She hates that im with her son who is only 21 and im 30. I dont see a problem with the age gap. we have a wonderful 11 month old baby boy together. but because she doesnt like me she want nothing more to do with him. she has no other children.
2007-08-21 01:48:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For those of you who think Im the problem. You dont have to hear the bullsh!t that comes out of her mouth each day. But thanks to those who do understand my problem. I know im not perfect but who in this life time is?
2007-08-21 15:51:07 · update #1
My mother in law (ex mother in law now) is a complete *****, just let her get on with it, its her loss, you just enjoy you're new family, once she realises her sulking is not going to get her anywhere she may grow up. x
2007-08-21 01:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what...stop being a bitchy daughter-in-law and promote family even if your husband sees himself as a victim, you are encouraging victimhood, or his mother is scared about the age gap. How do you know what's she's thinking anyways? You don't ...if she's mentioned anything she may not be saying it all. Bottom line: family is family. What's healthier a family that resembles swiss cheese or a family that has balance when situations come up? This does not mean perfection it means the family has the ability to pull itself together no matter what the topic because someone will finally solve the story problem by examining truth and the bottom line to do what is right.
My advice:
Don't *you* promote ant-family ~ not a good idea. After all...your son will also marry some day. The bottom line is this *family* is and will always be family.
2007-08-21 02:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she has high blood pressure, then take her to the doctor to get some medicine. Then she can't have that excuse anymore. If she starts blaming her high blood pressure again, pretend to be all concerned, and ask her if she's taking her medicine, or if she needs to go to the doctor again. Whenever she gets upset about something, don't even respond angrily. Ignore the words that she's saying, and ask her in a calm, concerned voice if she's OK, and if it's her blood pressure again. If his parents need care, then there are places that can care for them. You don't need to be the ones to do it. Just explain to your husband that the physical problems are now too big for the two of you to take care of on your own. Tell him they need better care than what you can give, and that at a retirement or assisted living home they would be able to care for them like they really need. There are other options. Those are just a few. But you can work this out and make it through, together with your husband.
2016-05-18 22:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by althea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word bitchy is to nice for my mother in law. At some point she is going to either get over the age and have a relationship with you both or stay stuck in her own little world. I would not be entertaining her drama. If he wants to call his mother good for him if she can't deal with your marriage and wants nothing to do with her son or you then that's her choice.
Worry about your own family. (husband and baby) Her loss
due to her stupidly.
2007-08-22 09:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow are you talking about my MIL maybe they are long lost sisters lol....now seriously yes my MIL is the same way. MY FIL died when my hubby was 6 and his brother was 1. she is a very controlling woman. I have known my husband 17 years and she has hated me the entire time. She had to play nice in order to see her son and grandkids...we had a blow up in April and now she doesn't talk to either of us. I hate that for hubby but he prefers it that way. Life is very peaceful right now. I would love it if she changed but she never will. She sees family as her and her boys and no one else...she has my bIL so wrapped..he is 30 and lives with mommy and does what ever she says..no girl friend no nothing..........it is sad...she said he can't move and he says OK.
2007-08-21 02:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by chris d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So far, most MILs I have encountered that disapproves of a DIL or SIL have generally had good cause to do so!
It is not always the MIL's fault - they just get all the abuse heaped on them.
MILs are nearly always around to baby sit, lend money, help out domestivally etc....the list goes on.
DILs tend to be beatchy & SILs tend to act like spolt brats.....
2007-08-21 02:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Aren't mother-in-laws just great ?!
Gotta run your life even though they can't run their own.
I use to let mine whine about this or that and just not respond (hard to do at first but it gets easier with practice).
After awhile I got free of her and her son in TN, then moved to AZ.
2007-08-22 15:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Karen B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does anyone's mother in law completely ignore you like you are invisible
2014-07-07 07:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully she will come around,especially if that's the only child, she will come around if nothing but for her grand child
keep her supplied with pictures of that precious grand son
2007-08-21 02:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that seems to be HER problem, doesn't it?
i wish you and your little family well.....
some people can't live and let live, hon... take care
2007-08-21 02:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋