To Muslims...................... about burying ??

Question

Al Salamo alaykom ........
i just wanted to know your experiences (and it would be especially from men) the moments you buried in dead people from your relatives or friends.......... How was it like??
What did you feel when you buried someone who was used to talk to you moments ago and share fun with you, but suddenly, you bury him in sand and and cover him with mud, in a hole of about a meter and a half or two ??
Has it changed your life after this or affected it in any way??

please, let us know about these sensitive moments...... for i know that such moments are to change the person to a pious one, or at least a person who contemplates......... after experiencing such difficult situations.

Non-Muslims are more than welcome to share their stories here.
please, from all of you, i need stories that especially made a change in your life after such incident.

thanks and peace.

to gandamack 2 : do you mean that he used to bury them in "YOU" ??.....ohh!! that is totally "YUK" !!

Answer 1

Well Nada, I don't know if I should consider my self fortunate or the opposite. I'm the eldest male in the family (by family I mean extended family) and that meant that everybody depended on me for difficult tasks, including death.

My first encounter with death and burials was when I was in second year of University (Architecture department) the burial of my grandmother collapsed and who in the family had better credentials to supervize the construction, of course me. I saw some difficult sights there, but it hardened me.

Then I assissted in preparing and burying two of my relatives and I tell you its not as gross as I would have imagined. It felt almost good that I was able to help some one I loved even after their death. Your only worry at such moment is what will happen to them now after you leave them down there in the dark. But again they'll be in the hand of their creator the merciful and Just.

But what really touched me deeply was the burial of a ten years old boy who died of cancer, he was the son of some friends. I can tell you there is nothing in the world more painful than the sight of parents burying their little boy. In such moments you feel detached from the world and closer to the afterlife, you can practically feel the meaning of life and death as described in the Quraan.

And by the way Nada, in Egypt we do not bury the Islamic way, there is no 7feet hole, there is no covering in dirt. We still bury our dead the ancient Egyptian way, we just put them in an under ground chamber. That little boy I told you about wasn't burried in Egypt and it was done the proper Islamic way... and I can tell you its totally different and touching.

But as other answerers said, man forgets, after a while he even forgets the death of his own mother. Something you could never immagine, but happens all the time, just look around you.

Answer 2

I have known people who died, but 4 years ago when my brother died it definitely changed me. Although he was 39 at the time, he was still the baby in the family and his death affected all of us very much. He and I were very close and talked on the phone often since he was living in another state. He died in May and the last time I saw him was the previous Christmas and I spoke with him 2 weeks before his death. I thank God that I was given that opportunity. My brother struggled most of his life with alcoholism due to abuse suffered at the hands of our father. Shortly before his death he became sober and began to attend church again. He was getting his life together so I know he is in Heaven and I will see him again some day. I miss him very much, but I am happy for him that he is with the Father and that he now has peace that he never had on earth.

He had a friend who was more like a brother and they had known each other for about 30 years. His friend had been in a car wreck and was a paraplegic for the last 10 years of his life. About 3 weeks after my brother died, his friend also died. It gave our family and his family much peace to know that the two of them were in Heaven together and their earthly woes were no more.

Answer 3

The moments of someone kept down the 7feet earth and buried in really changes our life for sometime. It never lasts long as man forgets everything. Those moments we really recall the very littleness of this life and reflects meanings of life. The heart chills for sometime when we say the verses of the Holy Quran : We have created you from the earth, into it We shall return you and from it We shall bring you back to life once again. (20:55) and closes with mud. Insan (man) in Arabic literally means ‘forgetter’ so Prophet (PBUH) asked us to visit graves in order to remember death and afterlife often. The Holy Prophet of Allah sallallahu alaihe wasallam has said, "The most intelligent person is the one who often remembers death. Constant remembrance of it prevents one from evil and sin and motivates him towards good morals. The Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihe wasallam said, "The remembrance of death defeats joy."

Answer 4

Walaikom mus salam.

As a human, we are always fast to forget the feeling of guilt and insaf ( Taubat). We are always being carried away by the influence of the world, However, few people will treat their encounter as a wake up call for them.

Wassallam.

Answer 5

I haven't had to burry anyone since I became Muslim...I wish my family would become Muslim too....I cry when I think about them dying...