I was best friends with my current boyfriend for a few years before we finally started going out.We've been together for a year and a half,and i love him more than anything in this world.And the most amazing feeling is that he feels the same way about me.We've had our share of ups and downs,but all that is in the past.I feel like i'm falling more in love with him more everyday,even though i've already loved him for two years.We've discussed marriage when we're older,children and how we want to live the rest of our lives together.It's not obsessive,we have a great life outside eachother also.But everyone seems to say that first loves always end.And it does scare me,because we never want to be with anyone else but eachother,we've found a perfect match in eachother.But would people still say it is inevitable that it will end?
2007-08-21 05:30:26 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not always true....if you really want to make it last than you will...both of you..together, will make it last. I was told the same thing and i married my first love and we were best friends so it does work, if you want it to, i am very happy to have married my best friend.
2007-08-21 05:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not. don't listen to that.
you are making your own destiny and no one can tell you otherwise.
it's true that first loves, especially in the modern age, seem to fail.
you have been with each other for a year and half--congrats! the tricky part now is staying in love. if all goes well, it will soon be two years, then three, then five etc. but then life gets in the way--if you are in high school now, then college/the army/tech school/workforce is going to be a factor in staying together. if you are both in college now, where you're going after that is also a factor.
and there will be problems: there will be some things about him that you don't like, and vise versa. you will get on each other's nerves, maybe.
but the real test--as with all relationships, from the first to the last, is if you choose to stick together and stick it out. if you both always make the choice to be together, then you will always be together; it sounds obvious but there it is. the problem is that you might see, down the line, something more important than the dreams you have with him--maybe a job, a belief, an unexpected family responsibility, who knows. And you'll have to deal with that when it comes.
good luck.
2007-08-21 05:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope it isn't true that "first loves" always end.
I love my boyfriend more then anything. He is my strength in so many ways that its hard to even start.
I knew him for 13 years. I've loved him from the start. We've only been dating for a year now, but it's like I know everything about him. We've both been married. I have three kids and he doesn't have any. He's known my oldest daughter since she was a year old (she's now 14). My children adore him.
First loves are just like any other relationship. It takes time love and patience to make something work.
Remember if you love him and he loves you then everyone else around you will see how much to two of you mean to eachother. To be in love with your friend is more then just being in love with someone you don't really know.
2007-08-21 05:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely, yes...always NO! My Son and Daughter-in law started dating at 14 & 15 and have now been married for 3 yrs! They did go through some very rough times, broke up a few times (even after the marriage), but it's looking like it's working out now! People change so much between the ages of 18 and 25, I think it's part of the reason people break up, that and the currosity of being with someone else causes problems. Best wishes on it working out for the two of you!
2007-08-21 05:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is one of the biggest words and feeling. people always say that there's one person in the world for everyone but some people find that one person and others spend their lives looking. thats why with love you have to live everyday like there's no tomarrow and everyday you spend dedicated to that person will turn into months then years if your lucky. so many people make the mistake of planning out their lives early because at the moment things might be a match made in heaven but truley you both dont know what will happen between now and then. just like you guys found one another is how easily trouble can find you. things happen out of no where in life and situations that seem so good at one time can easily spin out of control. even though its your disiction whether your going to give into those obstacls or let them bother you. will really help you to determine if your really in love and if you can handle being with this person long term. GOOD LUCK!
2007-08-21 05:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my first love. We've been married for almost 4 years now, have a little girl and another one on the way. And we are very happy. It can happen. Just be careful, be honest with yourself and with him.... but, above all, you must remember that love is a decision and a commitment, and that there will be plenty of times when you will not "feel happy anymore." This doesn't mean that love has faded or died. Just that love is much more than a feeling...
Good luck! :))
2007-08-21 05:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by MommyAnna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, personally, Have a a view on life similar to Hobbes, so i'm probably the wrong person to ask...(but hey! This is answers.)
If you are a real perfect match for eachother, it should work out eventually. I've heard tales of this...true love before. It could happen.
2007-08-21 05:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Riddle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all NOBODY can tell you what you and your guy are feeling.. If you have all your heart in this and he has the same then nobody else matters. Don;t listen to everyone else experience it for yourself. Don;t worry about what "might happen" just focus on the current time you have together and future you have.
Good Luck to you and your guy!
2007-08-21 05:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by umannjo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww you guys sound soo cute!! i hope everything works out for the best for you two....
I also wanted to tell you that i think its possible you guys will be together and happy forever. Relationships are work no matter what anyone says...just remeber to be patient and understanding and trusting. people who tell you its not gonna last are just jealous that they dont have what ya'll have...or they've been burned or something in past relationships. but yah have fun with it! good luck!
2007-08-21 05:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by socalbabe58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. think the first love is very especial, it doesn't necessarily have to end, that is up to you, if you really love your boyfriend then enjoy his company and let life take care of the rest. Not everything people say is true... Congrats.
2007-08-21 05:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋