I mean get to know another guy to see if it may or may not work out??? Without your bf knowing, of course! Is it 'that' bad of a thing to do?? Just to straighten out my mind... Im very confused right now!!!
2007-08-21 03:14:40 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont think its a bad thing as long as no one gets hurt in the process of "playing the field"
2007-08-21 03:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yeah, that's cheating. That's why promising commitment before you are on a path to marriage is insane. You should be allowed to do this sort of thing within some limits, but that's not allowed if you are in what most people call a 'relationship'. You are shopping around for a new man while some poor guy is saving himself for you.
Now, if the two of you had a more open relationship, then you'd be able take a few hours of your time to see if that interesting guy you met was a passing attraction or the love of your life, but when you two decided that you two were exclusive, that goes beyond sex and kissing, it includes dating of any kind--if you meet up with that guy, you are cheating.
2007-08-21 03:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that you would not want your current boyfriend to know about is not OK. That would include "getting to know" another guy. If you were honestly just becoming friends with another guy, that would be another story. But you are talking about possibly starting a relationship with this other guy, no good. If you think you can do better then do the right thing and break up with your current BF, don't go sneaking behind his back.
2007-08-21 03:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by suspendedagain300 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long your boyfriend and you have been going out. If you guys have been dating for a long time than obviously something aint right in your relationship that would make you want to see how things would work out with someone else. I myself have a lot of guy friends whom I speak with on a daily basis but I don't hide any of them from my boyfriend. Is this your first boyfriend? If so maybe your just wondering what else is out there an you feel as if your a lil trapped cuz things arent bad with your man but you still fill like your settling and want to try severl other guys before settling. If you've dated other men than maybe your just not happy and need to move on and think about your happiness and not jump into another relationship until your sure that he is the one you want to be faithfull to.
2007-08-21 03:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can always turn the situation around and say "How would I feel if my bf was chatting it up with another girl to possibly replace me?" How does that make you feel? If you aren't truly "in love" with your current bf then talk about seeing other people and being friends for awhile.. Take a "break" and see what else is out there... It's not fair to lead someone on- think of how you would feel...
2007-08-21 03:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's not a totally good thing because that means you are not sure about your current relationship. And if you are not totally positive about your current relationship than you shouldn't lead the guy on any longer. If you would like to see other guys than you shouldn't be with him. I say this because my twin sister is in the similar type of situation. I gave her the same advice because she was not telling this other guy that he was going out with someone. I told her hiding it from him is just as bad as lying to him. And if you do want to start a new relationship with this other person do you want to start it off with a lie? It's something to think about. Personally I do think it's wrong, but not terribly wrong. I just certainly wouldn't want someone I was dating to be talking to someone else behind my back. It's really all up to you hun. Good luck!
2007-08-21 03:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Linz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is wrong. If you are in a relationship, you should give your boyfriend all the love and attention he deserves. If you don't feel like he's the one, you need to be honest with him so either the two of you can figure out why your not into him or decide to each move on. You wouldn't want someone to be dating you but trying to hook up with someone else at the same time. You obviously think it is wrong because your asking this question. But to reinforce your thinking, yes it is wrong. Best of luck!
2007-08-21 03:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends yes...getting to know more about them, so more can develop...no! You know its wrong I mean why else would you be asking! If you and this guy ur with are exclusive, and are in a relationship then no! Thats cheating even if you dont do anything physical! Look at it in reverse how would you feel if your boyfriend was getting to know another girl and didn't tell you??
2007-08-21 03:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your looking for a way out of something your not really in that something.
why not get some help from above to straighten your mind and then do what you gotta do=best to you this morning & EVERYDAY SURVIVAL KIT!!!
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2007-08-21 04:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u going steady?? either ur serious or not... of course u'll be attracted 2 other ppl 2, but if ur REALLY interested then there's smething wrng with ur relationship... do you feel alright abt ur relationship? are there sparks?? its not THAT bad, but if ur hiding it from ur boyfriend, then u must knw he wnt be happy abt it, right? which means that ur going behind his back... i think that the other guy is not the problem, its ur boyfriend. if ur STONGLY attracted 2 smebody else, then there's a problem with u.. u cant actually see 2 guys.. so i guess u shud either 4get abt the ather guy or BREAK UP!!
...uhhh..did i confuse u more?? if yes, sorry...i was trying 2 help...btw gudluck
2007-08-21 03:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by shini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are very confused right now then call your relationship off or ask for some time apart and do your searching. It really isn't fair for you to have your bf holding on because you are confused.....that's definitely not love or caring.
2007-08-21 03:20:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋