I used to be in love with this girl,but she onnly wanted to remain friends.Since that happened the friendship has been very rocky,contact was lost for 4 months.Whenever we hear about each others exploits we both get very jealous!I saw her this wkn wth mates and she wanted to chat to me alone.
She started asking me how I felt about her,why I couldn't tell her how I felt.I also asked her and she said she cares about me,I asked if thats all,she didn't answer.She then asked me about the girls I've been meeting,if I've slept with them etcShe then apologised for having a 1 night stand,saying she regrets it.We then hugged/kissed on the cheek/neck.
I told her she deserves better,but she said she can't change,it's who she is!She said I deserve someone better than her,I cud have anyone,why her?I said I care as we're friends+asked if she wants that to change-no answer from her!
We ended up arguing,I called her cheap/easy.She then suggested we brake contact for awhile.
I'm confused?
2007-08-21 03:38:01 · 7 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She also asked why I hate 1 night stands so much,why am I against them?
I didn't expect her to mention 'US' as she clearly said she don't want to become more.We patched things up in the morning,but she's ignoring my txt's now.
She's leaving the counrty for 6months(placement).Will things be the same?Can we ever be friends?
2007-08-21 03:41:01 · update #1
I regret saying what I did - I honestly did.SHE raised the conversation about US - NOT ME!
2007-08-21 03:58:45 · update #2
things are a bit heated at the moment, with the time and space you'll both have, it will hopefully put things into perspective, and who knows, it could result in you being close friends again
2007-08-21 03:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all.. Why would you have an interest or want to be with someone who sees no problem with 1 night stands. This obviously means that she isnt looking for a relationship right now, or she wouldnt be having them. I've said this exact same thing to a good guy friend of mine that I had known most of my life.. It's typical for girls to say this, I'm not doubting that she cares for you, because I too cared for my good guy friend.. But, sometimes when you are friends with someone for awhile, the "friend" barrier happens, and its too hard to see yourself with them, or certain small things about them, just make you not attracted to them in the way you maybe wish you could be. Anyways, if I were you I would let this one go. If she comes back to you, and wants to be with you, then great.. if not, I don't see a friendship as being a good idea, you need to get over this girl once and for all if she doesn't want to be with you, because you're missing out on a lot of great girls who do want to be with you. Move on, if she comes back to you, wanting to be with you, then great.. but, dont let your feelings for her hold you back any longer.. let this go. good luck!
2007-08-21 03:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by pretty bia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...sounds like you really like the girl but you didn't like the way she did a 1 nyt stand, did you ever ask her why she did it? may be she's longing for your love, and may be thats how she measure love.
I understand you that the way she did a 1 nyt stand may lost ur respect with the girl even though you love her. What if, you were the guy that ask him to have a 1nyt stand would you allow him?? nweiz, just try to understand the girl and try to reflect also on what you have said about her?
And about the breaking up with you and going to US, may be she decide to leave you because she want to forget what happen that day and may she was ashamed of what she did,
just try to move on, and may be she's right you deserve someone else that will love you eventhough you love her, just try to move on. nweiz moving on is not that difficult task if you want it to happen...
i hope i answered you query..... sana.....
2007-08-21 18:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have had many people answer this but you won't listen.
You called her "cheap and easy" and you want to be with her!!! My dear, that makes YOU "cheap and easy".
She doesn't sound cheap or easy to me if she wanted to break contact with you after you called her that.
You aren't grown up enough for her. Now get used to it, work on your own self-esteem and stop passing judgement over others.
You aren't confused. You simply aren't the person to be dating this woman. You don't sound very experience (worldly) and she does.
Find someone who is more "like you" AND if you call a woman "cheap and easy", they won't want to be around you. That isn't too hard to figure out.
2007-08-21 03:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if the girl is just as confused about life and her feelings as you.
Sometimes people just grow apart for no apparent reason. I wouldn't carry a torch waiting for her return ( sorry about the old fashioned terminology)if I were you.
Get on with your life and find someone who holds the same values as you.
2007-08-21 03:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this now the 3rd time I've seen this.
I'd be confused too.
2007-08-21 03:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you just have to wait till she comes back right now she probaly wants to relax and have fun give her a break..
2007-08-21 03:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by jester101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋