I've caught chalmydia and i have a girlfriend what can i do?

Question

I have a girlfriend, do i tell her? how do i tell her? can i test her without her knowing? can i treat her without her knowing? someone please help

Answer 1

Sorry buddy, you're screwed. It can be much more damaging to her than to you... And I can promise you that she will find out... so tell her and get it cleared up... It's tough, I'm sure it is. And it will do no good to tell you that you should keep it in your pants because with the question at hand... i'm guessing morals aren't real high up on the to-do list. Just look at it like this... you've learned a lesson... let's hope.

Answer 2

1. You will need to tell her that you have tested positive for Chlamydia and that she will need to go get tested and then treated, if needed. There is no other way. You are old enough, apparently, to have sex and therefore now you must behave like a grown up and deal with ALL the issues that go with the responsibility of a sex life. No, you cannot "treat" her without her knowing it and that is an extremely immature, "naughty child" way of thinking. You behaved wrongly toward your girlfriend and now you must learn your lesson.

2. Depending on how she feels, you will most likely not have a girlfriend after you tell her. You didn't actually want one anyway because you wouldn't have had sex with someone else whilst you are with your "girlfriend". It is logical.

3. You have learned a valuable lesson that you should have known anyway. ALWAYS USE A CONDOM. You got off lucky if Chlamydia was all that you contracted because if you continue to behave irresponsibly then there's always:

Gonnorhea
Syphillis
HIV
Crabs
Herpes
Thrush
Bacterial infections
Trichomonasis
Hepatitis

And who knows what hasn't even been labelled as of yet.

4. Until you can behave like a grown up you can either (a) not have sex anymore or (b) not bring anyone else, ie; those you refer to as your "girlfriend", into your irresponsible life choices.

Both of you will need to be treated.

Answer 3

If you haven't been treated yet.. go and get treated.. if you have had sex YOU MUST TELL HER NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So she can be treated ASAP.......... Chalmydia can lead to her becoming sterile if left untreated which I am sure you know and all she needs is antibotics. You are going to have to be a man about this and let her know upfront. If you have had no sexual contact, then there is no reason to share this with her, but get treated first.. make sure you are clean.. and then wear a condom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Please take a look at this link.

http://www.drdaveanddee.com/chlamydia.html

My advice to you is to never ever ever deceive the partner you are with because once you do, you will never ever have that partner long term. Once trust and honesty are out of the relationship it can't lost long after that. You cannot treat her. She must get to her own doctor.. I am begging you for her sake you must do the right thing!!!

Answer 4

Its nothing to worry about but you need to tell your missus now, that way you can both get tested and cured. If you dont tell her and just get cured yourself then she is just going to give it you back the next time you have sex. Its a simple week long course of anti biotics to get rid of it. No fuss, but if you dont tell her there is a good chance she (and you) could both end up in-fertile as if it is left it blocks up your reproductive tubes.

There is a chance that you got it from her, or that you got it from an ex and already had it when you got with your current girlfriend (it can go un noticed for ages as it doesnt always give off symptoms). The only thing you have to worry about is if you got it from a bit on the side in which case you deserve to be dumped by your girl. Plus you have the indignity of seeking out the bit on the side to tell her she has the clap.
Whatever the circumstances, get down to the c0ck doc and get it taken care of,
EDIT. There are a lot of assumptions going around. Where did he say that he cheated?

Answer 5

What a little weasel - not only do you cheat but you don't even bother to wear a condom?!, urgh!

You should tell her straight away and then hopefully she can dump your cheating ***.

Grow up, be a man and face your responsibilities - I'm sure you were'nt this meak when you were putting it about...

Answer 6

im a girl, and i know first hand (cause ive been thru that), ill tell you my story and then give some tips that should help you

basically i was with my boyfriend for 2 years, then oneday i started getting these horrible pains down there and weird abnormal discharge, so i went to the doctor.....and then i got the test results and i had chlymadia, and my ******** boyfriend was in another state and i couldnt contact him for days, and when i told him, he was a dick to me....i should have left him then but i didnt anyway.....

i never felt that he really understood the hurt, the pain (physical and emotional) that i went through...and that hurt me

so i would

1. be straight up and honest, tell her that you found out you got it, if you didnt cheat on her, say that you made a stupid mistake and should have got tested before you guys got together. (i dunno if your a bit of a player, if you picked it up there or if it was from a last gf)

the whole honnesty and truth thing is important cause if your honest and if everything falls apart at least she will think your a nice honest guy and that wont hurt her and she wont think your the devil for the rest of her life.

2. be support, go to the doctor with her...
you cant test her yourself, get her to get a urine test or a swab test for it


3. listen to her, let her talk about her feelings and emotions, be there for her

4. are you sorry? i think you should be? be sorry, show your remorse

5. if the relationship falls apart let her go, let her be..dont make things worse...


well hopefully her experience wont be as bad as mine was....treatment is really simple...just go to the doctor and they give you 2 tablets... or like me.. i had a 2 week course of tablets because my symtoms were so bad...
so really it's fairly easy to fix... it's just the emotional hurt

of course you tell her, tell her in person: tell her you found out you have chlamydia and that she should get checked too and that your very sorry (if she thinks you cheated just reassure her and say that you might have or probably got it from your last gf and that you regret not getting a health check after you were with her and that you've learnt a big lesson now), no you cant test her without her knowing, no you cant treat her without her knowing (lol that would be drugging her and that aint cool)

good luck.....i hope you've learnt something out of this, cause the **** that i went through with my ex i can only hope that something was learnt out of it

so in future use condoms if your sleeping with random people....i didnt and i should have....but i was in a committed relationship of 2 years... i guess i was wrong

always get a check up, after you have ended a relationship, or if you sleep around i think its recommened to get checked every 3 months

the manly thing to do is tell her the truth, to be strong have the guts and the heart to be honest, you wont regret being a good honest person....

be careful in future cause if you get it again it could damage your fertility (that is especially for the girls who are just reading this)

i hope that has been helpful to you, good luck, hope your girlfriend is ok, i think if you follow the above you and her should get through it ok

i hope at least after my experience, i can help with info...that all the horrible stuff i went through maybe now has a reason, if that is helping other people go through it.....it can be scary....can hurt you emotionally and also physically...and can be hell for a relationship....but you get through it and things get better...even if that means not being with that person you gave it to or the person you got it from....

Answer 7

you need to tell her asap.
and if she doesnt dump you you should leave her...you obviously didnt have enough respect for her to
1/ be with just her
2/ use protection while playing away
3/ tell her before anyone else

you know what though? chlamydia can go undetected for years, and if she has not had regular sexual health checks then it is possible that you caught it from her.
chances are she is going to have contracted it anyway but needs to be tested and treated...you could always work through it if she beleives there has not been any unfaithfulness on your part, but i wouldnt beleive you.

Answer 8

You need treatment and so does she if you've been sexually active. You cannot treat her on your own because you probably don't understand biochemisty well enough to competently watch for contra-indications (plus it's illegal to treat anyone without their consent or without medical credentials to allow it). So protect her by telling her right away and get yourselves down to the clinic as soon as possible.

Answer 9

Be honest with her, she has a right to know about something that may affect her. Hopefully you've learned your lesson.

Answer 10

You cant test her without her knowing, and you cant treat her without knowing, firstly i would get yourself to the local Genito Urinary medicine Clinic, and get yourself tested if you havent done so already, if your are past that stage, then by all rights you need to tell her, and if you caught it of someone else then duck, cause there could be a flying object coming your way soon