Please answer! This woman is crazy and Im going nuts!?

Question

When Im with my mother in law what do I do to let her know I dont want to talk to her really? I am sick of her asking about my businness ( she'll ask my man about my business more than asking me?? )and Im also sick of her calling my fiance 40 times a day to see what he's doing. Im 21 he's 24. This sh*it is ridiculous.. I wanna give her the finger in her face and just go off but what would be even better???? Shes so annoying, i dont want to do anything with her or for her. She has a poor personality, she complains, shes just the height of annoying. I dont want her to think I hate her guts b/c i have to live with her forever... i just want it to be known that she needs to stay out of my mans life and outta mine.. if we need her we will f' ing call her.

Answer 1

I love how adults like to talk about there SO's like there a piece of property, hey thats MY man, or back up off My girl, funny stuff. Ether way what you dealing with is transference! Yea an interesting word, but it basically means your Man there is letting good old mom, push in the relationship and do whatever she wants. And instead of being anger at your man for not doing a decent job of controlling or at the least understanding his mom, your anger at her for just being her, sad, sad. But if you want this fixed get your man on it, because anything short of that is just going to cause more and more conflict.... but shoot its your life, lets just say its the same perception that makes ladies blame other ladies when there man cheats......lol, yea that also makes me laff.... and also stay away from mama's boys lol that never works..... which its obvious he is just becasue moms stepping into his personal business without restraint...... usually health independent people will not stand for that type of behavior from there parents, why does yours?