to get up.. in that case is he on a schedule? if not try putting him to bed at a set time every night and waking him up early enough where you have time to spend with him first or while you are gettin ghim dressed, maybe he is in a rushed setting in the morning and that will actually make the sitaution worse. also at night trying putting him to bed in a calm sitaution and that may help him to wake up in a more calm mode.
Good Luck..
2007-08-21 05:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by jus*1*more 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants attention and he doesn't care how he gets it. it has become his routine with you. Maybe cange up the routine a bit and do something fu. Make getting dressed a game or something. Try being silly and putting his pants leg on his arm and make a joke out of it. Maybe it will change things. Remember 2's come with the terrible twos. This will pass but they'll get worse.
2007-08-21 05:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by noitall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he may be ready to help get himself dressed. try a loose t-shirt and elastic waste pants/shorts. make a game out of it. "i bet you can't get your shirt on before i ring this bell" then let him win. make sure you're getting up early enough to leave plenty of time to get ready. kids will break down if they're being rushed. spanking is obviously not helping. try rewarding him with attention and praise and see if that works.
2007-08-21 05:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by calypso_cal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is getting the desired effect. Try the clothes thing at a time when you don't have somewhere to be and when he starts just ignore him. It will be very difficult but he has to understand that the behavior is not acceptable and apologize. Look on the net for Nanny911. She is great and has wonderful solutions to childrens behavior problems.
2007-08-21 05:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by Waterwitch E 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe dress him more often? Like, when you get home have him change his clothes, make it something that he's part of.
not picking out his clothes, just putting them on. You dont need to start a whole "i dont want to wear that" battle.
Get him to the place where he will dress himself without throwing a fit.
Lay his clothes out the night before, and get him up a little earlier to put them on.
2007-08-21 05:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the spankings don't phase him, SPANK HARDER.
Every child will react to a good hard spanking. Make it sting. I'm serious. I have 4 kids. My boys were tougher than my daughters. Spank the girls lightly and they cried sadly. Spank the boys and they just run off.
You MUST make it hurt.
It's the toughest thing a parent must do to their young ones.
2007-08-21 05:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Make him go in pajamas or tell him he'll have to go to daycare naked. The kids will probably make fun of him for pajamas.
2007-08-21 08:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by dmc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋