My father is constantly emotionally abusive to me, my sister and even to my mother. This abuse has being going on for year's but recently it has been getting worse in line with my father's increasing consumption of alcohol, my mother seems to pretend its not happening. He is verbally abusive and it is impossible to talk to him without him either ignoring me or raising his voice screaming at me and trying to intimidate me.
I have just left home because of this, although this has made life difficult as I am staying with friends at the moment and I have no permanent residency until I can move into university accomodation. I was wondering what legal action I could take against my father if any considering I live in the UK?
2007-08-21 03:59:31 · 11 answers · asked by rockz40oz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think contacting a charity that can help me find a place to stay is my priority, since my friend's aren't that great, they end up forcing me out when they go out etc.
2007-08-24 02:30:20 · update #1
I really don't think you could take any legal action against your father although the way he treats you and your family is clearly wrong, moving out is probably the best move you could make, and distancing yourself from him is the only way i can see for this vicious circle to end. Your fathers abusiveness arises from his alcohol problem and the fact he has been allowed to treat you all this way.
Chin up mate
2007-08-21 04:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi sorry for your troubles,ive come very close to leaving home in the past due to a father whod get into rages thru alcohol and othertimes sober and that was due to the fact he had other family issues eg fell out with my sister big time and his own brother,sisters etc. i felt that i was emotionally restrained from leaving for the guilt of leaving my mum. However times are better now. before u take that lawful step into getting ur father 'done' for things,ask yourself does he need help how was he before,is it a sudden change? Try citizens advice bureau they should be able to point u in the right direction. hope thinks work out for you.
2007-08-21 04:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My heart goes out to you and there is no reason that you need to put up with an abusive environment. I am glad that you have good friends until you go to the university. I do not know about the laws in the Uk and I am sorry that I do not !
2007-08-21 04:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to a local Church. They can and will help.
Your father sounds like he may be an alcoholic. If that is the case, than he has to quit on his own. He has to admit that he's an alcoholic and has a problem. He has to want to help himself first. -If he doesn't want to loose his family.
Definitely seek shelters, a Church, and some family counseling. -God Bless.
2007-08-27 05:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have removed yourself from the home, good thing. The people who need to take action are your mom and sister. If your mom is in denial, there is little you can do for her. Your sister however, is probably as unhappy as you are. Try al-anon for information and support. Until your dad physically hurts someone, there is nothing legally that can be done to confine him.
2007-08-21 04:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a U.K. phone number I found on a child abuse site I was recently on. ChildLine on 0800 1111. Give them a call and see if they can help.
2007-08-21 13:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might try talking to a counselor at school about it. They may can steer you in the right direction to take. If not try your pastor at church, ot the police.
2007-08-21 04:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know there is supose to be places to help for that just go and ask but i am not sure i know there are govt places and shelters to ask for help ou will make it goo dluck
2007-08-26 13:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay well away
read lillian glass toxic people its sets guidelines on how to deal with negative destructive behaviour
2007-08-21 04:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
call the child support helpline, u don't want to die before you seek help do u?
They can help and rehouse you, so call them fast!
2007-08-21 12:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by asuoonline 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋