How do I get her to clean her apt and keep it clean? I mean it smells, she never cleans her dishes and even when she does, all she does is rinse them out...she rarely uses soap. The carpet is filthy with stains and has never been vacuumed. Her bedsheets are totally nasty and the bathroom...I never use. She used to watch my kids for me, but I couldnt take it any more because my 2yo always got sick after being over there. She has a 2 yo son that stays sick and I believe the condition of her apt is part to blame. I've seriously considered calling child protective services or the health dept. And anytime anyone(me, my mother, or my aunt) says something to her about it, she blows up. And she only cleans up a little if shes having company so she is well aware that she is living trifling. I mean should I get an agency involved so she can see how serious this is?
2007-08-21 02:50:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wouldn't call social services yet. I have a sister that lives in squaller too. Her kids are grown and out of the house, so she can't blame the cockroach infested dung heap on them anymore! I used to go over and help her get the pig sty cleaned up every once in awhile. The piles of garbage behind her couch alone would fill a jumbo garbage bag! I did it for the love of my nephews, not for her. It's hard to believe someone could be so housekeeper-challenged! I could smell her place yards before I hit the front door. ...I would hate to see your sis lose her kid over her crap hole, but if she won't let someone intervene in garbage clean up patrol, then you might have to think of the other option. Good luck to you!!!
2007-08-21 03:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by zen 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is sickning
I know of a couple families that live like this -
I know being the sister it has to be a hard choice to make, let her know what you think - take her for a ride and explain yourself oto her. Tell her you were just going to call and let her deal with it.
But you decided to be up front and let her fix the problem first.
This is not a game, if she blows up kick her out of your car, and go call then.
If she seems to be worried you may have done well.
But remember when the state gets involved in this matter the children can legally be taken from the home put into a foster home or adoption.
She may even be claimed as unfit
2007-08-21 03:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by cgriffin1972 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you take some swabs from her house and get them tested so she can see just what sort of germs and bacteria she is growing in the hovel might be a bit of a wake up call..... take some pictures of the place and embarrass her with them shame her into tidying up.... but if she isn't willing to clean up her act for her child then i don't know what Will work
2007-08-21 02:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's disgusting just hearing about it. By the sound of her she is a grown woman and should begin to act like one. You can't force her to do anything because she has to be willing to do it on her own. That is terrible that her son stays sick because of it...so if you really care about her and your nephew you should report her. She needs to get her act together and that is definitely not a healthy environment for her kid.
2007-08-21 02:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by ~Mommy*of*3~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was just about your sister, then no, you shouldn't nag her about her lack of hygiene and her housekeeping habits. However, this isn't about just her, its also about a child, one to young to have a voice of his own.
You have a responsibility to contact the authorities and have them intervene. You owe it to the child to do everything you can to help protect his health. Hopefully your sister will get the message and the training she needs to provide a healthy and safe environment for your nephew.
Don't wait until something tragic happens - you will never forgive yourself.
2007-08-21 02:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by moleary1018 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang thats hard cuz she is family BUT kids do come first and if she has a child in that then YES i would call.Not saying she will change if this is how shes been living for so long but you can try.There is no reason her child should suffer.Also thats very unsanitary.
2007-08-21 02:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by Gemini 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she depressed?That could have something to do with the state of things at her place..
Maybe have a talk with her and see if anything is bothering her. offer to help make an appointment with a counseling service and go with her to it..
help her clean up a bit, if she has help you can talk with her about other things and get the place clean too. Any concerns talk to a Children's aid..work about your concerns.. Help her to help herself.. the outcome will be worth it..
2007-08-21 03:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have a family intervention, an action undertaken in order to change what is happening or might happen in another’s affairs, especially in order to prevent something undesirable, (from the dictionary). It may help. Could her mom help clean?
2007-08-21 03:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by JEB 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No child should have to live under conditions like that. You can remain anonymous and report her to child services.
2007-08-21 02:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by lynne f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the landlord; that person may be able to handle the situation from a contractural means....tenants have to keep the apartments up to specific guidelines & it really sounds as of she fails miserably.
2007-08-21 02:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋