Answers preferably from JWs or christians
2007-08-21 02:07:18 · 22 answers · asked by Sue 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
he hasn't hurt me yet, just started threatening me - like he told me if I touch his stuff again he'd break my f***ing hand and he is using marijuana. He has violent mood swings and I don't know what to do and he won't take medicine
2007-08-21 02:15:02 · update #1
Father666: Do not slander the JWs, I did not ask for your opinion.
2007-08-21 02:23:01 · update #2
Father666: If you had a bad experience, I can understand because not all who claim to be christian are christian or Godly people. Second you didn't even answer my question. Third, I am a baptized JW.
2007-08-21 02:40:14 · update #3
and fourth, I got married to someone that I thought loved God the way I did but I guess I was wrong. Not everyone is who they claim to be.
2007-08-21 02:47:36 · update #4
Father666: I would like a scriptural answer please. That is all I asked for.
2007-08-21 03:40:40 · update #5
Actually, Jehovah's Witnesses are Christians. Please do not pretend otherwise.
Regarding the first question (in bold), it would be more precise to say that it is "not unscriptural" to obtain a legal separation or divorce from such a person.
True Christians (such as Jehovah's Witnesses) do not encourage anyone to divorce.
(Malachi 2:16) For he has hated a divorcing,” Jehovah the God of Israel has said
True Christians (such as Jehovah's Witnesses) understand that the bible specifically allows an innocent mate to divorce an adulterous spouse. This is the only grounds for divorce for which the bible allows conscientious re-marriage.
(Matthew 5:32) I [Jesus] say to you that everyone divorcing his wife, except on account of fornication, makes her a subject for adultery, and whoever marries a [unscripturally] divorced woman commits adultery.
Where permitted by secular authorities, the Christian Congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses tolerates legal separation and divorce in cases of abuse, nonsupport, and endangerment. These grounds for legal divorce seem to be acceptable to address extreme situations, but they do not permit either spouse to be Scripturally free to remarry.
(Matthew 19:9) Whoever divorces his wife [or husband], except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/19990422/article_03.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/19990422/box_05.htm
2007-08-24 05:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 00:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian, and if you mean is it scripturally ok to divorce him, I wouldn't worry about that at this point. God obviously wants us to be safe from harm. You need to focus on the immediate problem -- your safety. And your husband's drug problems.
I'm no lawyer, but I suggest you should file a police report so that everything is on the record in case it goes any further. They may be able to arrest him for the drugs, if nothing else. If not, and he's not willing to get help, then I would temporarily separate and move out. If you're worried about your safety, get a restraining order if possible. (Although a re staining order may not be granted if he hasn't physically assaulted you yet, you sure don't want to hang around waiting for that to happen.)
Hope this helps! Feel free to e-mail me if you need to talk or vent or whatever. God bless.
2007-08-21 02:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by kaz716 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your in for a world of hurting if he won't seek help or anything. He will get used to the threats and eventually will not be satisfied with them. It will get worse.
My suggestion is to try to get outside support. Is your husband a Christian? If he is - he is supposed to be honoring God first in his life. If not, your marriage is unyoked. He walks on you - let him. You should not walk out on him yet, but that does not mean you cant protect yourself. Moving out to find a safe place to live is the right thing to do till he grows up.
Do you have children? If he smokes pot I would call the police. Locking him up might make him realize your not a pushover. I am married to a cop. I can tell you personally that I smoked it once in her presence and that was it. She was going to have me arrested. And when I realized she wasn't kidding.. I stopped cold turkey.
Don't be a doormat. Take action.
2007-08-21 02:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by onefinefeller 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES.....he is not being the spiritual head of the house...
he has given that over to another god (drugs, stupidity)
husbands are to love their wifes as Christ loves the church....
I think elvis has left the building and for your safety it is time for you to go elsewhere....ASAP
contacting the church, the elders, etc...that is all well and good...AFTER you get to a safe house where he can not find you.....
They will not be his target...they do not have to deal with his behavior...And he will hit you sooner or later, will he stop or will you be dead?
Your heart and soul belongs to God and no spouse has the right to damage God's property...
Been there done that.....finally managed a good right hook...my hand hurt for days but my daughter and I were gone and safe....
2007-08-21 02:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by coffee_pot12 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Religion doesn't need to enter into the discussion. No one needs to stay in an abusive relationship. Yours sounds like it's heading that way quickly. Get out, at least a separation, before you get hurt. He will not change until he is off the drugs, and that must be his choice.
2007-08-21 02:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
See for yourself how dangerous is the situation. Drug addicts can be really dangerous. They can't control themselves. No one have the right to judge you. If non-believing spouse don't want to live with believer, then believer can leave his spouse. By threatening he shows that he don't wants to observe rules of family life and that that means he don't wants to live with you. If you have place where to live you ought to leave him may be for a time to warn him. In such a way you can help him to think better of it.
2007-08-21 02:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by georsh50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus told us to love God, love other, and love yourself.
From this, it is acceptable to leave someone who is abusive to you. You are a child of God and you must protect the life of all of God's children, including your own.
You should still try to get your spouse help for his or her drug addiction and abusive behavior, but you can do this while still protecting yourself.
Above all, forgive your spouse. This does not mean condoning what he or she has done. It means not harboring any ill will against your spouse and continuing to love him or her.
2007-08-21 02:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run for your life, and the lives of your children if any.
That is not the orders of Jesus regarding how a husband must treat his wife.
2007-08-21 03:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by Darth Eugene Vader 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know that scripturally u cannot leave unless there is adultery involved but if it is really bad like it sounds then u can separate from him until he gets the help that he so desperately needs but just b faithful during the separation. now if he goes out and cheats on u during the separation then u can either forgive and forget or just completely forget him. if u want you should talk to an elder or pastor about yuor situation.
2007-08-21 02:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by gg 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋