If your spouse abuses illegal drugs and threatens to hurt you is it scripturally okay to leave him? I asked this question once before, I'm still not sure what to do.
2007-08-21 02:50:25 · 11 answers · asked by Sue 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Only adultery allows for divorce with the possibility of re-marriage.
However, if one mate feels they are in danger, it is certainly not against Bible principles for that mate to separate from the other.
2007-08-21 06:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You know I am not a JW and should really not be answering but here in Canada there was a documentary that displayed a total disregard for the victim; as the spouse of the spouse using illegal drugs is...in this documentary they used two examples from a West Toronto tabernacle and a young girl and a young boy, both victims, were told by the elders it was their fault and the perpetrators were free of guilt...when the parents went to the police they were shunned...so be careful, if you love the faith, then so be it, you may find yourself on the outside losing all your friends...I will be watching to see what the real JWs tell you...
2007-08-21 10:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by bruce b 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes.
According to Jesus Christ, the only acceptable grounds for divorce in the eyes of God is adultery.
However, some marriage mates may separate—not having legitimate grounds for a scriptural divorce. While it is not Jehovah's Will that any marriage be dissolved, God recognizes our imperfect state and does tolerate separation—provided that each one remains chaste.
Paul addressed this situation at I Corinthians 7:10-11, where he wrote: "To the married people I give instructions, yet not I but the Lord, that a wife should not depart from her husband; (but if she should actually depart), let her remain unmarried or else make up again with her husband; and a husband should not leave his wife."
2007-08-21 09:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by keiichi 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, dump the jerk and get a restraining order against him. My ex followed me around for three or four months after I started divorce proceedings. He couldn't believe I had got out of his arms length. Pathetic dic wad. Community Services were going to put me in a safe house it was that bad. Once a controller always a controller.
Former Jehovahs Witness.
2007-08-21 10:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lukusmcain// 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you feel it is unsafe or he is not providing for you, you can separate. As far as divorcing, you can divorce him, but you would not have grounds to remarry unless he has committed adultery.
My sister left her husband six years ago for alcohol abuse and drugs. He was verbally abusive and sometimes physical. She had three young daughters. He has now been sober for three years and became a witness and was baptized in March. They are planning on getting back together soon. He has not seen his kids for six years.
He told her if she had never left, he would probably never stopped the abuse. He had to hit rock bottom to realize he needed to get his life straightened out.
2007-08-21 10:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, not as a witness but as a person no religion would want you to stay in a situation where you could get hurt.
Anyone on drugs is dangerous and maybe you could help him. I know of one women who left her husband because he was using drugs and took the children. He got clean and sober and got her back and they are happy. But until someone gives him motivation he will not act.
My wife is one and she says leave. You shouldn't stay where your in fear of your life.
2007-08-21 09:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by Steven 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be more precise to say that it is "not unscriptural" to obtain a legal separation or divorce from such a person.
True Christians (such as Jehovah's Witnesses) do not encourage anyone to divorce.
(Malachi 2:16) For he has hated a divorcing,” Jehovah the God of Israel has said
True Christians (such as Jehovah's Witnesses) understand that the bible specifically allows an innocent mate to divorce an adulterous spouse. This is the only grounds for divorce for which the bible allows conscientious re-marriage.
(Matthew 5:32) I [Jesus] say to you that everyone divorcing his wife, except on account of fornication, makes her a subject for adultery, and whoever marries a [unscripturally] divorced woman commits adultery.
Where permitted by secular authorities, the Christian Congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses tolerates legal separation and divorce in cases of abuse, nonsupport, and endangerment. These grounds for legal divorce seem to be acceptable to address extreme situations, but they do not permit either spouse to be Scripturally free to remarry.
(Matthew 19:9) Whoever divorces his wife [or husband], except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/19990422/article_03.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/19990422/box_05.htm
2007-08-21 10:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm christian. I was married to a drunk who abused me for 11yrs. I asked God ,what to do. He said, Get him away from you . He wasn't loving me like Christ loves the church.
God Bless You.
2007-08-21 10:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by TCC Revolution 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you are being abused.
You cannot divorce and remarry, except on grounds of adultery, but for your safety and your children's, you can stay away until he straightens up.
2007-08-21 10:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by rangedog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not a JW anymore, but I hope that they answer thet it is scripturally ok to leave. You do not have grounds for divorce, yet, but you should get out......
LOL ....this is a first....we all agree...Go therefore and leave the sob.
2007-08-21 10:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋