One of my friend is going to marry in Oct n her in-laws saying that she had to respect elders by keeping ghunghat at home. Though she is going to be housewife for time being...but now she is totally confused and tense.
2007-08-21 01:39:27 · 17 answers · asked by Tilak 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
for what she is confused of marriage or of giving respect to elders
if she is confused for marriage than she has to decide fast
and if she is confused for ghunghat culture than that cn be change if she want to an educated girl cn do any thing with love and care i hav full confidence on educated girls who know how to change rule by different way
so ask the truth dear of her confusion
2007-08-22 05:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by priya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to inform her inlaws that the ghunghat is a islamic tradition and not a hindu one. If the are hindu, then it not very hindu of them to follow islamic traditions. Make sure she has enough research to support the cause. Also how can one repect elders by wearing ghunghat. Respect is a two-way street. They should respect her decision.
2007-08-23 03:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by healingarden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the in-laws are orthodox or staying in a village, it is possible they want her to wear ghunghat. But if they are staying in a city, then she has to make them understand that its not always possible. If she gives in now, she will have to keep doing this all her life. If they say she should do this for few days after marriage as she will be a new dulhan, then maybe its fine because there is nothing else she can do now since her marriage is already fixed and all. So I guess she has to agree unless she wants to take her stand and fight with them. That will help only if her husband supports her. Otherwise she is going to be known as the bad d-i-l. So its her decision. If its for few days, she might as well do it. But if its forever, then she has to fight for herself.
2007-08-21 10:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by SS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in 21st century also people do have conservative thoughts but now she is the one how can change this in her would be family. she can ask her in-laws directly or if she doesn't want to go against in open way so that for life time she is been given a label of rebel in her in laws place. ask her to take things the other way. after marriage drop ghunghat again n again, if some one says anything, put it back and tell them "i couldn't control it, it falls itself", but sweetly.then drop it again after few min. after some time they will notice u don't put it, they themselves will stop saying u. and no arguments or bad impression at all.
2007-08-23 17:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK DEAR ITS DEFINITELY GOOD TO PAY RESPECT WHERE REQUIRED AND I'M NOT DENYING THE FACT,BUT IF HER IN LAWS WANT TO BE SO STRICT BOUND TO HER THEN ITS COMPLETELY WRONG AND THEY MUST UNDERSTAND THIS BECAUSE SHE IS NO LESS THAN A DAUGHTER TO THEM NOW SO SHE SHOULD MAKE IT CLEAR TO THEM THAT SHE WILL RESPECT THE CULTURE AND HER IN LAWS SANS THE GHUNGHAT AND THEY SHOULD RESPECT HER CHOICE OF NOT WEARING ONE ALL THE TIME IN RETURN!!!
2007-08-21 08:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by suzanne s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whis is the way of respecting yelders in Indian society. Also her in-laws sayed that she should keep the ghungat infront of yelders only but beyound that she is free.
Those are some of the tradations only which we should obay. In office also we obay some good manners shuch as we stand other side when some higher authority is moving around.
2007-08-23 02:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sachin Belokar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is true that pardapratha in India is very old tradition.but at the same time with the change of time this wrong tradition is vanishing day by day. now a days in our progressive culture the educated class is against this kuriti. it is not necessary to wear ghonghat to pay respect to your in laws you should not accept this condition and very clearly convey your feeling to your would be in laws well in advance.otherwise your married life would be miserable
2007-08-21 09:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by guddu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya its ok...we all know that we SHOULD respect the elders. the in-laws are respectable...but its wrong if they force her to do anything. she should talk about it with her going-to-be husband and the in-laws before the marriage. the husband will be a strong support at this. she'll have to talk to the in-laws and politely make her position clear. i think its important that she has that discussion done BEFORE the marriage...or there may be misunderstandings.
2007-08-21 09:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by Wonderful 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as she lives with in-laws she should respect the elders, maybe later she and husband can live seperately and she can dress as she pleases and her husband agrees to the dressing.
In life we always have restrictions, and how well we carry ourselves in spite of the restrictions, gives real meaning to our existences.
2007-08-23 02:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her 2 discuss 'bout it widd da in laws
2007-08-21 08:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by anshika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋