Can anyone halp me please??

Question

I was with my bf for nearly 2 years. We broke up and he really humiliated me infront of his friends and lady friend since then he havent spoken. Now he just rubs it in my face i always see them parading up and down together. It bothers me to see hes happy (if he really is) and moved on and i cant, im sorry i dont mean to sound selfish. Can anyone cheer me up

Answer 1

Look on the bright side... He showed his true colors before you got married, had children, bought a house together...

Plus, now he is her problem. You never have to put up with his stupidity again.

Answer 2

Hey! Why are you letting some guy who doesn't deserve you ruin your day!? Anyone who would humiliate you in front of others deserves to be kicked to the curb and forgotten. I know it is hard to hear, but this is true. If you really want to put a damper on his flaunting, GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE! Hook-up with someone else, or go out with your girlfriends and have a GREAT TIME! Try a new sexy hairstyle, get in better shape (even if you are fit), get a new hot wardrobe, go out on the town every weekend! Don't let him see that his actions bother you. Girl, you have got to believe in yourself and never give a guy the ability to decide whether or not you're happy. Rely on yourself for that. Get the power back from him. He's no kind of man for a woman like you!

Answer 3

You are choosing not to move on! The best way for you to move on is think about your future instead of the past! Be happy you are away from someone who would treat you so badly! Look forward to falling in love again and the happiness in your future! Think of how he will feel when he sees you happy with someone else! You are letting him harm you more by staying where you are and being down! Only YOU can make things change, by changing your outlook and attitude! Go live the best life you can!!!

Answer 4

best advice not only this situation, never see anyone as a priority when they see you as an option!!! don't waste your time, get over it. When i broke up with my ex husband, i really redirected my hate to his new "girl". Mom told me to feel sorry for her cause she had NOT a clue as to what she was in for. I have now felt sorry for 6 in 4 years! HA HA HA. Was she right! now the old, new gf is my best friend. We feel like we went through concentration camp together. It may take time, but it will get easier, maybe even a lil revenge will be tossed in for an added bonus. Bitter is okay no matter what anyone says. You just have to know how to use it.

Answer 5

Don't worry about that guy... He is obviously not happy if he feels the need to rub it in your face. I have been divorced for 2 years from my ex-husband and he still tries to do that. Your best bet is to start seeing someone else. Once he sees that you are happy he will be jealous and will stop trying to show you up so to speak. Don't be sad, there are billions of fish in the sea. You just have to find the right one.

Answer 6

Girl you will find someone else. Just think how good you can feel around him...well imagine someone that is really meant for you that really loves u and doesnt humilate u. You will feel on top of the world. Go out...have fun. Dont sweat him. You are fabulous and deserve better. Its natural to be bitter. Love hurts. But time heals everything. he notices u not noticing...he'll want you back. You arent selfish at all!!

Answer 7

Well cheering you up is something that only you can do because you see him everyday 'rubbing it into your face' and you know that you don't want that for yourself. And the reason he is constantly doing this is because he knows that you are bothered by this, so you need to move on. Get someone who you like very much and you can relate to and don't even think of him.

Answer 8

People may say no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you're suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way--at least initially. These suggestions may help you navigate the painfully troubled waters of a relationship that has ended.


Step OneBreathe. All you can do is survive this first and difficult day. Take one day at a time. Give yourself permission to mourn. Call in sick at work, sleep all day, eat too much ice cream, sob.
2Step TwoCongratulate yourself for being human: It is only when you open yourself to love that your heart can break. Develop and repeat a helpful mantra to get you through the initial shock and pain, such as "This too shall pass" or "I will survive."
3Step ThreeReach out to a close friend or family member. It helps to share your thoughts with others. Watch a movie to distract yourself. Choose a comedy that has cheered you up in the past. Or watch a movie that's guaranteed to make you sob--it may surprise you how good that feels.
Month 1
Steps
1Step OneWeek 1: Force yourself to go out even if you are feeling despondent. Take yourself out for a cup of coffee or go on a long walk. Express your emotions in a way that comes naturally. Write in a journal, paint, sculpt or play music. Do daily cardiovascular exercise--the endorphins will give your spirits an immediate lift. Resist the urge to call your ex. Instead, write a letter. Don't mail it. Go out of town for the weekend to distance yourself from the temptation to call your ex. Visit an old friend or go back home to your roots. A change of environment does wonders for the spirit. Put everything that reminds you of your ex in a box and seal it. Throw it away, donate it to charity or ask a friend to hold on to it indefinitely.
2Step TwoWeek 2: Surround yourself with friends. This may mean reaching out to people you fell out of touch with during the relationship. Make lists to help you regain your confidence and identity: a list of your friends, of things you like, of what you want to accomplish in the next decade. Spoil yourself: Get a new hairstyle, have a spa day or go shopping. Resist the urge to call your ex.
3Step ThreeWeek 3: Assess the experience. Have you learned anything about yourself? Does the experience make you more empathetic to others who've suffered a hardship? Begin an activity that will fill your time, distract your mind and rebuild your confidence. Train for a marathon, take up yoga or learn a new language. Resist the urge to call your ex. Volunteer your time at a local homeless shelter, soup kitchen or tutoring center. It will take your mind off your own woes and keep your suffering in perspective.
4Step FourWeek 4: Continue regular socializing and exercising. While socializing, though, make sure you don't depend on alcohol or drugs to dull the pain. Call your ex if you feel it would be helpful. Resist if you merely want to say hurtful things. Consider dating other people, but be wary of rebound relationships. Understand that you will need to experience and process sadness, anger, guilt and fear to fully heal. Burying or ignoring these emotions will thwart the healing process. Write, cry, share the feelings with friends.

Answer 9

what was his reason for doing that? It sounds like he was mad at something. To be so cold and mean...All I can say is dont give that son of a b#tch the satisfaction of seeing you sweat. I know it feels like the end of the world but its not. Make urself be ok and focus on you. Leave him behind and dont look back. I promise ull get over him.

Answer 10

after my breakup i listened to michelle branch and watched the sun set. that type of simple stuff. one quote of hers is like "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else" so maybe you should try to move on. if you aren't ready to do that, then spend two days just totally wallowing and eating junk food and watching sappy movies. on day three, get up early, go for a nice walk, be happy and act normal and get together with friends. don't ask us to cheer you up, you have to do it for youself. you'll be fine though, you deserve better than that guy anyways.