I'm going to a wedding of some new neighbours. We didn't know eachother when they were doing the planning of the wedding, but are close now. It's too late to add us to the dinner, but they want us to join them after the dinner for the dance part of the reception. We want to give them cash as a gift. What is the appropriate amount of money to give per person? They are having an open bar if that makes a difference. Thanks for any guidance you can provide.
2007-08-21 04:13:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are more than just us on the street that they want to invite, so it would mean adding a whole table, and they are already at the capacity of the reception hall. We don't feel bad at all that we aren't being invited to the dinner, we are just happy to go celebrate with them.
2007-08-21 04:48:00 · update #1
Give what you can afford without needing to scrape for cash.
The fact they are having an open bar is irrelevant IMO.
$50 would be good.
2007-08-21 07:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding gift is based on your personal relationship with the Bride and/or Groom.
It has absolutely nothing to do with the price of a dinner . . the price of a drink or two . . or when you walk into the reception hall.
Is the Bride and/or Groom . .
A brother or sister?
A long lost cousin?
Your boss?
A co-worker that you sit next to?
A childhood friend?
A neighbor that you have become good friends with? YES
May I suggest . .
If the wedding is ULTRAFORMAL (the Groom is wearing tails) $250
If the wedding is FORMAL (the Groom is wearing a tuxedo)
$200
If the wedding is SEMIFORMAL (the Groom is wearing a suit)
$100
If the wedding is CASUAL or INFORMAL (the Groom is wearing shorts or casual slacks or jeans or a bathing suit) $50
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-08-21 17:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's a half-a$$ed invitation if you ask me. I wouldn't go if I were you. Imagine throwing a child's birthday party at Disneyland but telling a few kids they can't go but they can come to your house afterwards for cake.
Anyway, since you're half invited you should send a card wishing the couple well. Whether you add cash or not is up to you but I'd give a gift card. Make them go where you want them to.
Good luck friend.
2007-08-21 11:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by gh0st 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I dont think it matters or that they will spend a lot of time assessing your gift. The fact that you will be paying for your drinks adds to your low gift price. Check on weddingchannel.com to see ifthey are registered and buy something that is cheap but a token. I personally wouldnt go just because I think they felt obligated after they got to know you.
2007-08-21 11:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could be wrong, but I kind of doubt it's too late to add people to the dinner. My caterer lets me do it as late as a week before, but anyway... I wouldn't give them much. Why not just buy something on the registry? Even though they technically know the amounts of everything on there, there's a little less pressure on how much to spend.
2007-08-21 11:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by petunia0384 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I added people to my dinner 3 days before the wedding...
2007-08-21 11:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by LB 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think $100 has become standard (or $50 pp)...realize how difficult the invites are to a wedding...the lists are made so early that a relationship that has grown prior to the date just isn't planned for. You may feel like you are a wedding crasher but I think you will have a great time dancing and having fun! They will be happy that you made it to have fun with them!!
2007-08-21 11:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by singlegreenjeff 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
$50-100
2007-08-21 11:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by jamitha99 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if its a wedding $100 or more
if its just a dinner $20-100
2007-08-21 11:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I wouldn't go. Tell them you have other plans. It's rude not to invite you to the dinner.. they just want your cash gift.
2007-08-21 11:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Silac 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋