i am studying in 12th...i got a proposal from a guy who is the captain of the school......every gal in the skool is behind him.He is handsome...,Hot luking and Sexy..but right now i have a bf..who is his Bst frnd.(i am not seriously into my present bf) ...so plz help me...should i accept the proposal or not....?????
2007-08-21 05:01:55 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, You could loose both and end up looking like a fool......
No, the Boyfriend......maybe testing your faithfulness.......leave this one alone. He may be hot, but something is up.
2007-08-21 05:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Proposal.... as in MARRIAGE? If that's the case, for heavens' sake, give it a little more time. Tell him at the very least that you need to think about it. Marriage is a serious business, and isn't something that should be taken lightly, especially if you're only in 12th grade.
Even if I'm just misunderstanding you... you say you're not "seriously into" your bf. Meaning you aren't interested at all in him, or you're not sure if the relationship is going to last but want to give it a try? If you know for sure you don't want to be with your present bf, please do him a favor and tell him how you feel. Even though it'll hurt him, he'll appreciate not being led on. You alone know how you feel, so I have no magic cures for you. Just treat him with respect and kindness and you should be ok.
Now... in regards to the other guy... you mentioned he's handsome, hot, and sexy. There's his physical aspects, but that's only a small part of him. How does he treat others? Can you trust him? Is he kind? Will he listen to you and respect you? Do you appreciate him for more than his body? Trust me, you need to consider all those and more before making a decision about him. Looks and popularity aren't everything. (You might already know that, but from your post it looked like you were sort of forgetting it.)
Also, be very careful about dumping your present bf to go out with his best friend. That sounds like a LOT of hurt feelings waiting to happen. It would be best to wait a little bit in between those relationships, to avoid hurting your present bf's feelings.
I hope everything turns out well for you! Best wishes!
2007-08-21 05:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what kind of proposal you got a marriage one? more in line of a job offer? or date?
However this really does not matter in the whole scheme of things. Look at the facts presented
1. you HAVE a boyfriend
2.your current bf just happens to be the BEST friend of the guy in question.
3. according to you ever gal in school wants him.
Based on these 3 things you should not accept the proposal. Are you really willing to ruin their friendship over you? What will this do for your credibility? Sure he may be the most handsome guy in school and everyone wants him but does he have anything else to offer the relationship? Do you?
Take it from someone who really did get married in the 12 grade.......DON'T if this guy is really in to you he will still be into you in a few years after college.
2007-08-21 05:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Evil I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! How can you bf's best friend propose to his friend's girl? Is he crazy or stupid? He sounds either controlling or just wants what he can't have. If you're not into your present bf, why don't you break up? You both sound like you're not ready for an engagement. You should break up, then date this guy if you're serious about him. THEN think about if you really want to spend the rest of your life with him.
Things sometimes change after you get out of school and get into the real world. With your avatar's name, I think you should go out and have some fun before you commit anyway.
2007-08-21 05:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if you are attracted to this guy because he is the It man in your school and he conveinetly approaches you when you are fickle about your present relationship. If you dump your bf for this guy (who is your bf best friend) than your bf could have problems with that guy because the relationship is so sudden he will feel as if he stole you from him and then the guy may have to chose his friendship over you. Either way that causes problems. If your bf hasn't been pleasing to you for a while you should do something to rekindle your relationship if that doesn't work you should talk about quits. Leave the bf best friend to others he doesn't seem to be a good friend if he is suggesting things to his best's gf....do you really want someone like that?
2007-08-21 05:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by fashionista diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm not sure what sort of proposal it is. I assume he asked you out on a date? You really should tell your current bf that you want to see other people or just out and out break up with him. Sneaking around behind his back will just make things worse. Go out with this new guy if you want to, but be prepared for some pretty hard feelings on your bf's side. If you two aren't clicking anymore, maybe ending it would be for the best.
2007-08-21 05:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by leaptad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you really love this guy, then you should totally accept his proposal. If you just like him for his looks, and reputation, then maybe he's not the one for you. A marriage and relationship should be more than just looks. You should love the guy for who he is on the inside. His personality and feelings are all that should really matter. Of course looks are important as well, I'm not saying their not. But if you were going out with your best friend, then maybe it wouldn't be fair to just dump him for the other guy. I think you should tell you feelings to you bf and explain the situation. But be gentle and word cleverly. "Hear-out" his answer. If you find out that you care about him more than the guy who proposed, then you should stick with your bf. If not, then accept the proposal.
2007-08-21 05:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by cared to answer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... few things that are cause for concern
1. how not serious are you towards your present boyfriend
2. what does the captain want you for, romance, arm candy, or lust?
in the first place it sounds like you shouldn't go out with the present boyfriend anymore no matter how the situation w/the other guy turns out.
Also if that captain wants you for arm candy/lust type relationship dont put yourself down for that.
One hint as well, your obvious hinting at their best friendship means that bad rumors will pop up no matter what your choice is. You may end up having to have no boyfriends for the time being in order to reduce the amount of drama this causes.
2007-08-21 05:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by rezruf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be your final year in the school. So, I would suggest you concentrate in your studies now and avoid any kind of distractions. Of course you must exercise regularly and also entertain yourself by listening to music or if you have any hobby, pursue the same whenever you find time. But for God's sake plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz do not fall in the trap that is so easy to fall in at your age. You will have plenty of time and opportunity in the years ahead to enjoy your life the way you like. Now is the time to prepare yourself ,establish yourself so as to be able to choose a right partner. Yes, friends are necessary even at this stage but, only friends and nothing beyond. I know,this sounds like very old fashioned advice on moral conduct. All the same, I would insist you follow this at least for this year. Good luck.-------pkb
2007-08-21 05:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by pk b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way. If your boyfriend had a girl that is a perfect 10 ask him to be with him. Will he be right to brake up with you to go for something that look to be better that what he has at the moment? I don't know this guy that propose to you, but think long and hard. Something that look good right now may not be later down the line. I hope this helps.
2007-08-21 05:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by lopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not accept a proposal that it out of the blue from someone I don't know very well. ALWAYS take time to get to know him first. If he just springs this on you I would be careful he could like you for real or it could be a dare or something. If he really loves you he can wait till you are ready to be proposed to. I would tell him that you need more time to get to know him first. If you really love your boyfriend then stay with him. But if not don't keep him hanging for nothing.
2007-08-21 05:12:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋