okay so i was watching the today show today, it was talking about teenagers and what makes them happy...i am a teenager, only the segment was talking about how PARENtS make thier children happy and that they're they're heros...NEItHER of them are my heros, infact, i dont even think i have one, is this the reason why i am so unhappy lately? i feel like they put too much pressure on me, i wanted to go 2 a summer camp w/ two close freinds of mine becuase one moved to washington dc, and my other friend is going 2 bording school...my parents said that i can only go 2 summer school if i get on the honnor role, which i took it as "if your not smart enough, your not going to do the stuff you want".... im not the only child in the family that has this same issue, my brother who is 27....is StILL LIVING At HOME, mainly becuase my parents pressured him too much so he started doin drugs, and it was a huge problem when i was younger, now everyday my parents bang on his door saying "what are(cont.)
2007-08-21 03:07:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
(cont.) "what are you doing productice w/ your life", is there something wrong w/ my parents? or what... what should i do, and if anyone studies teenager habbits...or w/e please answer my qeustion i am desprate...seriously
2007-08-21 03:08:59 · update #1
(i also mean summer CAMP not summer school)
2007-08-21 03:10:20 · update #2
i don't think it's your parents that are making you unhappy. perhaps it's because you're unmotivated when it comes to making yourself happy, or it's the dependence on your parents to do so for you.
about the summer camp- it sounds to me as if your parents made a deal with you. honor roll is great.. it's every parents' dream for their children. it's not a matter of 'if you're not smart enough, you're not going to do what you want.' parents are allowed to set rules and it's not because they want you to suffer. they want you to succeed and do well in school. if the camp actually meant that much to you, you would've studied twice as hard so you could see your departing friends.
my advice to you is to start caring about yourself and doing great things involuntarily for yourself and others, and in time your parents will see how much you care about your school work, grades, friends, community, and your family. it is then when they will release the pressure.
good luck
2007-08-21 03:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by sunkissed. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think outside the box. Every parent wants their child to succeed and become more successful then they are. Of course they put pressure on you to do good. Every parent wants their children to be on honor roll and go to college. As a teenager you set your mind on what you want to do right now. Maybe you should have made honor roll so you could go to Summer Camp. And always remember that you make your own choices so the fact that your brother is living at home he choose his lifestyle. Do you really want to be like him. I would hope you would want to get good grades, finish school, go to college, move out to a place of your own and be successful. Don't look at your parents as the bad guy because you didn't get what you wanted.
2007-08-21 03:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your "happiness" is your responsibility, not your parents. Mood swings and abrupt shifts in interests and desires are common to adolescence. I doubt anyone's parents could actually "make" them happy all of the time. Most parents do their best to raise their children to become adults, which means teaching them to be mature, responsible, independent people.
Part of maturity is the ability to set goals, and delay the impulse for immediate gratification. If you want to go to summer camp, do what your parents asked. Or, go out, get a job, and pay for it yourself.
2007-08-21 03:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ghost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starter(s) parents aren't here on this earth to make you "happy".. Yes, they are supossed to care for you and make sure you are healthy and well cared for and provide you with the basic necessities... Food/shelter etc... However, as much as I "live" for my children I want them to someday go and be on their own and be remarkable adults.. That's teaching them respect, loyalty, forgiveness, trust, humility and being good adults... So, when your parents put restrictions on you "not being able to go to summer camp unless you get good/great grades" it's to help you be more responsible and work hard to abtain your goals.. You can either "rise" to the challenge or not that choice is up to you.. It's not your parents responsibility to "get good grades" so YOU can go to summer camp... So, the choice is yours.. As for your brother and his drug use there may be other underlying factors in why exactly he does drugs.. I would focus more on what you can do to improve yourself rather than what your parents can do to "make you happy". You'll learn in life that your boss, your roommates and significant other has other things to do than "to make you happy".. It's just a fact of life... Good luck
2007-08-21 03:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do believe its up to your parents to make YOU happy? That's not their job! Their job is to get you prepared for your life ahead WITHOUT THEM; to get you to fullfill your potential.
Life isn't easy; it ain't the fun fest the television sit coms make it out to be. And most of the time, we don't get what we want.
You are feeling the way you do for purely chemical reasons; your body is changing, maturing and in the process is causing a chemical imballance in your brain (that everyone goes through) making you more apt to feel depressed. Your parents couldn't cheer you up if they had to.
2007-08-21 03:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋