2007-08-21 04:04:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you are the MOH boyfriend, you should only contribute to the wedding gift. Unless you have extra money laying around, helping her w/ expenses would be a nice gesture.
2007-08-21 04:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding gift traditionally but you are not married so there is no obligation to do so
If you want to help pay for the shower you can but again, there is no obligation to do so
I suggest you do what you can afford to do and what you would like to do. Also factor in your gf reaction to this and do what works best for preserving your relationship.
If i were a guy I would ask my gf if she needs help with the shower and let het her know that i am contributing $20 (or whatever you decide) to the gift. That way you let her know your contribution and she knows that you care enough to share
Careful now or she will think that you are a good catch and you will be next to wed
2007-08-21 04:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by msijg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the bridal party all pools their money together to buy a larger gift for the bride and groom (usually their luggage if they have registered for it).
As maid of honor, your GF might want to buy a seperate gift just from her. Your contribution depends on how long you've been together and your relationship with the wedding couple - but only her name will appear on the card.
For the wedding gift, you definately need to cover your dinner plate as a gift - so no less than the equivalent of cost-per-head. Same goes for your GF.
2007-08-21 04:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by I Sprout A Blueberry 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can help with either just the wedding gift or the wedding and shower gift.
2007-08-21 07:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're the boyfriend, you don't need to pay for either. She's responsible for the gifts, and can just add your name to the wedding gift. However, if you do want to contribute, it's just for the wedding gift.
2007-08-21 04:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's a couples shower, I'd chip in, but otherwise, showers are pretty much a girl thing. You wouldn't be expected or required to give or send a gift for the shower.
2007-08-21 04:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by abzolut 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just the wedding gift. it's not her wedding anyway.
2007-08-21 04:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by fleur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wedding only
showers are for girls
2007-08-21 12:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Cher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no etiquette for this. It is totally up to what you want to do, and what your girlfriend wants of you.
2007-08-21 04:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's whatever you want to do..
2007-08-21 04:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by lisa_pisa26 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋