This girl has talked to me on YM for ths last 2 weeks every night, sometimes spending as long as 5 hours talking to me. As well, as we have talked before over nearly 3 months. But what happens is I say something that makes her close down her email account and even her YA account, block me from her YM and then after awhile, she opens it back up and i send her another email and plead for her to talk to me again, and she does .
This has happened 4 times now.
She suffers from anxiety and depression. and I am wondering what to do now.
she has just shut down her email again.
told me that i was a "Creep who didnt respect women" and told me that i was trying to "control her"..
This is not really the case at all. She is overreacting big time (again).
I feel so sad now, i have really become attached to her and we have talked together about so many things about our past together.
I told her my family problems in the past and she told me hers.
2007-08-21 05:21:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What would be your advice????
(I think i know what it is)
(but it will be really, really hard)
2007-08-21 05:22:12 · update #1
To Brad M down there, i have spoken to her longer than 2 weeks. This is just the length of time we spoke last.
We have spoken over the period of time since the beginning of June. off and on. just like i mentioned, she has done this around 4 times now.
2007-08-21 06:49:11 · update #2
She knows how to contact you, so just leave it be and let her come to you. She sounds like she needs some professional help, or that she 'gets off' on attention from people online. Why not participate in some real life activities with people one on one, rather than through a computer? You'll have fun, make new friends, and gain good experiences.
2007-08-21 05:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In short dude - you have a Grade-A basket case right there
R-U-N
The internet is a paradise for every insecure nutcase, wacko, pervert, sicko and unhinged-psycho-b!tch. Looks like you sure ca pick 'em (-:
You can be anyone you want to be, even if you have "talked with them on line for hours". For all you know I could be a body builder, dot-com millionare, combat aircraft pilot, or a complete dullard accountant, loser living with his mum or I could be on parole.
- So could you!
- So could she!
But reading your question;
"block me from her YM and then after awhile, she opens it back up " - major emotional yo-yo
"i send her another email and plead for her to talk to me again, and she does " - so you grovel, she gets what she wants (yeah right - theres a good foundation for a relationship)
"This has happened 4 times now." - HELLLOOO??? will you be asking if this is a problem when its the 20th time??
"She suffers from anxiety and depression." - yep, pretty much picked upon that one
" and I am wondering what to do now" - DONT make it your problem, you don't have a huge history with her (2 weeks)
"told me that i was a "Creep who didnt respect women", --and switching her e-mail contact with your off and on four times in two weeks IS respect?????
and told me that i was trying to "control her".. - hmmm "control huh?"
"I feel so sad now, i have really become attached to her " - **DUDE ITS TWO WEEKS - COUNT `EM TWO!**
"I told her my family problems in the past and she told me hers." - We all have problems, but sharing them for TWO WEEKS is not a proposal for a life long relationship.
Serious Ronald, deep breath dude and move on. You want to waste you time any further?
Good luck kid!
2007-08-21 13:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by brad m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear! You have become rather attached to her haven't you? I think the best thing you can do is to keep your distance from her when she re-opens her e-mails 'cause the same thing will happen again. It sounds as though she has alot of problems of her own that she needs to sort out for herself. It's nice that you've been someone for her to chat to but you're the one left feeling low & let down when it suits her. Cheer up :o)
2007-08-21 12:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl need professional help for her depression she also sounds like she has a case of paranoia aswell. How can u fall in love with someone you've never met?? I don't believe ur in love i believe u have someone on the net that u look 4ward to chatting with. Unfortunately if this girls behaviour is erratic on the computer imagine what she'd b like in real life dealing with real situations with you?? Think ab it........good luck x
2007-08-21 12:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by Dolly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her how you really feel and how you can help her is not to be nasty or bossy. Just calm and sweet. She proberly sed tht nasty thing because online tlking is boring.
It is okay to internet date but make sure you know who your internet dating to. =)
Well if you told eachother your past lives then she likes you and only open e-mail and thn closes it because it gets boring or disconnected
Just keep smiling and hope you too meet!
Good Luck
2007-08-21 14:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by DaisysMumma13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give her some space. She seems to be the one with issues not you so leave it for a while. You will only end up getting upset even more and considering you haven't met is it really worth it?
2007-08-21 12:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by jitterbug82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I admire you for being a caring person but the only advice I would give is to reply to her when she contacts you and only then.
If she is in control then my be you will continue to chat on line - but let her decide as it appears she does not want to be pressured.
Good luck
2007-08-21 12:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by scottie322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like you've both been enjoying your sympathy party,so i don't understand why she'd do this to you anxiety attacks or no,unless she's found something else to fill the 5 hours she daily spent with you.People who suffer from anxiety usually want things to remain as they are.Their anxiety/panic attack is brought on by any change to their routine.I'm afraifd she's been having you on.
2007-08-21 12:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by quest? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont chase, its a game she is playin with you, next time she gets in touch keep it short and make sure you close the box sayin "its good to talk to you again but i most go catch you soon" and sign out. dont let her pull the strings, good luck
2007-08-21 12:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by diamondjade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a difficult situation but she has problems you cant help her with....all you can do is be there when she allows you to....but i mean that means you get hurt more.....but it may be what you "have" to do for your own sanity.....you just have to realise that you must have helped her a lot but its her life and your not a miracle worker.....i hope things go well....good luck x
2007-08-21 12:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋